How Do You Tell Your Stay At Home Wife To Reduce Her Weight Without Hurting Her?

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   ngurecoposted 14 years ago

   How Do You Tell Your Stay At Home Wife To Reduce Her Weight Without Hurting Her?

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   Simple Timposted 14 years ago

   Well, I always believe in the honesty is the best policy. It is never easy telling someone you love 'the truth' especially if  you think the truth will hurt them...but is it not more hurtful thinking bad thoughts about someone you love without telling them what’s worrying you. I don't know what would be the least painful way of telling the truth but at least once it is out there you can move forward. Talk to your wife perhaps she is going through a tough time or substituting food for your affections. Don’t place any blame on her or make her feel guilty. Don’t isolate your wife into thinking that she is not good enough reassure her of your feelings and make it a family effort which includes you too.
   
   If it were me I would make a suggestion that the whole family should embark on a new healthier lifestyle. This can involve activities together like taking a weekly walk in the park or explore a new part of the city. This can be time for exercise but also a good time to communicate with each other or if you have kids it can involve playing fun games in the backyard or at the local park. Suggest new healthier recipes. Make healthy living apart of your lives. Easier said than done but you gotta take the first step!
   Hope it helps...Good luck!

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   pendoraposted 14 years ago

   Don't "tell" her anything.
   
   Suggest a romantic walk each evening.  They will get longer and longer. Hold her hand now and then along the way. Make her feel beautiful and she'll respond in a positive way with her health.
   
   Participate in her health instead of wanting to tell her anything. Unless you're completely fit (the rare side of the scale) then you could do with the health boost, too.

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   FduToitposted 14 years ago

   This is a tricky question to answer as it is easy to hurt her feelings and I have no idea why she has been picking up weight or if she has been overweight for a long time, etc.
   
   Very often there is a direct connection between weight gain and emotional problems. If I were you I would try to understand the reasons behind her picking up weight. Bad eating habits and lack of excercise do play a role but try to understand what is behind it. Maybe she feels unappreciated and simply stopped caring what she looks like thinking it makes no difference. Maybe she is turning to (comfort) food to make her feel better about something that is bothering her.
   
   In other words, her weight gain is more than likely only a symptom of an underlying cause. If you try to address the symptom in isolation it may backfire. Try to isolate the cause and once you know what it is you will know what to do.
   
   Wishing you all the best!
   
   Francois

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   ng0208posted 14 years ago

   I think participating with her in weight loss activities will do wonders.  Neither my husband or are have ever been overweight but after having my son I knew I had some weight to take back off (I am a stay at home mom right now).  I find that working out together or even walks or bike rides not only helped me shed the baby weight but it also makes your love and marriage bond stronger.  Don't tell her to loose weight, encourage her by trying some new activities together : )

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   Gypsy48posted 14 years ago

   Just tell her the truth.Her being over weight and unhealthy will hurt her more. I like honesty even if it hurts. If you can't be truthful with her, who will?

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