Why do people say, "I feel your pain"? Can you really feel someone else's pain?
I think it is possible to feel another's physical pain, literally. But, I also think that true, physical feeling is only for people who are close, and who know and love each other very much.
I think when folks say, "I feel your pain," usually it's kind of patronizing, really. They're just trying to dismiss your problem, without really doing anything.
Yes, it seems that this is possible. Many energy healers say that they can feel --- and sometimes see --- their patients' pain. This can happen also through a deep connection with another person.
From a psychological standpoint, provided the other person has gone through what you're going through, then yes. From a physical standpoint, it's an extremely patronizing thing to say and to my mind invites you to make an honest man out of him with the aid of a hammer and several cutting implements.
Although, I do not believe that someone could literally feel your pain, i do believe that someone who has been through a similar situation would be able to understand the kind of pain the person is in.
I think that people say that because they really do not know what else to say. They are trying to be supportive and sympathetic.
For the mainstream it doesn't sound good when one hears a statement like, "I feel your pain." Maybe it would be better to say, "I can appreciate your pain." The reason I say so is that we all go through pain and want to sometimes connect with the ones feeling the pain. I believe that is what made Opray Winfrey so popular. Many don't realize what she has gone through.
I have worked as an emergency responder and have seen some pretty strong looking grown men cry for seemingly lesser looking injuries than a much more fragile elderly woman. Because of that it has opened my eyes to just care for the injured. Give them hope but be truthful at the same time.
Some believe that by modeling another person you can experience the same feelings as they are. If you think about it, a feeling, although it can hurt very badly, is actually a state of mind. Maybe a person can't understand truly why you are feeling such a pain because that person isn't you, but that person can feel pain just as you can.
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