Share everything with your partner is good or bad?

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   M K Paulposted 12 years ago

   Sometimes we share every small things with our partner.What you think, Is it good or bad?

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      Daughter Of Maatposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I can only speak for myself and my husband. For us, we share absolutely everything, and it's a beautiful thing. We are completely ourselves with each other and there is no other feeling like that in the world. For us, it's a REALLY good thing.
      
      But I suspect it wouldn't be that way for every relationship, or every stage of a relationship. Some people are more private than others and so don't share their every thought. My husband and I, on the other hand, try to describe our thoughts down to the very last detail so the one can feel like they are inside the mind of the other. But not everyone wants that kind of relationship. So in answer to your question, I think it depends on the couple and the type of relationship they have. For me, it's an awesome thing.

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      Ramsa1posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think that it's a good idea to share everything. Money, for example, should be his and hers, kept separate. Sometimes it's best to leave things unsaid, and to be diplomatic.

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   tobey100posted 12 years ago

   It's good but only in the movies.  In real life doesn't work too good.  Not sure how long I've been married but my oldest son is 35.  I've learned to keep my mouth shut unless it's something important.  If she wears a dress that makes her look the size of a small African nation I don't tell her that.  I say I really don't like that dress, the blue one makes you look like a movie star.  Also, sharing diseases ain't a good idea.

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      Ramsa1posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with your views on this Tobey.

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         tobey100posted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Hey, it's kept me out of trouble and happily married.

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   Lisa HWposted 12 years ago

   I'm not a fan of sharing absolutely everything.  I don't think it's necessarily "the greatest thing" for a lot of reasons.  I think there are ways to have a "share-close-to-everything" kind of relationship but still keep a few thoughts to oneself.  Another aspect to people sharing every last thing with a spouse/partner is that friends will learn not to share anything with that person, because friends may want to share with a close friend - but not the friend's partner/spouse.  I just don't think being in a relationship should mean a person will end up more distant (at least in some ways) from close friends and relatives.  Some people would say a person shouldn't need more close friends if s/he is in a relationship; but that seems a little too "cloistered" to me.  BUT, to each his own.  I'm only stating my own preference.

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   wychicposted 12 years ago

   My husband and I do share every thought, due in large part to the fact that we both work at home, we share an office, and we truly are best friends. However, we have both been attempting to put a muzzle on it in some respects, just because we get fired up about different things and don't necessarily care to hear the other go on about something ad nauseum. For example, I'm trying to resist expressing my enthusiasm for certain parts of my work. I discovered this one day after several hours of listening to a particular client of mine speak. He is a brilliant person who obviously loves what he does, he always has very educational things to say, but gets very, very excited about his subject. At the end of the work day I discussed this client with my husband, stating, "I love the work and I learn so much from him, but can you imagine being married to that?" My husband just gave me a meaningful look and said, "Yes, honey, I can."
   
   Soooo going forward, we intend to continue sharing everything with each other...except slightly abridging anything to do with marketing from me, and anything to do with politics from him.

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   anupmaposted 12 years ago

   I think we must share much thing but not everything. Because sometimes it causes problems in life.

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   Cheeky Girlposted 12 years ago

   "Sometimes" is the keyword to that statement. Some "subjects" on the other hand are a no-no. I had a guy who loved sharing all things with me, but he wouldn't share his newspaper if he was reading it. Even the parts and sections on sports that he had not read yet!
   
   Another guy was wonderful but never shared one thing, and it was a childhood prank that lead to someone being seriously injured as a result. There is a wee difficulty in sharing some things from a past life, and it pays to tip-toe around some things with care.

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