Is there ever a right time to have a baby?

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   Bajangyrl2001posted 13 years ago

   Is there ever a right time to have a baby?
   
   I have always wanted to have 2 or 3 kids, with the current cost of living, I've revised that downward to just having 2 kids.  With the current recession persisting as long as it is, I'm wondering if I should wait a little longer or just go for it now.

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   BraidedZeroposted 13 years ago

   In my opinion the right time to have a kid is when you're financially ready to have one. At least that's the first step, the one that is a constant from person to person. Whenever your husband has a good job that brings in lots of money that can support your family, or your combined income brings in enough, then you're ready. But be ready because you won't go back to work for a while after the baby is born so he either needs to be able to support you on his own or you need a lot of money saved up before having the baby.

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   mommygonebonkersposted 13 years ago

   Nope, it will never feel like the right time. My husband and I were both working full time jobs and we lived in a cute little apartment with amazing rent, but it was still nerve wracking and I kept worrying about finances. But the desire for a baby won out.
   Fast forward 5 years and we have 2 boys, live in a house with a mortgage with only 1 income. I never would have imagined this possible, but with some tweaking to your budget, you can do it.

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   SkeetyDposted 13 years ago

   There is not really a right time to have a baby. I am a Barbadian as well and I know all too well how the Barbadian economy stands.  I had a baby recently, but before I was pregnant, my husband and I discussed having children and one thing we agreed on was that we wanted to own a home first.  Other than trying to be financially secure and preparing for the fact that your relationship with your partner will change; there is no right time.

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   portuguesemomma09posted 13 years ago

   I don't think that anyone is ever "ready" to have children...but you have to take the leap and do it!  I have two children and I can't imagine my life without them! There will always be bills, there will always be something that comes up that wasn't in the "budget" or planned.  If you keep waiting until you think you're financially ready you'll never get there.  Honestly, I think that children just make everthing better!
      The other problem is the longer you wait the slimmer the chances get for woman to get pregnant.  I was always worried about getting pregnant before I was ready and when I wanted to start having children it was harder than expected.  It took 18 months to have my daughter, and I'm glad that I hadn't waited longer because who knows what could have happened to my body while I pushed of having children.
   
   There are some things that you just have to hold your breath and jump, and having kids is one of those things! They change your life! There's no better gift than the gift of being a parent!

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