Is fearing in any way the same as respect?

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   snobletposted 12 years ago

   Is fearing in any way the same as respect?
   
   When someone respects another it seems to be of  positive moral values but when someone fears another it feels like they have something to lose which makes fearing more of a negative moral value.  I'm not sure I am making sense but do you see fear and respect to be the same?

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   jlparkposted 12 years ago

   No I don't.
   Fear of someone is due to abuse of the power that they have.
   Respect is earned by acknowledging that the person that has that power uses it in a positive way, not an abusive way.

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      snobletposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for the answer, I was with some friends and they're pretty religious and I was wondering why is God usually in the same sentence with fear.  They explain something like we have to fear God.. I don't get it.

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      alancaster149posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      They usually don't understand the relationship themselves. It's what's called 'received emotion': they're told on the one hand that 'God' loves them, and on the other hand he's waiting up there with a bolt of lightning in case they put a foot wrong!

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   BlissfulWriterposted 12 years ago

   No, fearing a person is not the same as respecting a person.  I rather be respected than to be feared.

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      snobletposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I agree, being fear comes with some or a lot of hate.

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   Dr Pran Ranganposted 12 years ago

   Fear and respect are two emotions having many conntonations. The expressions of these two emotions depends on the situations, persons and things. We fears all situations which can harm us in any way but at the same time we know that it is an unavoidable situation so we stop fearing it. The exams will evoke the same feeling of fear in a student but he will overcome it in due course of time. He will begin to like the exams and may excel in them.  An common man may fear a powerful politician or a public figure. But if that powerful person has high moral values, he will be feared as well as respected on account of his postion and moral values respectively. On the other hand, if he is corrupt and without morals, he may be feared or may not be.
   
   If a boss is good and courteous to his subordinates, he will be feared as well as respected by his subordinates. He will also influence them in a positive manner. If he is incompetent and discourteous to them, they will only fear him. They may show him respect on account of his position but in fact they will detest him in their heart.
   
   If an ordinary person, who is not known to us in any way, behaves courteously with us, he will immediately have our respect. If a motorist helps a person injured in a road accident and gets him admitted in a hospital for treatment, he will command the respect and gratitude of the victim of the accident throughout his life.
   
   So, as a matter of fact, a person who, does a good deed without anything in return, will command the highest respect. Fear and respect are not the same. We can also see some merging of fear and respect sometimes. Fear is not always a negative emotion and similarly respect is also not always positive.
   
   We all have been conditioned from the beginning to fear God. But God should not be feared as He never harms anyone even the worst of criminals. He will always guide them to ment their ways. So no one should fear God. We all should love him and seek His guidence to lead a better life.

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      snobletposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I thought fear was close to hate with some emotion of terror, when I googled fear it becomes what people want it to be, it says to god fear is respect, and awe but I just beg to differ in all sense of the definition when I searched it.

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      alancaster149posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      'God's love' tends to be a control tool used either as the carrot or the stick. It's just a hangover from the early pre-Christian days of yore. The familiar figures here were Odin/Woden/Wotan who might just as easily let you down as support you.

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   Dr Pran Ranganposted 12 years ago

   Fear and respect are two different emotions having many connotations. Fear has many meanings and expressions. It may arise from possible danger or pain or any unknown adverse outcome of a situation or event. Fear is associated with an urge to escape... read more

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   leakeemposted 12 years ago

   no. As Yoda says "fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering." You would not hate someone you respect right? nor will you suffer if you respect someone. There is always some level of fear when there is respect but respect isn't always present when you fear someone.

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      snobletposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I just fine respect and fear on the opposite end but it's how some people define fear that makes me feel how certain situations are so manipulated to bring one message across while instilling another

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   alancaster149posted 12 years ago

   Fear is not respect. Whereas fear stems from a sense of inferiority or distrust, respect stems from being equal - in all respects.
   You feared the likes of Hitler and Stalin because of what they were likely to do to you if you stepped out of line. You respected the likes of Churchill and Roosevelt because they respected you, and even if you disagreed with them you'd still be able to come to agreement with them later.
   Your relationship with your god depends on how you see yourself.

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      snobletposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Not sure I have a relationship with god or if there is I don't know about it.  I keep hearing people speak about fear in the same sense I would think its respect and vice versa, it's weird.

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      alancaster149posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That last line was for those that do 'have a relationship' in an abstract sense. Everybody has something that either sets them on edge or gives them comfort - it can even be the same thing.

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   royalblkroseposted 12 years ago

   absolutely NOT. respect is earned, and an acknowledgement that you care for and hold in high esteem a person or relationship and you want the other party( the one you RESPECT,) to see you in a positive light, as you see them
   
   FEAR, on the other hand means that you are uncomfortable around the other person, they exercise some kind of power or authority over you and they exercise that power or authority in a manner that leaves you feeling threatened, uncomfortable and weak.

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