Yes Keith, I especially felt that way in my family and in school! First of all in my family, I was the oldest girl and more was expected of me. I had 3 brothers and a younger sister. My mother would lay all her housework on me when I got home from school and if I did not move fast enough she would threaten to hurt me if she didn't already do so! We lived on a farm and there was a lot of work to do. Especially with 5 kids. My brother knocked my front teeth out when I was about 8 years old and that started alot of toment for me at home and in school. I was not only hurt but embarassed and made fun of. Kids at school called me fang! When I was cutting my Eye tooth it grew crosswise down in front where the teeth were knocked out. I had to have a wire wrapped around it so it would swing across the space and back into position, during that time I had just entered High School. It was humiliating just to smile or talk. Sometimes I would run to the bathroom and cry in a stall. My older brother would let me off a block from school. My sister laughed at me and my two younger brothers and older one would laugh and make jokes about it! It hurt really bad. When I went to my 20th reunion many people did not know who I was. I spent a lot of money for bridgework. It is horrible to be laughed at and made a mockery of. I was not popular, I wanted to be a cheerleader, I was not chosen for anything, in school! After that I became a teenage unwed mother, abandoned by my family and left homeless. Then the father of the child and I married, he was violent from his drinking and I stayed with him till the children were grown. When I married my second husband a Jewish Rabbi and singer.......... he and I were asked to go to the Christian Ignaugural and sing for President Bush!!!!!!!!!!! Those who are last will become first! We don't always stay in the valley. Keep your chin up. God is with you thru it all! Just do the right thing! God Bless you!
who I was
All of my life I have felt like a person with their nose pressed up against the glass. I can see the party, I want to be a part of it, but I can't get in.
Yes Im sure we all thought we didn't belong in the school yard, with all the peer pressure and teenage problems associated.
For me, I belong as I know we are all connected as humans on this planet, connected to family, friends, etc
Belonging is very important=goes right back to triabl days.
I did not move fast enough she would threaten to hurt me if she didn't already do so! We lived on a farm and there was a lot of work to do. Especially with 5 kids. My brother knocked my front teeth out when I was about 8 years old and that started alot of toment for me at home and in school.
I am a very shy and self conscience person, so I feel like an outcast in most environments. Not belonging is pretty much a way of life for me but I'm working on it .
In terms of functioning as expected in the messed up society we have, I always feel like I don't belong, and don't want to belong. Much more comfortable carving my own path in life than hopping on the conveyer belt of conformity.
Feeling that you don't belong is an emotion. Our thoughts change all the time and same way our emotions change. When our mood is not happy, we feel sad, then we feel that we don't belong, otherwise we are all belong to each other. It is our own feeling. So nothing to worry, our thoughts chnge all the time, when we have positive thoughts, we feel connected and belonging. Try to live positive and do good things.
Humans are unique individuals yet seek comfort in associating with generalized groups (aka "fitting in"). Consider this feeling a sign of your individuality and an inevitable aspect of being a human being. Everyone shares this feeling. Ironically, we are all connected in this. Embrace it.
All the time. I grew up wondering if I should of even been here. Not that I shouldn't of been born, but that I should be in another country or something. I didn't work well with other kids my own age and I seemed to be only interested in people older than me. *shrugs* I've gotten over it, if I don't feel comfortable being some where that I think I don't belong, I go some where that I do feel belong and stand out.
That is how I feel. I can’t believe I’m actually at a site like this but it’s getting worse. I’ve long felt I was depressed (my entire life), but this is the first time I’ve actually called it quits. I love life and the experiences of living, I just hate my own life and would wish it upon nobody. I think the only reason why I haven’t succeeded in killing myself is because of one relative in my life. I have to outlive them. But once they go, my expiration will be soon after. Probably the same day.
There is absolutely nothing wrong in my life with the exception that I don’t fit in.. anywhere. I try to be social, I try to meet new people, but it always fails. I feel God put a curse on me. There’s only so many times where you can tell yourself ”it’s not you, it’s them”. I’m long beyond that point.
If you knew all about me you’d probably tell me to shut up my life is fine and wonder what my problem is – and I completely agree with you. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I think I’m a pretty regular guy. I’m in good shape,attractive i dont know you must tell me haha, I can hardly make ends meet, I have no debt, a great family. But I’m otherwise alone in the world. Every day is redundant. I’m bored to death. I work full time, no time for fun,come home late, eat dinner or whatever,check emails, then sleep. For what? What’s the point? The nights I do go out, people (especially my friends) tell me I’m creepy when I don’t even know what I did!? Forget about talking to girls, they never acknowledge me or act like I’m on crack. Even mediocre girls where I don’t have much interest. People tell me I’m too nice and wear my heart on my sleeve.
I’ve tried group activities and other things with friends but it always leaves me feeling worse, wishing I had never gone out to begin with. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve actually made new friends, only for us to lose touch within a few months. I’m not a bad person at all.Sometimes I do feel great when I get out and things go good, but those days are so rare.
What brought me to the site and the desire to speak up is lately I’ve been moody and hard to please,I dont know what got into me!
I just don’t feel that I’m needed or wanted in this world. If I were gone, nobody would miss me. I don’t matter. With the exception of my one relative.
Sure, we members of a church, and everyone there was family. They mishandled money and this is a crime. They would let you know , yoou were not from this town. We left the church and never looked back!
Constantly. When I was younger I had no clue where I was likely to belong. Now I am quite content as long as I have no big crowds to navigate.
This has been a constant struggle for all my life. I am an introvert by nature. I do not like crowds. I have no desire to sit in the rain and watch football game. I do not get excited over the Superbowl, a golf tournament or anything like that.
I am a loner. I really do not have a problem with that--other people do. There are always people trying to get me involved in some activity, group or event that holds no interest for me.
To some I sound like a very dull person. I have my family, my dogs, reasonably good health and my share of problems ranging from unemployment to lousy insurance at the moment.
I have worked with people who would tell the entire office some of the most liniment details of their personal lives. I have know others who will mention a name and then tell me who that person is married to and then the spouse's mother who went to school with her mother when they lived next door to the man who later owned the car dealership...
I make no apologies and I do not worry about it. I play with my dogs, write Hubs, answer these questions and if put to the test can recall almost every event in my life and even remember almost every news story or column I wrote when I worked for a newspaper. That is just who I am.
Yes, especially in junior high school. There was so much difference in social standings in our school. We had over 400 hundred one grade level alone and when you are the new kid on the block, it can be very lonely.
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