Why have we given up wearing something that signifies we are in mourning after l

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   maddotposted 13 years ago

   Why have we given up wearing something that signifies we are in mourning after losing a loved one?
   
   When I was child I remember families wearing, usually black, for a period of time after someone they were close to died. Today this practice is no longer in vogue. My concern is that the period of mourning  is no longer able to be identified by the general community which leaves those grieving heavily, at risk of being treated without sensitivity. I wonder why this practice has been abandoned?

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   lavender3957posted 13 years ago

   I have always wondered that to. Our pastor had told us that times have changed and wearing colors to grieve was to help them to heal.

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   seichepreyposted 13 years ago

   That depends on what society and culture you're in.  From WWI to WWII in the western countries it was made socially unacceptable due to the fact that so many families were wearing black.  In middle-eastern countries, as well as slavic, black is still worn and widows will wear that color for the rest of their lives.

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   maddotposted 13 years ago

   I think that some symbol is needed so people can move through their community with  others aware that they need a little extra consideration during this period. It does not necessarily have to be wearing black, just something that signifies loss.
   Let's face it, when you lose a close family member or friend it can really throw your head space and even the smallest things in life can become overwhelming, like shopping for groceries, banking, etc..something that signifies grief would allow others to let these people move through with a minimum of fuss and hassle.
   
   We allow for the physically handicapped but seem to ignore when we are emotionally challenged.

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