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Negative People Bore Me To Tears: A Moment With Bill Reflection

Updated on May 4, 2013

THE SUNNY SIDE OF LIFE

"The teacher asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I said happy. She told me that I didn't understand the assignment. I told her she didn't understand life." John Lennon

I have to tell you that I love that quote by John Lennon. Talk about having his priorities straight as a child….oh, if it were only that simple, right?

Well, it is!

Life is good!

If you don’t think so then try the alternative.

Life is good!

I first heard those words twenty years ago. They came from Little Joe, a man who befriended me at Alcoholics Anonymous when I was first starting on my own personal road of recovery. At the time he had about thirty years of sobriety, and every single time I saw him he would say that life was good.

After awhile I began to wonder if he was delusional. Was it possible that he simply did not have problems in his life? Was he never sick? Was he never short of money? Did he never argue with his wife and did he never have a car break down?

Well, it turned out that all of those things happened to him, and more, but to him all of those little problems were just a part of life. We all have ups and downs. We all have highs and lows. Still, the central message that Little Joe was delivering was that life is a banquet, and we can either move our chair to the table and feast on it all, or we can walk away and allow the food to spoil.

Life is good!

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HAVE YOU EVER KNOWN THIS PERSON?

“Hey, how ya doing today?”

“I’d be great if the wife would just quit nagging me. I love her and all, but what a pain-in-the-ass she can be.”

“Hey, how’s it going today?”

“Aw, it’s a shit day man. The dog puked on the rug, gas prices are up and I just stubbed my damn toe.”

“Hey, buddy, what’s happening today?”

“I should have never gotten out of bed. I swear, there are days when I wonder if it’s worth it at all to try.”

I don’t know about you but I meet that person every single day of my life. He/she is everywhere I turn, walking down the street with a permanent dark cloud hovering above them. Spend five minutes with them and you suddenly find yourself depressed and not nearly as happy as you were before you met them.

Do you know one of them?

In truth they bore me to tears!

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KICKIN’ AND A SCREAMIN’

We come into this life wailing like the Wailers, and we go out of life just about the same way. In-between those two polar opposites of our life span we find life, and it is what we do with those twenty, forty, sixty or eighty years that really counts.

I am amused, and a little bit saddened, by people who make these marvelous plans for the future but fail to appreciate today. I don’t know about you but I don’t see any guarantees in this thing called life. My dad dropped dead when he was forty-nine. One minute he and I were watching Johnny Carson and the next minute he was gone.

If I could talk to him right now, and ask him if he had regrets, I am fairly certain he would say no. My dad lived life today. He squeezed every ounce of life out of every single day, and he lived life, for the most part, with a smile on his face. If he could have been interviewed after his death I’m sure he would have said that, although not pleased with having died so young, he greatly enjoyed his time on Earth and he made the most of that time.

How many of you can say the same thing?

Life is a gift!

When I finally decided to sober up in 2006 and give up alcohol once and for all, I did not do it because I was afraid to die. I did not do it because I was afraid I would lose everything if I continued to drink, and I did not do it because I wanted my family happy.

I sobered up and changed my life because I was tired of being sick and tired, and I wanted to enjoy this gift of life.

And by God I am!

I live by a very simple credo today and I call it PIPO…..Positive In/Positive Out.

In other words, I think positive thoughts and as a result my actions are positive.

I don’t know how much time I have left on this planet. I cheated death once, so I really don’t have a clue how much further I can push my luck. Knowing that, I think it might be a good idea to push aside negative thoughts and enjoy the hell out of the time I have left.

Yes, negative people bug the hell out of me, because they have lost sight of the great gift they have been given.

The more one does and sees and feels, the more one is able to do, and the more genuine may be one's appreciation of fundamental things like home, and love, and understanding companionship.
Amelia Earhart

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HOME, LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING COMPANIONSHIP

There you have it, and the most beautiful of these is love. That is what I have to be grateful for, and they are with me daily, and as long as I continue to marvel in them as true gifts, the easier it is for me to remain happy and positive.

But what of those who have no home? What of those who have no companionship or food to eat or who are crippled and incapable of living life without pain?

A little over a year ago I was doing a paper route in the middle of the night. My route consisted of grocery stores and newspaper machines, and I would drive around for four or five hours, seven nights per week, and deliver the news. Let me tell you that you meet some rather interesting people on the streets at three a.m., and one of them stands out in my memory.

He was a homeless vet. His name was Arnie, and I would see him pushing his grocery cart, filled with his possessions, each night. One night Arnie was at a mom & pop store when I pulled up, and he asked me if I had a spare newspaper. I figured he wanted one to read to help pass away the night, so I gave him one of my day-old papers. He insisted on paying for it. He said he was going to use the paper to clean windshields and make some money so he could buy a meal, and since the newspaper was being used for his “job” he didn’t feel right taking it for free.

Blow me away!

Then he told me to have a great day and he said “God bless you” as I was leaving.

Blow me away!

This was a homeless veteran. If anyone had a right to be bitter and feel cheated, Arnie was that person. I later found out that he had served eight years in Iraq and came back wounded. He had no family and couldn’t get benefits that he needed, so he ended up on the streets….and he wished me a great day!

My best friend has Alzheimer’s. He is fifty-two years of age. You know what he says when he sees you? Have a nice day, and he smiles when he says it, and he means it.

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NEGATIVE PEOPLE BORE ME

Yes, they do!

Listen, I understand hard times. Been there, done that, and I ain’t writing the book. I understand being hungry. I understand being homeless and I understand losing hope.

I also understand that if ever there was a dead-end street in life that negativity is it.

Things will never get better if I am mired in my own self-pity. Things will never get better if I see the negatives in life as the only truths that exist.

On the other hand, each and every time I focus on the positives I find happiness.

Now Daddy didn’t raise no fool, so if I have no shot at happiness when I am negative, and I do have a shot at happiness when I am positive, which way do you suppose I am going to live my life?

You got it…..PIPO!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well, Paula, I'm glad the hiding session is over. She me the negative asshole and I'll have a chat with them. :) I'd like nothing better than to mix it up with them today.

      Sending you a brotherly hug and sincere thanks.

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      "Negative people".....those I privately refer to as, "The Woe is Me, Gang."

      I am not going to comment per what's going through this wicked mind of mine, at the moment.

      I would just like to explain that I probably missed this hub until now...because I was hiding, with my ears plugged and my eyes shut.....after running from yet another negative asshole!

      Great POSITIVE hub, bro......UP+++

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Express, I can live with that. Running away means you get rid of them and exercise at the same time. LOL Thanks for a great comment; I would have liked your father. :)

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      H C Palting 4 years ago from East Coast

      I don't know if I liked the quote by Amelia Earhart or John Lennon better. They are both strikingly true. Speaking of truth, this hub tells it like it is. Some of them don't even want to be nudged with a positive comment or talk of good fortune that has come your way. Like you, my daddy "didn't raise no fool" either. Rather than boring me to tears, negative people make me run in the opposite direction.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      They do indeed, kitkat! :) Thank you for sharing that.

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      kitkat1141 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Life is way too short to be around negative people. I completely agree with you, positive thoughts bring positive experiences.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kathi, thank you so much. It has been a very good day and I hope yours has been as well.

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      Kathi 4 years ago from Saugatuck Michigan

      All I can think of to say is touche' and have a good day dear Billy!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Beatris, what a lovely thing for you to write. Thank you very much. You touched me with that comment.

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      beatris 4 years ago

      I must congratulate you. This was one of your best articles so far. You got something so unique. Your soul always seem to reach the surface. Thank you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, I've been miserable and it was no fun at all. I much prefer this way of life. Thank you my friend.

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      We can be happy if we choose to be. It is as simple as that. I sure don't want to be miserable.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Seafarer, what a great comment. There is a hub in your comment alone and I hope you write it. I can relate totally to what you have said here and I say bravo to you for following the path you are on. Way to go my friend.

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      Karen Szklany Gault 4 years ago from New England

      Great hub about the power of a positive attitude. When one wants to walk the path of love and happiness, those who love to talk negatively about others dampen the fun...and I try to excuse myself from their presence asap....and not internalize their energy.

      It's amazing how many people judge others by what their careers are...and what they do for work, when that may be a small piece of who they really are. We'll never know until we gain their trust and reach out to know them on a deeper level.

      I weave together odd jobs, have a blast home-schooling my daughter (what I do to use my M.Ed. in elementary education), and volunteer as much as I can. There's so much one can learn by lending a hand to others...even with no experience in the task at hand.

      I love the life I am living today. It may not be on a million-dollar career path, but I am happy...happier than I ever imagine I'd be/become when I was a teen. Who we touch and inspire will ripple into the next generation....and the next....and that is what matters most, in my book! :0)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Good morning Shelley and thank you for taking the time to comment on this subject that I feel strongly about. Have a very positive day my friend.

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      Shelley Watson 4 years ago

      Well written article again. I feel sorry or negative people who are always waiting for 'if' or 'when' to happen before they can be happy. They miss so much of the now!

      Up, interesting and useful.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Anna, I love it.....life is short, time is precious....true words there my friend.

      Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Beth, you mentioned the hardest part of this positive gig. Yes, life can be overwhelming, and during those times it is almost impossible to be positive. That is when a good friend knows it is time to step in with encouragement.

      Thank you and I hope your week is a good one.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Chitrangada, I am so happy to hear that you raise your children in a positive attitude. They will need it as they go out into this world. Blessings and thanks to you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Levertis, great example about that co-worker. Positive people can life up an entire room, or business, or school...ti is contagious and I believe in it strongly. Thank you for a great comment and for visiting again.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Doc, I am what I am because of my past experiences. Thank you for your concern but I love my life and the lessons I have learned. Life is good my friend and will continue to be so as long as I am receptive to the goodness.

      blessings to you my dear,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Whonu, you stated it perfectly. I am a huge believer in the healing power of the brain, and I think it extends to our physical health as well.

      Thank you my friend and have a great week.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Joe, time is short today. I took on an editing job and although the money is great I fear I might be stretching myself a bit thin, LOL Apologies are not necessary. I appreciate it whenever you show up. You always take the time to leave meaningful comments and for that I salute you....in fact, I salute you in today's hub. :)

      Aloha buddy

      bill

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      Anna Haven 4 years ago from Scotland

      True words written well, as always!

      I avoid negative people, time is precious and should be filled with as much happiness as possible. Some people actually suck all the joy out of the air when they walk in the room with their 'woe is me' attitude.

      Life is short, time is precious and everyday should be savoured.

      You nailed it, believe in the good stuff and you are always half a step closer to it, even on a bad day :)

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      Beth37 4 years ago

      PIPO... I will try to remember that. I wish I could make everyone around me positive. Im a pretty up person, but life can be overwhelming at times. There is a difference between those that just like to complain and those that desperately need someone who will care... or take a moment to listen. It's probably a fine line knowing when to kick someone in the pants and when to give them a shoulder to cry on. Thanks for sharing your insights... so good, as always.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

      A very important point made by you in this hub! I do believe in the idea of being always positive and I have trained my children also to be the same.

      It is our inner strength and positive approach only, which can pull us out of an adverse or unfavorable situation.

      Very nice thoughts about being positive! Thanks!

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      Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

      A new person on the job where I once worked placed a sign near her door that read, "If you have anything negative to say, stay out!" Some employees chose not to say anything to her for several days because they were insulted. Although I was not guiltless of having been negative, I understood her point. She soon proved to be a helpful, loving, and loyal friends to everyone. She was one of the first to get a promotion. At this moment she is hoping to win an executive position that I feel is practically "in the bag." So, positivity goes a long way.

      I pulled the quotes below from a few of your commentators' posts. It is not good to allow negative people to have this much control, although negative people do cause these effects. I suppose this has to be overcome too.

      "Negative people do suck the energy out of me."

      "That negative energy sucks the life out of everyone."

      "Negative people drain the joy out of life and all those around them."

      "Great reminder, Mr. B. Negative people take the energy out of you."

      "negative people bore me also. I can hardly stand there and be civil to them"

      "Negative people bore me to tears, too."

      This is a useful hub that should help many readers to spend time practicing positive behaviors.

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Awesome hub with a powerful message here. A positive attitude makes all the difference in the world. Bill, I come across these negative nellies on a regular basis too. When you ask them how they are, their reply is same shit different day. You've been through a lot and yet you do keep a positive outlook on life which is great. I didn't know you were homeless at some point. I'm very sorry to hear this. Nobody deserves to go hungry. Have a great week:) PIPO

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Pearl my friend. The weather has been fabulous and my mood matches it. :) Have a great week.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Sue! I did have a great weekend and it was filled with PIPO.

      Enjoy your week!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Christy, I love it...get the light out there! Thank you my friend. Keep up your great work.

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      whonunuwho 4 years ago from United States

      Bill if we live in a positive way and think that way, we will accomplish all that we want and then some in this life. It becomes a part of each breath we take. The same applies to negativism. A good example is a Marine in the service of his country. Have you ever seen a negative Marine? They think positively and make the best of every situation.There can never be enough said about the fact that our brains are equipped with healing abilities and an innate capacity in making accomplishments to boggle the mind. We can be all that we want to be, our thinking has a lot to do with this and our living, breathing attitudes. Nice work my friend and I'm in full agreement with your message. Thanks for sharing this when we need it the most. whonu

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      Sueswan 4 years ago

      Hi Bill,

      Negative people do suck the energy out of me. They lack gratitude. I get down at times but I give my self a PIPO talk instead of complain to others.

      Hope you had a wonderful weekend. :) Voted up +++ and sharing.

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      Connie Smith 4 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

      Billy, I am with you. Negative people drain the joy out of life and all those around them. I'm determined to 'feed the happy, positive and joyful wolf'. So I make it a habit to surround myself with those who keep things in perspective but still see the good in everything, like you my friend! Voted Up+++

      I hope you enjoy your beautiful spring weather as much as I am enjoying our blue-sky-sunny-warm days ;) Pearl

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      Christy Birmingham 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Bill!! This is one of my fave hubs of yours. Thank-you for putting into words what I feel so strongly. People who have so little to complain about seem to be a never-ending record of negativity. Let's get the light out there and keep shining! Vote up and Awesome!! Sharing too

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 4 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      Hi, Bill! I apologize for being late to the party, but I sure am glad I came! And there's even some cake and ice cream left! You guys are awesome! : )

      Suspending the levity for just a few seconds, I want you to know where I took this Hub, Bill. I took it straight to the man in the mirror. Most of the time, I'm a very positive guy. But there are times I'm crabbier than a crustacean just realizing the water's getting hotter. And it's usually the person I'm closest to, my wife, who gets the brunt of my whiny passive-aggressive self. I felt ashamed when I read the part about the homeless veteran...and then the gentleman with Alzheimer's. Wow! I have no room to wallow in self-pity.

      Just wanted to share this moment of being real with you. I respect the heck out of you, my friend. We're human; we're fallible. At the same time, we're capable of making great changes in our lives. I know this for a fact, and when we sit and have coffee together someday, we'll truly get a better understanding of how we've each mellowed over the last few decades.

      So, thank you for writing this essay, my friend, because we all need a gentle confrontation every now and then...and who better to give and to receive than a trusted friend. Have a productive, memorable, and positive week! I commit to that expectation as well! Aloha, Bill!

      Joe

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jackie, they are free and totally enjoyable. Yes, there are times when it is almost impossible to be positive...I've been there too....but I much prefer being positive.

      Thank you my friend. Have a great week!

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kindred, you move well considering the weight of that fence. LOL I'm thrilled that you took the time from your hectic life to visit me. Thank you my dear friend.

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Joe sounds like my youngest brother and although I do try to be positive some people are just better at it. You are right though, what fun is being negative all the time and who wants to be around anyone like that? All the beautiful things in life are free aren't they?

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      drbj, I love that old adage and it is very true indeed. Have a PIPO week my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Insightful...brother mentor is much better than grandfather mentor. LOL Seriously, thank you very much.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      LK, I learn from all of you as well. That's why I love HP. Thank you for your kind words.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Heidi, we never know when we are going to learn a valuable lesson, do we? Arnie will remain with me always.

      Thank you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Stephanie, for sure things could always be worse. I love your attitude and thank you for sharing it with everyone who meets you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cat, what a lovely gift that is. Thank you! Now, go rest that jaw and relax. :)

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      Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

      Kindred, an excellent piece you have written here. I carry a six foot privacy fence around to keep out negative people. If that doesn't work, I threaten with the baseball bat. lol Life is too short to get mired in negative energy and I like my space to be happy, happy, happy. Great job!

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      drbj and sherry 4 years ago from south Florida

      I agree with you, Bill, 1000 %! PIPO is the only way to live. Any other way is NOT living. What's that ancient old adage with much meaning? Yesterday is history, tomorrow is mystery. Today is a gift - that's why we call it the present. Enjoy it!

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      Insightful Tiger 4 years ago

      I dub thee sir "brother mentor" from this day forth. I liked it too:)

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      LKMore01 4 years ago

      You captured my attention with the John Lennon quote and the article only got better. How many times can we thank you for sharing your wisdom? PIPO, love it!

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      Heidi Thorne 4 years ago from Chicago Area

      The Arnie story is incredible! A businessman at heart. Hope he can find a way to bring that mindset into a job or business that gets him a home.

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      stephanieb27 4 years ago from United States

      I like that, PIPO! We live that way too! When something bad happens, we always remind ourselves it could be worse. Life is what you make it! :)

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Billy,

      I couldn't agree more! Ultimately, we have choices, we choose to be happy or we choose not to be. It might not seem it and sometimes seeing above the negative might be hard. But ya know, it's a little easier to cope with the negative when we hang out on the positive side. What kind of living is it when everything's such a drag? I'm going to force myself to smile all day... even when my jaw hurts and my cheeks are pulsating... and I will dedicate this day to you! :-)

      Cat

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cat, I love your observation that there are tough times in every generation. Amazing how ours always seem like the worst. LOL Stay a goofball. We need more like you my friend. And yes, misery loves company, and I find people feed off of each other's misery, and that is just a sick practice. We need to feed off of each other's positive energy and see if that works better.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Rasma! I think you would have liked my dad. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lurana, I was told once that we all have built-in forgetters. LOL I know it's true for me. I find something that works for me and then I forget about it.....such a simple lesson and one I have to remind myself of constantly.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Phoenix, I love that....life is like that sometimes. Indeed it is, and we all go into funks and I understand that. Like you, however, I found I bored myself to tears when all I did was concentrate on the negative. :) Thanks for that perspective.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Martin, an interesting perspective. Thank you for that observation.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzy, I wake up to a Bob Marley quote...what a great way to start my day. :) Smile often my friend and have a great day. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Very true words, Vkwok....very true indeed.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Vinaya! I have dabbled in it as well and it drains me to be negative. I will never return to those days. Each day is a gift and it is up to us to enjoy it.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Honesty, you got that right my friend, and I have heard it so many times. Wake up and marvel at the sounds of nature and yet again another chance to enjoy this thing called life. :) Thank you for stopping by. It's always nice to see you here.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Billy,

      Well you did it again! Boy oh boy it's a damn shame we lost Lennon when we did, he was wise beyond his years, but you very much echo some of his passions... perhaps you are the modern day Lennon! Now, just sing me a little "Imagine", need not worry about pitch, I'll enjoy it just the same :-)

      You're so right, as you always are Billy! I have to admit, we are living in "rough" times, but every generation does... it needn't define us or dictate how we live though does it? This past winter months, it seemed everyone I was around... including myself, just bitched about one thing or another, to no end! We all jump on each other's bandwagons and compare or compete with who has it worse... then I decided I didn't want to bitch anymore and I didn't want to be subjected to listening to other's do it either. I actually was having a conversation with my father, who was quite down and I said that we can sit around and bitch about all the little things and just "hate" life and our circumstances and become the master of the mope or we can appreciate that we have shelter, full bellies and healthy loved ones... kind of puts things into perspective, especially when so many don't have the basic essentials. Moods are contagious and it works in every direction... that's why I enjoy being a goofball, if only to pull someone out of a negative mood for a moment. If I'm around negative... it becomes a part of me, positive, the same. It's funny, sometimes you're frustrated with your significant other and try giving the temporary cold shoulder or not be overly loving for a moment, but then you are in the company of someone who is in a good mood and you're forced to give up the charade :-)

      Awesome hub Billy!

      Cat

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Inspirational Bill. Your dad sure was a wise man cause tomorrows are not promised to anyone. Life must be lived to the fullest and enjoyed. Thanks for the positive thoughts. Passing this on.

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      Lurana Brown 4 years ago from Chicagoland, Illinois

      Thank you for sharing more positivity! I like that Lennon quote. I also like another really simple one about happiness from Leo Tolstoy: "If you want to be happy, be." I need to remember this stuff when I'm feeling down though. That's the trick. :-)

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      I definitely know people like this. I used to be one of them. I was boring myself. Over the years I've taught myself to be more positive. My problems are nothing new under the sun and constantly harping about them won't make them go away. I still have occasional problems; life is like that. But now I see them as challenges and I don't like to lose. Each problem solved is a confidence boost for me.

      Have I tried to encourage others to focus more on the good in their life? Yes. Do they listen? Not always. It's an ongoing project.

      Life is like that sometimes.

      Fabulous hub as usual, Bill. I'm off to get photos of a Mama swan I found sitting on a nest. Hopefully I can get some shots before Papa swan spots me.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      At that oil company we were brainwashed to take negativity out of our work-life. That company makes tons of money.

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      Liz Davis 4 years ago from Hudson, FL

      Sorry I'm late.

      A wise man named Bob Marley once said, "Speak happiness, it's sad enough without your woes. Come on and speak of love, it's sad enough without your foes."

      Life is hard and we all struggle. We might as well lift each other up rather than make things worse.

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      Victor W. Kwok 4 years ago from Hawaii

      Just focusing on one side of a coin is never enough to fully understand it. Like coins, a world has two sides. One is light, the other dark. It's never okay to just focus on the bad, but neither is it okay to just ignore it completely. Where there is light, there is always dark. And where there is always dark, there is always light.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Billy,

      As a juvenile reader, I took much interest in Nihilism. I was kind of nihilist until I was in the early twenties. I'm fascinated by the discussion on this philosophy. However, when it comes to judge people by their perception and their take on life, I dislike people who are negative.

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      Cathy 4 years ago from Louisiana, Idaho, Kauai, Nebraska, South Dakota, Missouri

      Great reminder, Mr. B. Negative people take the energy out of you. Love your Lennon quote. It's so easy to be positive and it's so easy to complain, so to make the best choice, a person has to understand the effects of each behavior as well as the influences. I never will understand why out of all the things we do have choice over, why a person will choose to get up in the morning and start in on the complaining. Saying, "I'm not a morning person," is a cop out and a choice. Thumbs up on your hub and your best friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Maria! My friend is as good a man as I have ever known and there will be a hole in my heart when he passes on.

      Blessings and love to you,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Larry, good to see you and thank you.

      My dad had an instant reply for me if I ever said I was bored....he would pull out the chore list and I'd be working in no time flat. LOL I learned to find things to do. :)

      I love Ann Arbor. It is everything that you say it is. I hope you are having a great weekend my friend and thank you for stopping by.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Maria, I love that Bible passage. Thank you for sharing it and may your every day be filled with laughter and happiness. Thank you my friend.

      blessings always,

      bill

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Bill,

      I never appreciated how old your best buddy is...wow, that hits me close to home. And people like him, and his best buddy Bill...remind me to appreciate the nice in every day!

      Beautiful, like you. Love, Maria

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dora, I love that saying...tomorrow looks like a great day to me. Thank you for sharing that.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Pickles....Lennon was a bit ahead of his time, don't you think? What wisdom for a school kid.

      I appreciate you stopping by. Have a PIPO Sunday!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PS, thank you for the lofty praise. This one wrote itself and I had very little to do with it. :) Funny how that happens from time to time.

      blessings and a hug coming your way

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary...that's why they call it a present! I love that line and I've never heard it.

      Give that granddaughter a hug for me. She is a miracle baby and she puts things in perspective real fast, doesn't she?

      Sending a hug your way.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      SG...fne as a frog's hair.....what a great line. I might have to borrow that one if you don't mind.

      Thanks for bringing a smile to my face.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Ruby for sharing. I love it when people tell me that I have inspired them...that's a high for this writer.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pamela, I have heard the same saying......there will be times we suffer, but if we choose to live in misery because of it well then so be it.

      Today I choose to be happy.

      Thank you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Annie! You see some people who have been through hell and they are still smiling....kind of puts things in perspective real fast. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bill, I know what you are saying. The vet and I formed somewhat of a friendship over the months and he was a delight to know. He was a haunted man but still always positive and cheery.

      Thanks buddy! Have a great Sunday.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, spoken like the wonderful person that you are. Love...where would we be without it, eh???

      Thank you my dear. I hope your weekend is joyous.

      blessings,

      bill

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      Larry Kitzmann 4 years ago

      Once again Bill another great hub. I stay away from boring and negative people to the extent possible. I couldn't believe when I was consulting in Colorado Springs that anyone could be bored living there, yet there they were. I mean you had Garden of the Gods and a hundred other incredible places for hiking or just being in nature. How could one possibly be bored in such a paradise. Yet some of my fellow teachers complained of being bored, nothing to do blah blah blah. I couldn't believe it. Now back in Ann Arbor I love going back on campus watching and listening to the students on campus. Just going out for a walk on the way to campus there are birds in the trees to see and hear, there are all kinds of people from different countries because of the university. One can not be possibly bored in such an environment. I remember Leo Buscaglia going crazy when a student would tell him there was nothing to do. There was a man who knew how to live life to the max. I promised myself a long time ago I would not get caught up in other's negativity. Life is to short and the future is given to no one. If you find life to be boring or filled with negativity that says more about you than it does about the world around you. NO the world is not perfect, not by a long shot. Yet being negative about things won't do anything to make it better. If you don't like things the way they are, then get off your butt and do something to help change it. If you can't at least do that then shut up and stop complaining. Thanks for the opportunity to go on my own little rant here. As always take care my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, thank you my good friend. I need to talk to you...I'll drop you a message soon.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cyndi, you surprised me...what are you doing roaming around HP? LOL Kale chips sound pretty good about now...I'm hungry and I think I'll break for dinner after a full day in the sun. Thanks lil' Sis and have a great evening.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Insightful...you made me smile with the "brother mentor" reference. I am honored my friend and I hope you are smiling today.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rolly my friend, good to see you. Yes, we all have down moments but my God, why feed off of them? I'm running out of time. I think I'll smile as often as possible while I'm here.

      Thanks buddy and have a great day.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Suzette, thank you and I, too, have a hard time being civil with negative people. They are stealing my happy. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      rebekah....now there is a truth...every day is a bonus day. I love that! Thanks for sharing it; I might steal it occasionally. LOL

      Thank you for the visit.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kathryn, I have had to distance myself from such people. It's not worth it to me to remain active friends. All that negativity and to what purpose???

      Thank you my friend. I hope you are having a great weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Manatita! I am flattered my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rajan, you said ti so well...life returns to us what we give it. There is a mantra I know you live by.

      Thank you as always!

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      Dora Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      The older I get, the more I appreciate the points you make in this article. My philosophy is that if today is good, tomorrow stands the chance of being better. Today is good!

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Wow! I hardly go into my email and when I do I land into one of your hubs. I understand what you are saying here perfectly. The sad part is when you want to stay positive beyond circumstances and others just want to drag you down into their negativism. How sad when you laugh and others will try their best to put a tear before going to bed. We have victory and nothing will take it away. The Bible has a verse that is deep in my heart and moments like these it is what helps me most:

      Philippians 4:8

      Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.

      Thanks Bill, this helped!

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      picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      I love that John Lennon quote too and will have to remember PIPO. We have always agreed on being positive. You wrote a very good hub on the topic!

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      Bill

      Just when I think I have chosen your BEST hub or my favorite you write this....Amen, Awesome and all of the superlatives that I can think of you write this....

      Life IS Good...that's all you needed to say...reflect, take stock, and know that life is indeed one unbelievable adventure after another...and if we pay attention, we meet wondrous folks along the way who never let us forget it...

      thanks , kudos, hugs and Angels are on the way

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      Today is a gift, that's why they call it the present. I don't know who originally said that but I do know I agree. We need to take that present each day and rejoice in it! I have a new granddaughter who had open heart surgery at three days old, she is almost six weeks old, gaining weight and just beautiful...a gift to all of us. Sure we were nervous and scared but we prayed and kept positive thoughts....something we need to do everyday of our lives. Moaning and groaning only begets more moaning and groaning. PIPO!

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Sheila Brown 4 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

      I try to wake up every day with a smile on my face. I thank God for everything! The good things as well as the "not so good" things. The good, I rejoice in and the bad, I try to learn from. I once worked with a man who no matter how bad is day was, or how bad he felt, when you asked how he was doing he always had the same answer...."Fine as a frog's hair!" It was always a joy to run into him in the hall ways. We need to make the best of every day because we never know who has it worse than we do. Great hub as always! Voted up and awesome! :)