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How often does the fear of dying affect you?

  1. rmcleve profile image78
    rmcleveposted 5 years ago

    How often does the fear of dying affect you?

  2. Dubuquedogtrainer profile image61
    Dubuquedogtrainerposted 5 years ago

    Only when driving in my car and experiencing the way some people drive!

    1. afriqnet profile image52
      afriqnetposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      In Kenya I think Driving is fearsome than any other experience. Many people lose their lives due to irresponsible driving we have numerous campaigns to change this behavior and possible curb the road carnage.

  3. Sirus Hunt profile image61
    Sirus Huntposted 5 years ago

    If you mean the fear of death and its inevitability, I feared it  most when I was Christian ironically, and I fear it much less now as an Atheist. I guess the void sounds much more blissful to me than an afterlife.

    1. rmcleve profile image78
      rmcleveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I can definitely understand that. Neither perspectives have given me much peace, but I'm glad that you've found a good way of looking at it. Personally, agnosticism has helped me the most (but it took the longest to cope with).

  4. teaches12345 profile image95
    teaches12345posted 5 years ago

    Like everyone else, I think about it as I hear of it, but not in fear.  We were born into this earth and at some point will have to depart.  Hopefully, in a natural way!  However, Being a Christian, I do believe man is immortal and that our earthly death does not end who we really are.  Many choose to believe differently, but in the end it will all be revealed.

    1. rmcleve profile image78
      rmcleveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I try to keep a very simple, natural perspective and remember that we all came from the earth and must all return. Thanks for sharing!

  5. Eric Calderwood profile image85
    Eric Calderwoodposted 5 years ago

    It used to affect me a lot more than it does now.  Now that I'm older and have experienced life, my perspective is different.  Of course, I don't think that I could face death without my personal faith in Jesus Christ.

  6. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 5 years ago

    I think about it as I am now 60 and my parents died at age 53 and 49 - so it does cross my mind. I am not really afraid of death but not looking forward to it either as so often the end can be miserable as in cases of cancer etc.

    1. Dubuquedogtrainer profile image61
      Dubuquedogtrainerposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      We may be raptured out of here before we have to experience death. I'm almost 57 - close to your age.

    2. rmcleve profile image78
      rmcleveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      That's true. One of my friends used to attend Catholic school where the nuns would tell them, "Children, pray for a good death!" It couldn't hurt!

  7. ananceleste profile image76
    anancelesteposted 5 years ago


    This is very interesting question. By the time I was 17 I had my first heart attack and stroke. By the time I was 20, my kidneys and joints were almost caput.When I was diagnosed my lupus at 25, I was told by an idiot with a medical degree that I had at best 5 to ten years because of the damage to my heart, kidneys and brain. I was devastated. My kids were little and my husband was at odds with the news. I actually had to plan for when I die. Big mistake. When 2 years passed I decided to put that aside and enjoy my kids and try to live as if I had no expiration date. 

    It has been 7 years and I am still here, unafraid and quite content. My kids are in high school, and all that praying and bargaining with God to let me see them grow paid up. I know it will come, but I am not wasting one minute thinking about it. I have more important things to do. LIVE !

    1. rmcleve profile image78
      rmcleveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      This is a beautiful story and you have been blessed with this wonderful family. I'm glad you're doing so much better! Thanks for sharing!

  8. anam hasib profile image59
    anam hasibposted 5 years ago

    it does to some extent..i think of dying n then i think of my parents n my gf n evry1 who loves me..n i feel bad for them.Further on there is some fear that i cant explain which horrifies me when i think of death,maybe that's what we call fear of death..big_smile.There is this religious side also where i think how could i be in heaven after sinning so much.So i want to live and do things the right way so that i can end up at the right place.

  9. InCourage profile image60
    InCourageposted 5 years ago

    I am not afraid of dying but I am afraid of leaving.  I am so afraid of missing something that my children might do or say.  I don't want to miss anything.  I don't want to not be there when they need a friend because sometimes the world can be very big and life can get terribly lonely... and as long as I am here that can't happen.  I don't want to leave my wife.  I want to be able to take a slow walk with her at the end of every day.  I want to ask her how's she's doing when I see the clouds on her brow.  I want to tell her that I love her just because it sounds nice in the quiet moments shared just between us.  Dying is not frightening but living in any condition without them is terrifying.

    1. rmcleve profile image78
      rmcleveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      That's a very interesting way of responding and I understand. Thank you for sharing with us.

  10. MickeySr profile image81
    MickeySrposted 5 years ago

    . . . it doesn't.

    . . . and because red letters are telling me "Your answer is too short. Please make it longer." I will say, it really, really doesn't, honestly.

    1. rmcleve profile image78
      rmcleveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      That's good!

  11. bhargvi sharma profile image48
    bhargvi sharmaposted 5 years ago

    I don't ever experienced the fear of dying i enjoy my life & live every moment of my life as i prefer adding life to the days i live on this earth rather than putting days into my life...  big_smile

  12. DzyMsLizzy profile image96
    DzyMsLizzyposted 5 years ago

    I'm not "afraid of dying," it happens to all of us.  What concerns me (as opposed to fear) is of checking out before I finish the things I want to do.
    Any fear involves pain.  I would rather (as I'm sure most would...) drift off to sleep and not wake up.  I don't deal well with pain, and I don't want to go out that way.
    Like the Kenny Rogers song, "The Gambler" says:  "The best you can hope for is to die in your sleep."

    1. rmcleve profile image78
      rmcleveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I think if we all lived a little bit more like we wanted to take advantage of this precious opportunity we would have fewer checklist items! Let's just do it!

      Thanks for sharing! smile

  13. Vegas Elias profile image28
    Vegas Eliasposted 5 years ago

    I don't think the fear of dying can last very long. The more you think about death the more you find the fear of death to be futile because there is absolutely nothing you can do to prevent death. Once this point drives down into our conscience and sub-conscience death becomes an acceptable future event and the fear reduces if not completely vanishes. I used to fear death in my childhood but now that I am old I do not fear it.

    1. rmcleve profile image78
      rmcleveposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I'm glad that you were able to handle the fear of death. Your logic does work here and I agree. The more time I spend inside my fear and thinking about it, the more I realize it doesn't matter what I think. Thanks for sharing.

  14. afriqnet profile image52
    afriqnetposted 5 years ago

    Over the years I have learn not to fear death but sometimes I get to fear death when I see people shot or in accidents but of late I have become immune

  15. Pandapocalypse profile image73
    Pandapocalypseposted 5 years ago

    To me I think the fear of death is really the fear of departing from our friends and loved ones.  In this case knowing that these people will be okay in your absence can really help you cope with leaving.

    As a kid I was terrified of dying, to the point of frequent tears.  As I've gotten older I find that I'm more okay with the mysterious and unknown, so that's helped a lot.