How do I get someone to stop flirting with me without hurting his feelings?

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  1. ravenlt04 profile image60
    ravenlt04posted 12 years ago

    How do I get someone to stop flirting with me without hurting his feelings?

  2. profile image0
    Jussara Scottonposted 12 years ago

    Tell him/her that you like someone else and you're getting into a relatioship. That should be enough.

  3. ravenlt04 profile image60
    ravenlt04posted 12 years ago

    LOL!  I wish!  I'm married!  And that didn't even work!  LOL!

  4. Ancillotti profile image61
    Ancillottiposted 12 years ago

    Be honest and kind. If you do not want to hurt the person, be direct and objective, so the pain will go faster.

  5. Ashantina profile image60
    Ashantinaposted 12 years ago way around it hun.
    Tell him like it is..............

  6. mommyneal6 profile image73
    mommyneal6posted 12 years ago

    Tell them that you are flattered but it is making you a bit uncomfortable.

  7. TheSloneGal profile image60
    TheSloneGalposted 12 years ago

    ignore them have nothing to do with them at all avoid them if that dont stop get a restraining order lol

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    reeltaulkposted 12 years ago

    pay them no must be entertaining it, so it will continue
    LMFAO at theslonegal......getting a restraining order is a bit far fetched and over the top, I'd say!  He is flirting not stalking or harrassing her. I question people who get restraining orders at the drop of a heart beat.  Weird!

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    Dandraposted 12 years ago

    You seem to enjoy it, which may be sending non-verbal signals of "please continue".

    Whenever he wants to flirt, move the conversation on to more dry topics.

  10. stricktlydating profile image82
    stricktlydatingposted 12 years ago

    The next time he says something where it's clear he's flirting with you, pick him up on it.  Tell him that you're involved with (or interested in) someone.  And try to avoid him if it's irritating you because it just may be his personality.

  11. Matt in Jax profile image59
    Matt in Jaxposted 12 years ago

    You have to be completely upfront and tell him exactly how you feel. If it hurts his feelings, it just does. But if you're not blunt, he may somehow feel led on.

  12. maria.rose profile image40
    maria.roseposted 12 years ago

    Be honest,If you do not want to hurt the person,Tell him/her  true  that you are involved with someone.

  13. Kamalesh050 profile image74
    Kamalesh050posted 12 years ago

    Be nice to him and say that you  are involved with someone . This may hurt his feelings but still it is better to get it done and over with now than later. If you just ignore him and not say anything I think that may not  be right.

  14. zduckman profile image61
    zduckmanposted 12 years ago

    Be honest and direct, yet compassionate. Tell them you just don't think of them in that way. That will put the fire out QUICK.
    "I appreciate your friendship, but I just don't think of you in any other way than that" and it makes me feel uncomfortable when you come on to me knowing I am married, so please stop.

    I don't know why more women don't just ask for what they want. As a guy the blow off or cold shoulder is the worst(nxt to the one who keeps you just close enough to get attention) .... Just say it like it is without being cruel is best for all involved ....there is no substitute for honesty.

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      Jmariegirlposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      This is very helpful. There is someone I know who's been flirting with me at get togethers for some time now... It's time for me to speak up!  Not okay with me when their spouse is in the same room. or even if  the spouse is not in the same room.

  15. Walt Smith profile image60
    Walt Smithposted 12 years ago

    Don't lie to them, that is the worst thing you can do. If they persist  after you have explained your point of view, talk to their friends and tell them that you have no interest in this person and never will, they will more than likely get it through their head. If all else fails and I mean all else...Law Enforcement types have a special skill in EXPLAINING things. smile ...W

  16. ikechiawazie profile image60
    ikechiawazieposted 12 years ago

    Tell him the truth. The truth is usually bitter but at least you are being honest with yourself and you hurt him the most, if you deceive him. However, don't sound unpleasant, try and be nice

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    Old Empresarioposted 12 years ago

    It probably won't hurt his feelings. Ask him why he's always flirting with you and be direct. Get it out in the open and figure out what he wants. That would be the time to directly tell him that you're not interested and that it makes you uncomfortable. If he continues, tell your husband.

  18. EltMrx profile image60
    EltMrxposted 12 years ago

    Stop flirting back... Roll your eyes and make sure your body language isn't accepting it.

    Make a strange face and say it isn't cool...

    Don't worry about their feelings.

    Unless you actually want it and like it... 

    I don't get it... Maybe because I'm a guy... IDK...


  19. Alphadogg16 profile image88
    Alphadogg16posted 9 years ago

    I would be very direct and straight forward, some people mistake kindness/niceness for a weakness. I'm unsure of why you are concerned about hurting his feelings, he obviously isn't concerned/doesn't respect  his wife's feelings, or your husbands (if you have one). I would be as forward and blunt as possible.


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