Do you listen to you gut?

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   Jane@CMposted 15 years ago

   Do you listen to your gut instinct or for some women they call it woman's intuition?
   
   Have you ever had a feeling that something really just didn't feel right?  I'm going through this right now, everything says "NO" about a certain situation.  I have to ignore it.

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      rebekahELLEposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      why are you ignoring it?? 
      
      I think it's important to listen to that still small voice.
      I've not listened to it enough times to know that I need to.
      I really try to listen even if it seems strange, or not what I want.

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   Black Lillyposted 15 years ago

   I always listened to my intuition (more or less), and everything went ok.
   I ignored it completely once, and... my life turned to hell.
   Now I'm back to listening to my guts, feels ok.
   
   Listen to your instincts - they can tell you more than all your logic multiplied by millions.

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   Rayalternatelyposted 15 years ago

   I think it's a plausible theory. I sometimes "know" something isn't right with no tangible evidence to support this "feeling".
   
   We absorb more information than we remember in our concious memories so it's possible that we have information to support our emotional response, even though we can't remember what it is.
   
   ...and probably more so for women, hence having an expression to sum it up!

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   Black Lillyposted 15 years ago

   well, it's due to our instincts that we survived, as a mankind. For millions of years.
   
   Subconscious mind, or instinct, of gut feeling, or call it whatever you like, makes the same conclusions and gives answers to the same questions. Just it analyzes a lot more factors - most of these our conscious mind doesn't even know about.
   
   That's the reason it's better to trust your intuition - it never lies.

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   blue dogposted 15 years ago

   always listen to your inner voice.  it's there for a reason.

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   dave272727posted 15 years ago

   Absolutely.  I am alive today because of my gut feelings.  If something doesn't "feel" right, then something is probably wrong.

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   Jane@CMposted 15 years ago

   What if the conflict involves the entire family?
   
   I can't go into details, because this is the world wide net & who knows who sees what I post.
   
   I try to rethink the feeling & wonder if I'm just negative to the matter at hand which is creating the negative gut feeling?

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      blue dogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      sounds like intuition. go with it.

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         Revive@OwnRiskposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         I'm with blue dog. Best to quietly stick to your guns. You could make your feelings known to those who insist, but after that, you really don't need to elaborate much. I've done that before and it's paid off.

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            Jane@CMposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            As I posted above, its about our lively hood, its a job offer half way across the US.  I'm more at ease with it now.

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      rebekahELLEposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      that's a tough one, but ultimately something only you can answer.
      

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   Black Lillyposted 15 years ago

   Gut feeling stays the same, whatever your thoughts are.
   
   The question here is whether you hear your inner voice, or just want to hear it, thus confusing it with simple emotions/attitude.

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   zampanoposted 15 years ago

   I sure agree with Black Lilly.
   In my life, the most important decisions I had to make were never dictated by reasonable thinking : marriage, career choice, divorce, professional metamorphosis.
   Always one ounce calculation and tons of gut feeling.
   Some people say : I don't think, I feel.
   There's some good rationality in that.

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    wannabwesternposted 15 years ago

    From what very little you have said it sounds like you might be facing a major upheaval.
    
    The truth can set you free but it also hurts. I'll say a little prayer for you.

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    elayne001posted 15 years ago

    There have been times when I ignored my inner voice and was sorry - hope it doesn't happen to you this time.

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    Pearldiverposted 15 years ago

    Your gut feeling is your subconcious mind telling you to listen.
    You know what to do. The information that you are being asked to listen to, comes as a result of all the things your already know about the subject..

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    Jane@CMposted 15 years ago

    I am listening, trust me.  After next Wednesday, I'll have more information. I'll see if that changes anything.
    
    I need to quit researching

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       Pearldiverposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       SEE!!! You Knew Stop looking.. It will come to you and it will feel right. Just like Love Jane

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    rmcrayneposted 15 years ago

    I used to say, “the less and less young I get, I've found that I'm right way more than I'm wrong”.  Now I say I'm damn near never wrong.  I've had enough times where I second guessed myself, and regretted it because I was right.  Now I trust myself most of the time.  Being right, and standing strong by it however, can be a lonely position.
    
    The other side, where I would advise caution, is being in your head rationalizing bad thinking or bad behavior. 
    
    You probably know where you fit.  Trust yourself.  Be strong and best of luck.

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    travelespressoposted 15 years ago

    Great question!  I try to listen to my (very active and opinionated) gut.  I do have trouble trusting it when rational information seems to contradict it and many times I have chosen to trust the information.  Usually the gut is right so I'm learning (still) to trust it even more!

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    mtsi1098posted 15 years ago

    I always go with my instinct because I have learned to trust it...those time when I could not go with my instinct I had to calculate the end result of all paths

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    Money Glitchposted 15 years ago

    My intuition has never failed me...
    I'm learning more and more everyday to listen to that little voice.  I've even tracked some of the times that I haven't listened and I've regretted not doing so. 
    
    Family matters are always sticky situations. But, I'd be willing to bet that your intuition is correct...No matter how ugly your suspicions, chances are you're probably right or awfully close to whatever the truth is. 
    
    I say if you believe someone maybe in danger, you have to tell them. However, if you suspect someone is in a bad relationship, chances are they already know it, and is just not ready to talk about it. :0
    
    Good Luck with your decision!

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    Jane@CMposted 15 years ago

    Okay, the gut feeling diminished after I stopped researching.  The story - hubby went to Vermont for a job interview last week.  Prior to the interview, my intuition was screaming "no".
    
    He received an job offer today.  I'm so torn.
    
    They will fly my son & I out prior to him accepting the offer so we can look around the area and check out the school.
    
    We'll be exchanging a MN winter for a VT winter.
    
    Cost of living - higher
    Taxes - WAY higher
    Salary - less
    Job - higher level than he was at...
    We'll be leaving my daughter behind.
    
    So if you could send good thoughts, prayers, whatever floats your boat as we move forward and see if this will be a good fit for our family.

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       Denno66posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       VT is beautiful, but the lesser wages are going to be a drain on everything. Just a thought. I do wish you the best, however.

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          Revive@OwnRiskposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Sending all the above. Going with instinct is a combination of facts and deductive reasoning, I have learned. You get cues and clues about what's to come and your heart will verify it, usually. So you've got a lot going in your favor in sorting through all this info. Best to you and your family.

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    starme77posted 15 years ago

    Well, being adopted twice, once by drug addicts and once by cinderellas step mother (literally) I have been one to go on instincts my entire life. Followed my gut and it has always worked out for the good in one way or another, even if at the time I didn't think it had, later , I found out it had.

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    torimariposted 15 years ago

    Unless it's really strong, I usually am a mind over emotion and instinct. Usually for me going with what is logical rather than instinctual, depending on the situation, works better for me.

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    prettydarkhorseposted 15 years ago

    instinct when it comes to love

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    mtsi1098posted 15 years ago

    There is a saying in football that you live and die with the blitz...Same goes for my instinct

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    wavegirl22posted 15 years ago

    I think that Eleanor Roosevelt said it perfect .
    
    
    To handle yourself, use your head
    To handle others, use your heart.

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    Jane@CMposted 15 years ago

    Excellent quote!

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