I was with a man for 12 years, he was emotionall and at times physically abusive

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    julienowellposted 7 years ago

    I was with a man for 12 years, he was emotionall and at times physically abusive. when I told...

    him I wanted him to move out of my house he told me he is dying, he has cance and because I have chosen to move on he is refusing treatment, my friends and family all say he is lying about his dying. How do I know who is right?

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    Tatjana-Mihaelaposted 7 years ago

    If your man really has cancer and is refusing any tipe of treatmant he IS dying for sure.

    If you are not sure whether he has cancer or not, then speak with his Dr or insist to see  his medical reports...On medical reports his dyagnosis is clearly written.
    After 12 years spent together, you have every right to know the truth and after you find it out, you can choose what will be  the best desicion for you .

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    Angel Stationposted 5 years ago

    It's emotional blackmail as you have experienced the evidence & finally realised it’s time to full fill your shadow. You said it’s “your house” & you “want him out”. Obviously you have proven yourself worthy & independence ...something he really fears & wants to override to take in control of your life. He is nothing without you…he’ll make you feel you are nothing with him. ... it’s his own fate what he didn’t appreciated before.

    It’s not your fault he dies failing to take his medication. At least you wouldn’t be convicted. Think of all the other domestic violence victims who are serving time because the acted on taking the life of their abusers. They would envy you for leaving him so he could rot in his own fate. Don’t be flattered for his ill tempered love for you. See this as an escape & never go back.