What is one bad experience from your past that has proved to be a good thing at

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   Violet Flameposted 11 years ago

   What is one bad experience from your past that has proved to be a good thing at the end?
   
   Could you share a very bad personal experience in the past which, some time later, has proven to have a rather positive impact on your life or life path?
   p.s. it probably shouldn't be under "health" topic but I couldn't find "personal growth"...if you know where that is, it will be much appreciated too, lol.

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   Renee Abbottposted 11 years ago

   Moving in with someone I trusted, to find out he was nothing that I thought, or knew him to be. I left, losing everything that was mine, late hubbies plus my cat. It was a nightmare. I though faced the damsel in me, and made her rescue herself.
   My self-worth, self-esteem and self-empowerment all came back. It wasnt lost, just hidden deeply within me. I forgave the guy and myself. My life is great now, being alone, with friends, doing what makes me happy.

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      Violet Flameposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Renee for the generous sharing of your experience. It must have been a terrible shock to find out his true colour.  Having to lose all everything and start afresh must be hard at the time. I applaud your courage and I love your wisdom!

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   kmaskreationsposted 11 years ago

   When I was a teenager, our family moved.  My Dad was forced to find another job and we moved 500 miles away. I felt i would never recover from leaving my boyfriend, grandparents, home and childhood friends. This might not seem like a very bad experience to some, but to me it was devastating.  But I soon met the love of my life in a new high school and, 46 years later, can say he's the best thing that ever happened to me

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      Violet Flameposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you kmaskreations for the generous sharing of your experience. Awww that's definitely a wonderful story book example of a bad experience giving birth to a great thing! Thank goodness 4 that move! Even though it was devastating for u at the time

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   always exploringposted 11 years ago

   When i first started nursing training, i had some horrible experiences and thought about quitting daily but i stuck with it and found a joy in the field..

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      Violet Flameposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you always exploring 4 the generous sharing of your experience. I've always thought it takes a strong person 2 b a nurse! It's not a mean feast and u deserve 2 take pride in what you have achieved. Dare I ask what kind of horrible experiences?

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   teaches12345posted 11 years ago

   I was fired from a position that was not a good fit for me.  I tried to make it work and was determined to stick it out even when things were dismal.  In the end, it helped me to access my career path and to make better decisions when seeking employment.

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      Violet Flameposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you teaches12345 for the generous sharing of ur experience. That sounds a bit like my first marriage! Ha ha. It must have been horrible at the time, but once u found the right job, I bet ur strong ethic and determination became a powerful asset

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   Dr. Haddoxposted 11 years ago

   I had to give up my "medical profession," a practice that I loved, to return home to the farm to help my mom and dad (my father was suffering from an illness). I did not want to see them lose their family farm.
   My dad has, since I have returned, died. He died 5 years ago. My mom would be alone on the farm, or worse, in a nursing home, if I had not returned to the farm. Now my mom's heath is failing her. I help her, to dress her wounds, daily, and I prepare her food, keep her house clean, etc., etc.
   I also have helped our farm to evolve into an education and training farm where people can come to learn Japanese Nature farming, sustainable agriculture, and sustainable, agri-business practices.
   I have become a "fairly-decent" educator and I am still able to use the knowledge and skills that I learned in medical practice to good use, teaching others.
   This fact, that I have essentially been able to evolve my professional live into something really good, is a very good thing.
   Thank you.
   Regards,
   Dr. Haddox

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      Violet Flameposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Dr. Haddox for the generous sharing of your experience. I admire your self sacrificing way of saving your family farm and caring for your parents. I'm so glad it has evolved into something more and the world is benefiting from ur knowledge!

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   peeplesposted 11 years ago

   My childhood was very painful. I spent the first 14 years being abused in every ay possible by my father followed by the next 5 years in foster care. At the time it was horrible. Looking back now I realize that it made me an awesome person. The horrible things taught me lessons, made me a better wife and mother, and helped me never give up on life. Everything about me was somewhat made by the childhood I went through.

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      Violet Flameposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank u peeples 4 the generous sharing of ur experience. I would like 2 applaud ur courage and ur strength 4 not only surviving ur childhood but 4 thriving into an awesome person. Thank u 4 all th healing u've done so now u could show others the way!

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   JThomp42posted 11 years ago

   Everything bad that has happened in my life has made me the person I am today. God has a plan for each of us. Some just have it worse than others. For this, I think I have become a better person.

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      Violet Flameposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you JThomp42 for your wisdom. It is so very true that some of us come across more trials then others, but no experience is ever wasted if we could turn it into a treasure trove of learnings.

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      JThomp42posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Violet!

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   Rosie writesposted 11 years ago

   I worked in Detroit inner city schools for a few years before moving out of state.  It was my first teaching experience and was rough, but it made me the teacher I am today.  I did not learn to be tough, but I did learn to be compassionate, to pay attention, and to notice everything.  I am able to help children with problems because I can identify them.  I am able to see reasons behind behaviors because of my experiences, and it gives me insight into a child's circumstances.  I understand fully that a child's basic needs must be met in order for them to want to learn anything, and I use every resource to help them.

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      Violet Flameposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Rosie writes for the generous sharing of your experience. I couldn't even imagine how those early rough years must have been like 4 u but I am so happy 4 your students. They r lucky to have someone like u with your love, skill n compassion

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    rpmadeiraposted 11 years ago

    A small car crash after drinking, i was 17 (no victmis). Never again i join alcool and cars, and i'm 40 now. Never.

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       Violet Flameposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Thank you rpmadeira for sharing! I am so glad no one was too badly hurt and that you are with us today! A lot of young drink drivers aren't as lucky. The things we do when we were young. Sometimes I think it's extremely lucky just 2 make it this far

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    snerfuposted 11 years ago

    I got robbed when I was a kid. Now, I always watch out for the "extra smart" guys.

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    Cleo Rubinoposted 11 years ago

    The worst experience in my life is when people don't believe me that I can succeed. This hold me down for a long time but as time pass I realized that I don't need someone who believe me just to succeed, I can do it myself. In this experience I learned to stand up for myself because of you want something done you should do it you, yourself and only you. This lead me to the success I was looking for and because of this those people who don't believe in me, believed in me. In this experience I learned, actions are stronger than words because if you said something but not done it then it. Then you'll be lying to yourself. But when you said something and done it, there you will face the truth to your success.

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