The Most Dangerous Real Estate In The World

Awesome Bill, If more people could understand....and DO this we would all be better off!

Yes yes!! You are RIGHT. So clever!

Agree with Curiad. We need to bridge the gaps that separate our individuality from the rest of the world. Your words come clean and you are becoming a better 'you' by the day-- we can relate though. That inner need to write and get a continous support-- from our point of view, make us excel day by day. Thanks billy! You never dissapoint us.

This is an amazing article! I have had the struggles you mentioned time and time again. As I age I have started to care less and less about pleasing others (at any cost). However, I still slip at times and worry about what others think. I am going to try and take your advice and live in today. Thanks for posting, I voted up!

Bill, yet again you nailed it when you said that you can control and concern yourself with your actions and not worry about others thoughts or actions. Totally agree that it is liberating and just so freeing not to have to worry what other may be thinking about you all the time. Life is way too short and living it worrying all the time is so not worth it. Yet again you are so very wise and have given this hubber words to live by again. Thanks, have voted and shared too.

Hi Bill,

This is another thought provoking article and I could so relate to much of what you've written here.

I have been fascinated by the human brain, the role of thoughts and emotions and perceptions vs. reality for many, many years and I have pretty much reached the conclusions you have and follow, to the best of my current ability, the path you talked about.

I believe that our reality, not just our perceptions of reality actually change when we make the choice to live in the present and when we change how we think and respond to a particular event. There is a cool equation that inspirational writer and speaker, Jack Canfield, teaches: Event plus our response equals the outcome.

Keeping that equation in mind helps me focus on the fact that I always have control of my response which means I also have control of the final outcome.

That was a real eye opener for me.

Loved this essay and am voting it up across the board except for funny.

Voted UP and across the board! I know some people who really need to read this! I would love to pass it out like a school paper and make them all read it and answer true or false questions. They would probably FAIL! Thanks for posting another thought provoking hub!

I like the Hubpage convention idea...Back to your hub. How many people figure it out??? We spend a lot of time dwelling on the past and worrying about the future. Sometimes with good cause. Lets face it no matter how good life is, never easy!!! And one of the most brilliant lessons from this hub is that we have the power to change at any point in our lives. So many live in denial about everything. Not facing up to life and putting our head in the sand can result in physical problems. We all have a story to tell about our lives, and most of us would not want to change problems with anyone. The dangerous real estate..You've got it..Voted UP

I'm a worrier and I do sometimes dwell on the past, although quitting the super stressful job has helped immensely. Thanks for giving me a lot to think about this morning.

I could see you starting a "Dear Bill" blog...have people talk to you about your awesome insights. I, for one, have read my "Daily Bill" and I'm glad. I can now hop into my day with some PIPO. :) John and I and some friends of ours had a very similar conversation over dinner last night. One friend remarked that he didn't have a lot of money growing up, so he grew up thinking he had to have a lot of money. When he got it, he has all but given it up, so that he can live a life that is fulfilling to him. The rest of us in the group agreed, for we all have done the same thing: if money comes, great, but what's really important is living a life that is meaningful to you, and not one where you don't like yourself because you're living for everyone else. We all gave up lucrative careers to be true to ourselves and we all wished these ideas had been planted in us when we were younger. Our generation of parents worked so hard and for so long (they still do!) that in their "golden years" we all fear that if they stop working, they won't have anything to live for. *sigh* In any case, today is a present, that's why they call it the present. Ha! Cheers, Big Bro.

billy this hub is fantastic. Sometimes you have to let the past go. That helps you go forward, it does not have to control where you go. Sell the old house and move into a better, free one. It is hard to let the old one go, but you are not alone, not anymore. Hope that doesn't sound weird:)

Voted up.

This is a deeper, reflective side of you that also creates thoughtful challenges. What we perceive through our imagery translates into action. It's our processing that makes the difference. Garbage in and garbage out if it is negative material. Excelelnt hub article. Voted up and up.

Billy - As always; great hub. I think we all have a some paranoia, some well founded and other times completely baseless. There are some situations that without that bit of paranoia (or that gut feeling), ignoring could end up not in your best interest. If one feels the world is out to get him/her, then that is a definite problem. As with most things, moderation is the key. My thorazine keeps my paranoria meter reading within normal limits; however without it ???? LOL

Interesting point to bring across. The brain is my strongest asset in my real estate portfolio.

Once again, you hit the nail on the head, Bill! Right there with "you are your own worst enemy". We have choices. We always have choices. The mind is fascinating. It can create, reason, ponder, yet can also destroy, belittle and fester. I'm with you. I choose the PIPO method, or PMA as it was called when I was growing up. Fortunately, we never stop growing. That is, if we let the real estate between our ears search instead of destroy!

Excellent hub, my friend!

A hard lesson to learn and keep to but a vauable one no less.

Hi Bill, I just wrote a hub about how I handle my anxiety and panic attacks and it's by not allowing my brain to fool my emotions or my emotions to fool my brain. It's so true that our minds can be dangerous or healing, depending on how we assign those beliefs. Fab hub my friend. Voted way up! Kelley

You are right about needing self-love and I am glad you have figured that out. You have come a long way and it's nice to reflect with you as you write

good stuff- as usual!!! :)

I could relate to much of what you have written here - it sometimes feels I'm fighting a continual battle not to dwell on the past.

A fascinating subject and wonderful hub, thank you for sharing your experiences, voted up.

Wow Bill

I am surprised at how well I relate to this. My mind is my worst enemy and I have yet to reach the point you have. It is exhauting at times and wish I knew how to turn it off.

You have a healthy attitude that I am working to hard to adopt into my daily life.

My skin is so thin it hurts.

Hugs kisses and warm fuzzies xxoo

Bill, as always you have a wonderful way of looking at life and painting a vivid picture with your eloquence. You are quite right about that dangerous real estate, I think I used to own some of it myself; however, living in the now (and not in yesterday or tomorrow) has certainly brought with it some long sought-after peace. Lovely hub as always my friend. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. :)

Awesome, voted up! I notice when I realize the world is not about me, it really decreases my stress a bit. As usual you have a thought-provoking hub and I very much enjoyed it.

Bill - this is valuable information for all of us. And I hope, by now, at this age, I have learned to balance my priorities and my thinking better. I know this much - I feel completely liberated as I take each day as it comes. This is one of the best hubs written and I shall share it all over the place after I vote up and across! Hugs to you Bill.

That is another awesome one,Billy. So many will learn from reading it often. It is so deep.

Most excellent, Mr. Bill. I dunno about living in a 24 hour period. I have to break it down into chunks of 4 hours at a time. :) But I love your message and couldn't agree more. Live a life of self love = that's what it's all about. :) Oh wait...isn't that "You put your left foot in...you take your left foot out...you put your left foot in and shake it all about..."

@billybuc: You should write a book and call it "As Bill Sees It" :) :)

yeah I thought you'd get that one!!! :) :)

Amazing Hub!!! You share so much of your personal life...and believe me many can relate. I just wish some people would have the same way of thinking as you do and Congrats to you!! :)

Great hub.

"The choice is mine daily and believe me, it is a conscious decision each and every morning. I do not give people power over me and I do not allow them to rent space in my brain."

I have struggled with this for some time. I am trying really hard to meet this same standard as you have.

Thanks for writing this timely hub!

Hi Billybuc! I must agree that the mind (brain) is a dangerous piece of real estate if allowed to run amuck.

As you have already learned, I am quickly learning some of the life lessons that you have and am acutely aware that only today matters. Tomorrow will take care of itself - when it comes. Any yesterday is gone bye-bye.

This is another one of those hubs that will resonate with many of us for quite sometime. You are still a master teacher and many of us are your students.

And I thank you.

What an interesting twist on the title -- I thought it was going to be about Everest. But, as proven by your own story, the brain can also be the most productive real estate in the world. Voting this Up and Interesting.

Dr. Bill, rhymes with "Phil", you've written a profoundly masterful article that even Dr. Phil couldn't debate. Your piece comes at a time that speaks to the dangerous consequences when reality versus perception don't jive. The recent atrocity in Aurora, CO is a perfect example of a man, who seemed to be "on track", but went awry. He was a loner, driven by his skewed perceptions, because reality once was he could have been and done whatever he wanted. He was a young man who appeared to be headed for a bright future. The fact that he chose neuroscience leads me to believe he wanted to be involved in a field that impacted what was destroying him. I imagine a psyche exam will reveal paranoid schizophrenia, which often surfaces in young adulthood. Sadly, as history shows, there is little that can stop these kind of devastating, unexpected tragedies. All the laws in the world can't stop what isn't seen. The nature of "paranoia" creates secrecy. I think it is ominous that his mother wasn't surprised by the tragic turn of events, making me wonder further about perceptions and reality. Ironically, or maybe not, gun and ammo sales have skyrocketed. Is it reality or the perception of it that makes people think arming themselves to the teeth will make them safe? Despite the fact that trained law enforcement arrived on the scene in force, as quick as humanly possible, the carnage and it's tragic aftermath was done.

Your title "The mind is the most dangerous real estate" took me by surprise, Bill, and, at first, made me laugh. But, that is a reality of irrefutable truth that makes life unpredictable and, sometimes, downright scary. Awesome writing, Bill.

Bill,

WOW! Awesome hub buddy! This following line was very inspirational to me...

" It is also incredibly liberating to not be affected by the actions, thoughts and opinions of others."

Bill, that is wisdom from experience, which you clearly have! Thanks so much for this motivational hub! I am learning everyday to not focus or even care about what others think. It doesn't matter!

since my illness, life is an adventure. I see and cannot blot out what adult brains automatically sort out. i.e. I can see plants spewing out pollen. I cannot go outside because I am overwhelmed by the stimuli. Funny how much the brain does... we take for granted

Bill, what an engaging article! A fantastic and useful read. You are a very wise man my friend. The brain is very powerful, power that can be used in a positive manner, negative manner, or both. Speaking of brain, this engaging hub gets you thinking. Still hoping I chose the right answer on the poll:) Everything just makes perfect sense and it was quite inspiring, plus a fun read. Loved the whole perspective beind this Bill, genius! Voting this up and all the way across, well deserved in my eyes. Very very wise Mr. Bill:) An awesome hub. Best to you.

As Dexter said, " We are learning from you. The past is yesterday. Tomorrow is a new beginning. I find that a great exultation. Thank you for words of wisdom.Cheers

Billy, another very interesting article, excellent as always. I like the idea of choosing who you let enter you real estate, a neat trick if you can pull it off.

Unfortunately, when you love and care you automatically give permission to enter, and this can go either way, for the better or for worse and since love is based on trust, you do not have the power. Unless we can isolate our selves from the world, there will always be the potential for squatters to invade or for invited guest to turn nasty, it's human nature, a difficult thing to control. I envy you if you have reach that state where you are in control. Nice work once again.

As always, spot on. We are our own worst enemies. If we can like/love ourselves then we can like/love others. We are not the center of the universe as you pointed out, but merely a tiny part of it and we do not make the world go round. Though we may meet people who don't like us, that doesn't mean they are out to get us. When things don't go our way it is nothing personal against us, just the way it is and we need to work harder within ourselves to help make it better.

We need to be in control of our own lives and loves. We can let others in or keep them out but we need to "love our neighbors" even with their faults...realizing it isn't their fault or ours. Hmm, I'm on a roll here. Better stop and say I voted this up, useful, and interesting.

If I was a man I would like to have a name Brian. Maybe sometimes people would misspell it and call me Brain. That would be a great compliment without me having to be smart to notice it. :-)

Yeah this is really clever! So true - I do know a few people who sit around feeling sorry for themselves. They hate the world and everything in it. It mystifies me though, why their computer doesn't realize that we all have the power to change anything that makes us unhappy. Some people learn to live very well in their worlds of hate and anger.

Excellent hub...excellent!

Interesting look at dangerous real estate. As the realtor of my own lot I had to learn how to manage my own at an early age. It takes a strong mind. Great insightful hub!

This is another one amazing hub! What a powerful message here and I am not saying this just to say it, I mean it. You have completely liberated yourself from the emotions of your past and this is a great feeling. No, I don't think that you are alone. I think many of us can relate to this as well. I know people that worry too much about insignificant stuff and things that they have no control over. We must live in the present, use the past as a learning experience and not worry so much about the future because the future is not here yet. I agree with Tammy, it does take a strong mind, but we are all capable of doing it. Voted up!

Bill, another thought provoking hub. The past should not define our future. Live in the moment, prepare for the future, and stop worrying about the little things in life. I think I recall you writing that "we are here for such a short amount of time". Do all the trivial, insignificant things in life really define us, I think not.

You continue to amaze me with your wisdom. cclitgirl hit the nail on the head, you need to start a "Dear Bill" column.

One's brain is indeed the most dangerous real estate. Especially after that real estate bubble bursts.

A healthy dose of introspection, as you have generously shared here, is as important as every meal. A great, wise friend in my youth once answered my question "how do you know if this is all real and we're not living someone's dream" with something like "unless you check your reality often and adjust your perception of it, you will be just a fleeting dream." I'd like to add to that, now that I have grown and learned through experience, the friends one chooses can substantiate and give gravity to one's reality. A world without friends is that much more diminished.

Hi billybuc,

Thanks for the kind compliment. I appreciate it coming from someone as wise as you. I think it's a combination of education and experience. I still have a lot to learn about life, but I have grown as a person.

As far as your question, I did study two years of psychology during the first 2 years of college. Psychology was my intended major, but then my career took a different turn and I ended up pursuing a career in journalism & mass communications.

Your message in this hub is very deep. It made me think about my life and who I have been and who I am today. This is simply awesome, because it touched something deep inside of me.

an amazing eye opener article Bill! I love it!

Hi Bill

Brilliant, beautiful, insightful, and inspirational.

When worry, doubt, and feelings of unworthiness enter the real estate of our mind, we must serve them with a eviction notice.

Voted up and away !

Cheers to you and Bev :)

Bill, an excellent recipe for nirvana. Truly and rightly said, peace comes from within my friend.

Voted up, useful and shared on HH.

Bill, an excellent recipe for nirvana. Truly and rightly said, peace comes from within my friend.

Voted up, useful and shared on HH.

Tough times never last. Tough people do. I totally agree. There is no growth without pain. It also builds character. Strength is one of my virtues. thanks for sharing your story. I look forward to reading more of your hubs. you can call me Marlene. lol

Bill, brilliant hub, just loved it. I related totally to this hub, it was like reading about myself.

Wow, Bill! You seem to write your hubs directly to me! And that's not just me being paranoid! I had seen the title and thought it was an hub on some kind of land but I was pleasantly surprised to read this insightful and penetrating hub.

I am guilty as charged of often residing in this dangerous place. How easy it is to read into things, live in fear and be paralyzed by indecision. I appreciate this gentle reminder to "get real" and start living. Of course, voted all the ups. And shared. Blessings to you, my friend.

It seems that some people's minds are just so wound up in habitual self talk about all of these issues you mentioned from the news to the constant worry about Everything that they miss the best in life. Peace to sense, hear , refresh one's self in healing energy opens new opportunities for living and working.