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What do we fear most? Death or the process of dying?

  1. IDONO profile image80
    IDONOposted 4 years ago

    What do we fear most? Death or the process of dying?

    I know. Weird ? But sometimes, we fear getting to a moment of truth more than the truth itself. Is it the anticipation that can be more stressful than the result? Is it the fear of the unknown? Do we look at dying as an event and death the result of that event? Chime in!

  2. Ericdierker profile image53
    Ericdierkerposted 4 years ago

    IDONO, right now I am sitting here checking up on email before,,,, my 3.8 year old and I take a nap. Sorry dude, we went for a great hike and bike ride today. And the park and the pet store (call that mini-zoo) And we had a picnic --- .
    So the nap together is like heaven.
    A song or maybe two. A little bed jumping first. Then some chit chat and then just drift away into happy and knowing that the nap is good for us.
    And we know we have a water fight when we get up and some good fruit to eat.
    Like I said, heaven.
    I think there is heaven when we "fall asleep" that last time. I have been resuscitated twice. No big deal, I was not leaving, that was not an option.
    As we like to laugh I am a boo boo head. But my head is loved by my Lord and the Trinity as one. And I think the gig guy has a plan for me.
    Think this way. If I really am such a jackass that I go to a hell, I look forward to that even. Because I have had such pleasure in my life and in my love and loves that I would gladly pay that price for the awesome goodness I have received. Hey man I have had great joy and goodness given to me.   Have you ever owed somebody and were just really happy to be paying them off,, felt good about yourself for sacrificing to pay back and it brought you happiness.
    Whatever I get when I die --- that will be what it will be for me.

    (if there is nothing, then who cares because hahaha I already went to heaven on earth.)

    1. IDONO profile image80
      IDONOposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I feel it everyday! Every time I do something to help another alcoholic stay sober, it feels good to give back what was so freely given to me. Mine is a debt of gratitude which can never be paid off. I can feel that until life's end, if I choose.

  3. Cre8tor profile image98
    Cre8torposted 4 years ago

    So some will say they don't fear dying but I say in most cases people do. Whether it be the process or the result I don't think too many people separate the two. That said, it's funny that so many do fear dying (myself included to a degree) since no one has any idea what it's like or will be like upon our results. (Actually, many of us have experienced a close call though which may shed a little light on the process based on that specific experience.) I suppose as is usually the case, we have more fear of what we don't know than the actual matter at hand. Like kids in the dark, they fear what they can't see and their imaginations run wild. Me personally, I'm not so afraid as I am not prepared to leave my family in our current situation.

    1. IDONO profile image80
      IDONOposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      And I'm sure your family isn't ready for you to go. Unfortunately, death doesn't wait for you to be prepared. If it did, we'd live forever. Whether financially, physically or spiritually, we just need to know that we did the best we could at the time

  4. Bishop55 profile image92
    Bishop55posted 4 years ago

    for me in my current frame of mind, it's the process.  I believe we transcend to something better, I'd just prefer not to go out in total agony.

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    JThomp42posted 4 years ago

    I do think most will say they fear the act of dying. It is the unknown, and therefore feared. No one wants to die a terrible excruciating death. And no one knows how or when they will go. Again, the fear of the unknown.

    Saying that. if one is a child of God they know where they will be after they leave this world. Although I am sure of this, I must admit the "act" of passing away is bothersome.

  6. bethperry profile image92
    bethperryposted 4 years ago

    I am not afraid of what waits beyond, but yes, I do hope when my time comes it won't be real painful.

  7. thumbi7 profile image62
    thumbi7posted 4 years ago

    As a person working in the health care field, I see  deaths happening very frequently.
    I have noticed that just before dying many are not aware of what is happening. Even when we run around and do everything and resuscitate in an effort to save their lives, they appear to be peaceful at that time.
    But what I don't like is the suffering they go through before reaching that stage because of hospitalization, admission to icu, intubation etc. Patients are apprehensive during this period.
    So I think most people are afraid of the way they are going to die and not about death itself.

  8. old albion profile image70
    old albionposted 4 years ago

    I have a muscle wasting condition which will contribute to my demise. My time is spent at my computer sitting in my wheelchair. I do not fear death though I fear the how and when.
    Last week I was with my beloved 82 year old sister at the time of her passing. She died of lung cancer, in her last days she reached upwards and cried out for her mother on many occasions. This experience made me fear for the future. I am fighting a loss of faith at present because of this. My sister read the bible daily, she prayed every morning and every night. I would not wish her passing on my worst enemy.
    I hope to regain my faith but I have to ask how.