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The Most Dangerous Real Estate In The World

Updated on July 24, 2012
No, it's not Mt. Rainier
No, it's not Mt. Rainier | Source
No, it's not Denali
No, it's not Denali | Source
It's the human brain
It's the human brain | Source

Where might it be? Do you have a guess? Maybe the Sahara Desert, or the North Pole? How about on the white flanks of Denali or the war-scarred roads of Afghanistan?

All are certainly dangerous, but for this writer, the most dangerous real estate in the world is the six inches between my ears. Allow me to explain!

THE HUMAN BRAIN

A marvel to behold, the human brain is the computer center of our bodies, constantly sending signals to the nether-regions so that the most basic, and complex, of functions can be carried out. In the blink of an eye on the time continuum, we humans have progressed from primordial ooze to creatures capable of solving incredibly difficult tasks, and our brains are the main reason for this remarkable sprint up the evolutionary ladder.

Isn’t it amazing, then, that such a finely-tuned machine can become, at times, frozen in indecision? All of the factors have been analyzed, all outcomes considered, and still we find it difficult on some days to even get out of bed, let alone tackle a problem.

Perhaps if our brains stood alone, all would be right in our world and decisions would be quite simple. Unfortunately, or perhaps, fortunately, our brains are affected by our emotions, and there lies the rub, matey! Or are our emotions being affected by our brains? There are days it is extremely hard to determine which has the greatest effect on our actions.

YOURS TRULY

I had a sponsor in Alcoholics Anonymous once tell me that I could make a typhoon out of a glass of water. I do not for a second believe he was being complimentary when he said that. However, I also do not believe he was speaking only about me.

You see, there is a huge difference between the reality of a situation and our perception of the reality, and it is that difference that makes our brains the most dangerous real estate in the world.

I can have someone say good morning to me and read ulterior motives into that good morning. I can read a comment on Facebook and designate several different meanings to that comment. The way a person looks at me can mean many different things; the inflection of someone’s voice sends signals to my brain and we are off and running into Fantasy World.

Just to keep things interesting I can do this with the past, present or future. I can think about things that happened to me forty years ago and surmise different reasons for them happening AND different reasons why I am to blame. I can foresee a future event and imagine why it is going to happen and what motives will cause that event. I can read an article about a famous person and determine whether they are a good human being or not, without ever meeting them. I can can become angry at a person based on actions not even taken yet. This is a talent of dubious value and we all possess it.

I am the master of fabrication, wiser than Solomon on his best day, for poor Solomon never had the talent I have for seeing the truth where none exists. I even have the ability to extend my talent to national and world affairs. If the taxes rise then someone in D.C. has it in for me. . Corporations outsource jobs to India and I know without a doubt that they are personally attacking me. Nobody reads my articles and it’s because they don’t like me and they want to see me fail.

It is exhausting living inside of my head……or it was!

THE NEW, IMPROVED BILL

I have written in the past about this talent that I once had; I lived partially in the here and now, and partially in an imagined world or a world dictated by fear of things that had not happened yet. I was going to perish if I did not escape and find a safe place, a place where fear was not the dominant force. I needed a safe place where I could accept that which had once upset me so. I needed a safe place where others could not harm me and where I no longer would harm myself.

I needed humility and acceptance. I needed self-love! I suspect that I am not alone in these needs.

You see, when I came to the realization that I was not the most important person on this planet, and that others did not construct their lives around my every action, reality came into focus. The clerk at the store looks at me and I no longer think they are mad at me for not buying more product. They are simply looking at me because I am in front of them. The neighbor asks me how I’m doing and my first thought is not what do they want from me, but rather that’s nice of them for asking.

I have come to accept the fact that I am not the director of this play called Life. I have not been given control of the screenplay or the set direction. I am just a bit actor, a fleck of dust in the universe, and I am no more, or less, important than any other bit actor in the play. The planets do not revolve around me, nor do they revolve around anybody else. We are all equal in our importance and equal in our insignificance.

Most importantly, I now have a safe place inside of me where self-love is fostered and encouraged. I cannot be hurt by someone else in my safe place. I cannot hurt myself in my safe place. All that has happened in the past is ancient history, important only as a textbook to learn from. All that will happen in the future is as nebulous as star dust and it will be dealt with when it happens. So what is important?

TODAY!

Today is the only thing I am concerned with. I can handle today and anything that happens in it. I have twenty-four hours to focus on, and when that twenty-four hours has concluded I start all over again with the next day. Talk about liberating! I am no long weighed down by the ghosts of the past, and I no longer have to devise a battle plan for the future.

It is incredibly liberating to only concern myself with my actions. It is also incredibly liberating to not be affected by the actions, thoughts and opinions of others. When I have accomplished these things, the most dangerous real estate in the world begins to resemble a quiet day at the beach with fluffy clouds floating overhead and a gentle breeze at my back.

BOTTOM LINE

It is my choice whether to live on dangerous real estate or peaceful real estate. The choice is mine daily and believe me, it is a conscious decision each and every morning. I do not give people power over me and I do not allow them to rent space in my brain. I protect myself as if I were the most valuable and priceless treasure on Earth and do you know why? Simply because I am!

Have I bridged the gap between reality and perception? Most definitely, and the more I do so the better my life becomes. I am no longer that person from years ago. I have read the textbook and I have learned from it. As long as I keep learning I will keep growing, and sooner, rather than later, I will have grown into the person I always wanted to be.

And that, my friends, is Nirvana for this man.

2012 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      starstream, you summed it up pretty well. Thank you for the visit and the great comment.

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      Dreamer at heart 5 years ago from Northern California

      It seems that some people's minds are just so wound up in habitual self talk about all of these issues you mentioned from the news to the constant worry about Everything that they miss the best in life. Peace to sense, hear , refresh one's self in healing energy opens new opportunities for living and working.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sharilee, I hope you are well. Drop me a line and tell me what you have decided about your future....teaching? writing? I care and I'd like to know.

      I could have been writing this about you, or about me....we may never know. LOL

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Julie, chances are it's like reading about all of us. :) Thank you my ever-loyal friend and enjoy your weekend and the Olympics.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Marlene, it's a pleasure having you around; your insights are valuable and I respect others who have walked the talk. Thank you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rajan, you must have double-tapped on the comment...again, I thank you!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rajan, thank you for the kind words and the share. Have a wonderful weekend my friend.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sue, thank you! I will pass along your best wishes to Bev, and I greatly appreciate you taking the time to read and comment.

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      Sharilee Swaity 5 years ago from Canada

      Wow, Bill! You seem to write your hubs directly to me! And that's not just me being paranoid! I had seen the title and thought it was an hub on some kind of land but I was pleasantly surprised to read this insightful and penetrating hub.

      I am guilty as charged of often residing in this dangerous place. How easy it is to read into things, live in fear and be paralyzed by indecision. I appreciate this gentle reminder to "get real" and start living. Of course, voted all the ups. And shared. Blessings to you, my friend.

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      Jools99 5 years ago from North-East UK

      Bill, brilliant hub, just loved it. I related totally to this hub, it was like reading about myself.

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      Tough times never last. Tough people do. I totally agree. There is no growth without pain. It also builds character. Strength is one of my virtues. thanks for sharing your story. I look forward to reading more of your hubs. you can call me Marlene. lol

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 5 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Bill, an excellent recipe for nirvana. Truly and rightly said, peace comes from within my friend.

      Voted up, useful and shared on HH.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 5 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Bill, an excellent recipe for nirvana. Truly and rightly said, peace comes from within my friend.

      Voted up, useful and shared on HH.

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      Sueswan 5 years ago

      Hi Bill

      Brilliant, beautiful, insightful, and inspirational.

      When worry, doubt, and feelings of unworthiness enter the real estate of our mind, we must serve them with a eviction notice.

      Voted up and away !

      Cheers to you and Bev :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you my dear! It's always a pleasure to have you visit.

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      IAmForbidden 5 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

      an amazing eye opener article Bill! I love it!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Made, that is writing is all about....you do it so well in your articles.

      Thank you; I hope you are getting some sunshine to enjoy!

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      Madeleine Salin 5 years ago from Finland

      Your message in this hub is very deep. It made me think about my life and who I have been and who I am today. This is simply awesome, because it touched something deep inside of me.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ron, I would be hard-pressed to say it any better than you did. It was a few loving friends who saved me six years ago; now my job....my mission...is to help as many as I can through my words. I greatly appreciate your comment and the man that you are.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Love,

      I loved my college education, all six years of it, but honestly, most of what I have learned that has value I learned the hard way. I'm a person who responds to pain....there were times in my life where pain was the only stimulus that could bring about change in me....and learning in me.

      So those days are behind me now; I am not that fond of pain any longer; now I just pass on lessons I have learned and I hope that someone gains something from them.

      I appreciate you; thank you!

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      Hi billybuc,

      Thanks for the kind compliment. I appreciate it coming from someone as wise as you. I think it's a combination of education and experience. I still have a lot to learn about life, but I have grown as a person.

      As far as your question, I did study two years of psychology during the first 2 years of college. Psychology was my intended major, but then my career took a different turn and I ended up pursuing a career in journalism & mass communications.

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      Ron Hawkster 5 years ago from United States of America

      One's brain is indeed the most dangerous real estate. Especially after that real estate bubble bursts.

      A healthy dose of introspection, as you have generously shared here, is as important as every meal. A great, wise friend in my youth once answered my question "how do you know if this is all real and we're not living someone's dream" with something like "unless you check your reality often and adjust your perception of it, you will be just a fleeting dream." I'd like to add to that, now that I have grown and learned through experience, the friends one chooses can substantiate and give gravity to one's reality. A world without friends is that much more diminished.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bill, you are too kind, sir! Thank you very much! In truth, I'd love to do a Dear Bill column; I think it would be a kick and maybe just a little helpful to someone.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Love, it took patience and love on the part of a few people who didn't give up on me....and yes, it took determination and willingness on my part....and it is possible for everyone.

      Who are you who are so wise? Thank you my dear!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Tammy, from where I'm standing you have a lovely piece of real estate and it's going up in value daily.

      Thank you kind lady!

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      Bill De Giulio 5 years ago from Massachusetts

      Bill, another thought provoking hub. The past should not define our future. Live in the moment, prepare for the future, and stop worrying about the little things in life. I think I recall you writing that "we are here for such a short amount of time". Do all the trivial, insignificant things in life really define us, I think not.

      You continue to amaze me with your wisdom. cclitgirl hit the nail on the head, you need to start a "Dear Bill" column.

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      This is another one amazing hub! What a powerful message here and I am not saying this just to say it, I mean it. You have completely liberated yourself from the emotions of your past and this is a great feeling. No, I don't think that you are alone. I think many of us can relate to this as well. I know people that worry too much about insignificant stuff and things that they have no control over. We must live in the present, use the past as a learning experience and not worry so much about the future because the future is not here yet. I agree with Tammy, it does take a strong mind, but we are all capable of doing it. Voted up!

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      Tammy 5 years ago from North Carolina

      Interesting look at dangerous real estate. As the realtor of my own lot I had to learn how to manage my own at an early age. It takes a strong mind. Great insightful hub!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kelly, those people need not apply to my fan club! :) I have no time in my life for negativity. Thank you my dear; you are a great friend and loyal follower.

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      Kelly Umphenour 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Yeah this is really clever! So true - I do know a few people who sit around feeling sorry for themselves. They hate the world and everything in it. It mystifies me though, why their computer doesn't realize that we all have the power to change anything that makes us unhappy. Some people learn to live very well in their worlds of hate and anger.

      Excellent hub...excellent!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Katrine, you are showing some humor! I'm not accustomed to that....very funny! Thank you as always for the visit! Whether you know it or not, I greatly respect you as a human being.

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      KatrineDM 5 years ago

      If I was a man I would like to have a name Brian. Maybe sometimes people would misspell it and call me Brain. That would be a great compliment without me having to be smart to notice it. :-)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, I think you just started a new hub. LOL You go, girl! I love that my hub spawned that much thought and comment. Thank you my loyal follower. I truly do appreciate who you are.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      tobusiness, I had to almost die before I was able to change my way of thinking. Of course those we love get space in our brains, but they don't dominate it in a harmful fashion. That's really what I was referring to.

      Thank you once again for being who you are.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, it is very gratifying to have friends such as you, people who are caring, loving and supportive. Thank you my dear friend.

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      Mary Craig 5 years ago from New York

      As always, spot on. We are our own worst enemies. If we can like/love ourselves then we can like/love others. We are not the center of the universe as you pointed out, but merely a tiny part of it and we do not make the world go round. Though we may meet people who don't like us, that doesn't mean they are out to get us. When things don't go our way it is nothing personal against us, just the way it is and we need to work harder within ourselves to help make it better.

      We need to be in control of our own lives and loves. We can let others in or keep them out but we need to "love our neighbors" even with their faults...realizing it isn't their fault or ours. Hmm, I'm on a roll here. Better stop and say I voted this up, useful, and interesting.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 5 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Billy, another very interesting article, excellent as always. I like the idea of choosing who you let enter you real estate, a neat trick if you can pull it off.

      Unfortunately, when you love and care you automatically give permission to enter, and this can go either way, for the better or for worse and since love is based on trust, you do not have the power. Unless we can isolate our selves from the world, there will always be the potential for squatters to invade or for invited guest to turn nasty, it's human nature, a difficult thing to control. I envy you if you have reach that state where you are in control. Nice work once again.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      As Dexter said, " We are learning from you. The past is yesterday. Tomorrow is a new beginning. I find that a great exultation. Thank you for words of wisdom.Cheers

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lyric, it's confusing for me when I get praise like that, only because I have never considered myself particularly wise.....but with age comes some truths that are hard to deny. I do see things much more clearly now...which is so nice. Thank you my friend for a very lovely comment.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mhatter...was it Martin? Anyway, the brain is an amazing thing. It has only been in the last few years that I have been receptive to the stimuli of nature and it is wonderful to behold.

      Thank you my friend!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Josh, if you are thinking like that at your age then you have taken a big step. Thank you nephew; have a great night back east and I'll talk atcha tomorrow.

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      Richard Ricky Hale 5 years ago from West Virginia

      Bill, what an engaging article! A fantastic and useful read. You are a very wise man my friend. The brain is very powerful, power that can be used in a positive manner, negative manner, or both. Speaking of brain, this engaging hub gets you thinking. Still hoping I chose the right answer on the poll:) Everything just makes perfect sense and it was quite inspiring, plus a fun read. Loved the whole perspective beind this Bill, genius! Voting this up and all the way across, well deserved in my eyes. Very very wise Mr. Bill:) An awesome hub. Best to you.

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      Martin Kloess 5 years ago from San Francisco

      since my illness, life is an adventure. I see and cannot blot out what adult brains automatically sort out. i.e. I can see plants spewing out pollen. I cannot go outside because I am overwhelmed by the stimuli. Funny how much the brain does... we take for granted

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      Joshua Zerbini 5 years ago from Pennsylvania

      Bill,

      WOW! Awesome hub buddy! This following line was very inspirational to me...

      " It is also incredibly liberating to not be affected by the actions, thoughts and opinions of others."

      Bill, that is wisdom from experience, which you clearly have! Thanks so much for this motivational hub! I am learning everyday to not focus or even care about what others think. It doesn't matter!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Amy my dear!

      I, too, was blown away by the statement of the shooter's mother, that she was not surprised.

      I know this to be true with every fiber of my being: as long as there is a human race, there will be those whose perceptions equate to violence. It has been that way since the beginning of time and I'm not seeing a reduction in it, at least in the country.

      Interestingly enough, this type of thing rarely happens in other industrialized nations....now I wonder why that is? That, my friend, is food for thought and perhaps another hub at a later date.

      Dr. Bill? Laughing at this moment....thank you for who you are....from my vantage point you are one hell of a lady and I'll go into any battle with you in my corner.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dexter, I just try to speak about lessons I had to learn the hard way. Hopefully someone might catch on a little bit quicker than I did. :) God, I hope so! LOL

      I really appreciate you Sir! Have a great evening and best wishes to you and yours.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Aurelio, you understand perfectly! The brain is, indeed, the most powerful tool we have, as long as we know how to harness that energy and power.

      Great comment; thanks once again!

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      Amy Becherer 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Dr. Bill, rhymes with "Phil", you've written a profoundly masterful article that even Dr. Phil couldn't debate. Your piece comes at a time that speaks to the dangerous consequences when reality versus perception don't jive. The recent atrocity in Aurora, CO is a perfect example of a man, who seemed to be "on track", but went awry. He was a loner, driven by his skewed perceptions, because reality once was he could have been and done whatever he wanted. He was a young man who appeared to be headed for a bright future. The fact that he chose neuroscience leads me to believe he wanted to be involved in a field that impacted what was destroying him. I imagine a psyche exam will reveal paranoid schizophrenia, which often surfaces in young adulthood. Sadly, as history shows, there is little that can stop these kind of devastating, unexpected tragedies. All the laws in the world can't stop what isn't seen. The nature of "paranoia" creates secrecy. I think it is ominous that his mother wasn't surprised by the tragic turn of events, making me wonder further about perceptions and reality. Ironically, or maybe not, gun and ammo sales have skyrocketed. Is it reality or the perception of it that makes people think arming themselves to the teeth will make them safe? Despite the fact that trained law enforcement arrived on the scene in force, as quick as humanly possible, the carnage and it's tragic aftermath was done.

      Your title "The mind is the most dangerous real estate" took me by surprise, Bill, and, at first, made me laugh. But, that is a reality of irrefutable truth that makes life unpredictable and, sometimes, downright scary. Awesome writing, Bill.

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      alocsin 5 years ago from Orange County, CA

      What an interesting twist on the title -- I thought it was going to be about Everest. But, as proven by your own story, the brain can also be the most productive real estate in the world. Voting this Up and Interesting.

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      Dexter Yarbrough 5 years ago from United States

      Hi Billybuc! I must agree that the mind (brain) is a dangerous piece of real estate if allowed to run amuck.

      As you have already learned, I am quickly learning some of the life lessons that you have and am acutely aware that only today matters. Tomorrow will take care of itself - when it comes. Any yesterday is gone bye-bye.

      This is another one of those hubs that will resonate with many of us for quite sometime. You are still a master teacher and many of us are your students.

      And I thank you.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jayden, my pleasure. I'm afraid I have made it sound like it's an easy thing to do. Believe me, I struggled with it for years before I came to realize that my happiness and well-being was crucial.

      Thank you for the visit and I'm glad the hub helped you in some way.

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      JaydenMiller 5 years ago from USA

      Great hub.

      "The choice is mine daily and believe me, it is a conscious decision each and every morning. I do not give people power over me and I do not allow them to rent space in my brain."

      I have struggled with this for some time. I am trying really hard to meet this same standard as you have.

      Thanks for writing this timely hub!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Patty! I'm always appreciative when you stop by and comment.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Starmom, I just wasn't sure if you intended it....glad I guessed correctly! :)

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      Patty Kenyon 5 years ago from Ledyard, Connecticut

      Amazing Hub!!! You share so much of your personal life...and believe me many can relate. I just wish some people would have the same way of thinking as you do and Congrats to you!! :)

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      Starmom41 5 years ago

      yeah I thought you'd get that one!!! :) :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Starmom, LOL...that's a good one. I'm afraid outside of the Hub community my star is fleeting at best....but thank you for the thought....and the pun?

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      Starmom41 5 years ago

      @billybuc: You should write a book and call it "As Bill Sees It" :) :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      TT, I have serious concerns about you young lady! LOL Thank you I think?!?!?

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      Terrye Toombs 5 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

      Most excellent, Mr. Bill. I dunno about living in a 24 hour period. I have to break it down into chunks of 4 hours at a time. :) But I love your message and couldn't agree more. Live a life of self love = that's what it's all about. :) Oh wait...isn't that "You put your left foot in...you take your left foot out...you put your left foot in and shake it all about..."

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Integrity, your words are so kind. Thank you Sir!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Audrey, I'm almost embarrassed by your kind words. I have so far to go before I am the writer I want to be. Your encouragement and kind words mean the world to me. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Efficient, I am honored and humbled by your words. Thank you so much and best wishes to you.

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      IntegrityYes 5 years ago

      That is another awesome one,Billy. So many will learn from reading it often. It is so deep.

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      Audrey Hunt 5 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      Bill - this is valuable information for all of us. And I hope, by now, at this age, I have learned to balance my priorities and my thinking better. I know this much - I feel completely liberated as I take each day as it comes. This is one of the best hubs written and I shall share it all over the place after I vote up and across! Hugs to you Bill.

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      Efficient Admin 5 years ago from Charlotte, NC

      Awesome, voted up! I notice when I realize the world is not about me, it really decreases my stress a bit. As usual you have a thought-provoking hub and I very much enjoyed it.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Trinity, with followers like you it is a pleasure sharing whatever I have learned from life. I hope you are happy and well, and I'll talk to you soon.

      your forever friend,

      bill

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      Trinity M 5 years ago

      Bill, as always you have a wonderful way of looking at life and painting a vivid picture with your eloquence. You are quite right about that dangerous real estate, I think I used to own some of it myself; however, living in the now (and not in yesterday or tomorrow) has certainly brought with it some long sought-after peace. Lovely hub as always my friend. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Beckie, you are still so young. It took me decades to get to this point in my life, and it has not been an easy journey. However, I have finally arrived and I ain't going back to the bad times. I appreciate you so much!

      hugs and kisses,

      your friend for as long as you will have me,

      bill

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      Shining Irish Eyes 5 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Wow Bill

      I am surprised at how well I relate to this. My mind is my worst enemy and I have yet to reach the point you have. It is exhauting at times and wish I knew how to turn it off.

      You have a healthy attitude that I am working to hard to adopt into my daily life.

      My skin is so thin it hurts.

      Hugs kisses and warm fuzzies xxoo

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Movie, thank you my friend! It's a battle for most of us, me included. There are good days and there are bad, and hopefully I learn along the way.

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      Movie Master 5 years ago from United Kingdom

      I could relate to much of what you have written here - it sometimes feels I'm fighting a continual battle not to dwell on the past.

      A fascinating subject and wonderful hub, thank you for sharing your experiences, voted up.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Starmom, you said quite a lot in four words...thank you so much!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Christy, thank you so much! I love what I do now that I'm not fighting myself. It's a liberating experience.

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      Starmom41 5 years ago

      good stuff- as usual!!! :)

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You are right about needing self-love and I am glad you have figured that out. You have come a long way and it's nice to reflect with you as you write

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kelley, thank you, and obviously I agree with you completely. My mind is my greatest asset and my worst enemy, depending on what power I assign to it.

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      kelleyward 5 years ago

      Hi Bill, I just wrote a hub about how I handle my anxiety and panic attacks and it's by not allowing my brain to fool my emotions or my emotions to fool my brain. It's so true that our minds can be dangerous or healing, depending on how we assign those beliefs. Fab hub my friend. Voted way up! Kelley

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jlava, how have you been? I want to hear about your life and the changes....drop me a note and tell me how you are....why? because I care.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, I have no doubt you understand this hub! We are learning my dear friend....we are learning.

      love always,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Art, my mind is my greatest asset in writing as well, as it was in teaching; it was during the quiet moments that it could turn into my enemy. Thank you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Travel, all I can say is thank God for thorazine! LOL Thank you so much for the great comment.

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      Jennifer Vasconcelos 5 years ago from Cyberspace and My Own World

      A hard lesson to learn and keep to but a vauable one no less.

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      Shauna L Bowling 5 years ago from Central Florida

      Once again, you hit the nail on the head, Bill! Right there with "you are your own worst enemy". We have choices. We always have choices. The mind is fascinating. It can create, reason, ponder, yet can also destroy, belittle and fester. I'm with you. I choose the PIPO method, or PMA as it was called when I was growing up. Fortunately, we never stop growing. That is, if we let the real estate between our ears search instead of destroy!

      Excellent hub, my friend!

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      Marvin Parke 5 years ago from Jamaica

      Interesting point to bring across. The brain is my strongest asset in my real estate portfolio.

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      Katheryn 5 years ago from United States

      Billy - As always; great hub. I think we all have a some paranoia, some well founded and other times completely baseless. There are some situations that without that bit of paranoia (or that gut feeling), ignoring could end up not in your best interest. If one feels the world is out to get him/her, then that is a definite problem. As with most things, moderation is the key. My thorazine keeps my paranoria meter reading within normal limits; however without it ???? LOL

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michele, I actually understood that. LOL Well done, a great addition to this hub. Thank you my friend!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dianna, I love it when someone quotes one of my sayings....and you are oh so right. It's a constant battle but it can be done. Having Bev has helped me tremendously. Thank you kind lady!

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      This is a deeper, reflective side of you that also creates thoughtful challenges. What we perceive through our imagery translates into action. It's our processing that makes the difference. Garbage in and garbage out if it is negative material. Excelelnt hub article. Voted up and up.

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      Michele Travis 5 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      billy this hub is fantastic. Sometimes you have to let the past go. That helps you go forward, it does not have to control where you go. Sell the old house and move into a better, free one. It is hard to let the old one go, but you are not alone, not anymore. Hope that doesn't sound weird:)

      Voted up.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cyndi, I like that....that's why they call it the present....I had never heard that before but that's great! You learned a lot quicker than I did my dear. I had parents who worked themselves into the ground and for what? That lesson has not been lost on me; today it's all about loving life and all the rewards that come with it. Have a PIPO day my friend and know that I cherish your friendship.

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      Cynthia Sageleaf 5 years ago from Western NC

      I could see you starting a "Dear Bill" blog...have people talk to you about your awesome insights. I, for one, have read my "Daily Bill" and I'm glad. I can now hop into my day with some PIPO. :) John and I and some friends of ours had a very similar conversation over dinner last night. One friend remarked that he didn't have a lot of money growing up, so he grew up thinking he had to have a lot of money. When he got it, he has all but given it up, so that he can live a life that is fulfilling to him. The rest of us in the group agreed, for we all have done the same thing: if money comes, great, but what's really important is living a life that is meaningful to you, and not one where you don't like yourself because you're living for everyone else. We all gave up lucrative careers to be true to ourselves and we all wished these ideas had been planted in us when we were younger. Our generation of parents worked so hard and for so long (they still do!) that in their "golden years" we all fear that if they stop working, they won't have anything to live for. *sigh* In any case, today is a present, that's why they call it the present. Ha! Cheers, Big Bro.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, getting rid of that job was a huge step in the right direction. As for worrying, I'm not sure any of us are immune to that, but we can work at cutting down. Blessings to you my friend and have a marvelous day in Iowa.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, it would have been nice if I'd learned these lessons earlier, but it took what it took. I had to do a little suffering in order to learn. Now that I'm here and sane, life has never been better. Thank you my friend!

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      Deborah Neyens 5 years ago from Iowa

      I'm a worrier and I do sometimes dwell on the past, although quitting the super stressful job has helped immensely. Thanks for giving me a lot to think about this morning.

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      carol stanley 5 years ago from Arizona

      I like the Hubpage convention idea...Back to your hub. How many people figure it out??? We spend a lot of time dwelling on the past and worrying about the future. Sometimes with good cause. Lets face it no matter how good life is, never easy!!! And one of the most brilliant lessons from this hub is that we have the power to change at any point in our lives. So many live in denial about everything. Not facing up to life and putting our head in the sand can result in physical problems. We all have a story to tell about our lives, and most of us would not want to change problems with anyone. The dangerous real estate..You've got it..Voted UP

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lindalou, we should make it a pass or fail exam, and if they fail they have to go to the School of Life until they pass. It would cut down on traffic problems. LOL Thank you kindly!

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      Linda 5 years ago from Texas

      Voted UP and across the board! I know some people who really need to read this! I would love to pass it out like a school paper and make them all read it and answer true or false questions. They would probably FAIL! Thanks for posting another thought provoking hub!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hi Gail, and thank you! it is the only way for me to live and have any serenity at all. I am not in control of the universe....people are not out to get me.....life is so simple when I follow these principles. I greatly appreciate you my friend; sending blessings and hugs to Delaware!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, what a good person you are! There are so many on HubPages who I would like to meet face-to-face and you are definitely one of them. We need a HP convention!

      Thank you my dear!