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What is the basis upon which you make your every day decisions?

  1. Call me Jon profile image60
    Call me Jonposted 5 years ago

    What is the basis upon which you make your every day decisions?

    For example: For me, although I am only 19, I try to make my decisions based on whether the outcome is something I will be proud to tell my children.  I have always looked up to my parents and everything they do seems to be with my sister and myself in mind.


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    JustCraftyposted 5 years ago

    I use the morals and ethics that were instilled in me by my parents.  I also use the knowledge and wisdom that I gained from a long time friend and attorney who has made a great name for himself over the past 45 years at the same law firm of which he also now owns.

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      Call me Jonposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Those seem like excellent sources for your basis for decision making.  Do you believe that there is anything in our lives that can not be influenced by others?

  3. RNMSN profile image89
    RNMSNposted 5 years ago

    First Do No Harm is the best rule of thumb/whether called golden rule or karma or whatever...fdnh always works! beautiful pastel by the way!

    1. Call me Jon profile image60
      Call me Jonposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      That is very true RNMSN! How do you decide if harm is unavoidable though?

  4. Deepak Chaturvedi profile image73
    Deepak Chaturvediposted 5 years ago

    It is based on my knowledge and experiences which I have gaine through my life and ofcourse from the elders'advises.

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      Call me Jonposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Emanate Presence stated above that intuition is a powerful method of decision making.  Has your intuition ever conflicted with your knowledge/experience/elders' advise?

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    Garifaliaposted 5 years ago

    For a 19 year old to be so mature, your parents have obviously had you at heart in their everyday lives. I too have my children's needs and well being at heart. That is why I get up at 5:55 am every day and work Monday to Sunday. Seeing them happy and secure is all that matters. Good for you Jon, all the best to you.

    Is that beautiful painting of you and your father?

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      Call me Jonposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Garifalia!  I hope one day I will be able to love and care for my children and family as well as you do.  And unfortunately no it is a painting done by Kay Crain entitled "Matt and Eli."  Thanks for answering!

  6. Emanate Presence profile image76
    Emanate Presenceposted 5 years ago


    Intuition is my guide for everyday decisions.

    It may mean letting go of doing something that seems to benefit another, but actually interferes with their choices for their lives. I have to step back and see the larger picture with neutrality.

    Or it may mean that being true to myself will appear to hurt others. My lesson may be to accept that I cannot be responsible for their emotional reactions - I can only be responsible for my own.

    Intuition always guides me in the way of the virtues such as authenticity, courage, compassion and higher wisdom. Not that I always act in accordance to the guidance, but it is there, in the inner voice, when I still my self enough to hear it.

    A choice to not hurt someone's feelings has often resulted in a hard lesson to be more true to myself.

    Sometimes in every day decisions I have acted with what I thought was generosity and later realized was motivated by seeking attention or wanting to be righteous or some other self-benefit. A choice to serve Life, not self-centered desires, will keep the lessons coming and the guidance becomes clearer if not easier to follow. It is not just what I do, but how it is done that matters.

    How can one discern the voice of intuition from that of ego or mass consciousness? It always comes with peace, stable wisdom, and a feeling of expansion.

    How can one still the mind enough to hear the inner voice? The mind can be calmed by the will with focus on the unobstructed breath. Also, by improvisational toning such as through the vowels and being an instrument for the breath.

    Intuition is experienced as a clear feeling or an inner knowing in the heart, seen in an inner vision or heard as an inner voice. It can be brought into awareness by sitting or walking alone in nature, feeling compassion and trust for a perfect situation, accepting one's own shadows, feeling love and appreciation for one's self and our human down falls - as they are great stepping stones to the realization of our full potential.

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      Call me Jonposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Emanate Presence,
      Have there ever been circumstances in which your intuition has led you astray? Also, do you believe your intuition is subject to your own decisions as an individual or do you believe that fate has a hand in it?

  7. Escobana profile image76
    Escobanaposted 5 years ago

    Very simple. I base all of my daily and bigger decisions on my heart and head.

    Merely on a hunch I based my decision to move to another country, though I knew logically that I had a lot of chances to make it work.

    If I'm wrong in deciding I go from there, assuming there's a message in it, telling me it wasn't meant to be.

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    Emily Sparksposted 5 years ago

    I ask myself.....what does the Bible say?  Would God be pleased with my action?

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    WriterCooperativeposted 5 years ago

    Hi Jon,

    Have you ever felt a tug-of-war between two choices?

    Part of you would choose left, part would choose right.

    What are those parts of you? People give them names like ego and conscience.

    Those two 'parts' would have different perspectives on your question of being led astray by intuition.

    My ego, the 'small me' I sometimes call Igor, is temporal and highly influenced by my surroundings and mass consciousness.

    Igor would say, "Yes, intuition got me into a lot of trouble. Gary followed, and it was a big discomfort."

    My Higher Self or Spirit is the eternal being I am before this lifetime, through it and after.

    When I am true to myself, that is the one I am true to.

    My true Self would say, "Intuition has never led me astray."

    There is a third 'part' of me in this body, as Will can make a choice between the intuitive guide and the urge of Igor.

    Intuition only points out a possible direction and the decision is subject to Will.

    Yes, destiny does have a hand in it. Destiny shows up in life events, 'coincidental' happenings which we call signs and synchronicity. I could illustrate with numerous stories from life experience.

    You asked, 'Has your intuition ever conflicted with your knowledge/experience/elders' advise?'

    Intuition is often counter to popular wisdom, personal opinions of others and even my own wishes. Trusting it can require a big leap of faith, and stretching the mind to accept a larger picture. We are not here to live the lives of others, but to find our own true path and live it fully.

    Your questions are appreciated. Keep asking with a sincere heart, and Life will answer.

    Jon, I would be glad to continue the dialog with you. The Questions column though is not designed for longer inter-actions. Contact me if you want through my profile at Emanate Presence (click on the blue feather, send me an email.)