What is one subject you try to avoid discussing and why?

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  1. dghbrh profile image78
    dghbrhposted 9 years ago

    What is one subject you try to avoid discussing and why?

  2. Erin Wilson profile image61
    Erin Wilsonposted 9 years ago

    This is a terrific question and I thought I'd  throw myself out to the sharks, sort of speak. Isn't it usually those subjects that we are trying to avoid that we really should be throwing out on the table in the open?
    The subject I try to avoid, and it took quite a few minutes for me to actually type this, a bit of a sour stomach, is my relationship with a family member who refuses to speak to me. Its especially painful to be judged by a family member and at times it can lead to very bitter days as I try to understand it.
    I try to avoid it now because it has caused MUCH trouble within the family as a whole and MUCH turmoil in myself. Time to move on and maybe completely forget about him until he's ready to suck it in and move on. Trying to forgive him and forget, that's probably the healthiest thing to do. I'll be here  when he comes round, if he does.

    1. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Many thanks for your reply here. I can understand there is a bridge you crossed today by putting it in writing here. If it gave a little relief then I am thankful to God. I can understand very nicely your situation. Take care, best wishes your way.

  3. janshares profile image94
    jansharesposted 9 years ago

    I avoid deep discussions about politics and religion because, for the most part, people's beliefs in those areas are based on their deeply-rooted, passionately held convictions. If you talk long enough, the "conversation" slowly (or quickly) moves into an uncomfortable  "debate" about who's right, who's wrong, what's best, how to you prove this and that, conspiracy theory, why this, why that, etc, etc, etc, blah, blah, blah. I know debate is good and standing for something is even better, but I'm picky about where I invest my energy. Just saying.

    1. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Very well said and I sure cant agree more. I am of the same opinion as your here in this topic specially. It always kind of trying to prove that one is rite with his/her own view. Thanks

    2. myefforts profile image80
      myeffortsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I agree to your opinion..

  4. KL Klein profile image68
    KL Kleinposted 9 years ago

    Politics and religion. I've made up my mind, they've made up theirs, and there's really just no point in locking horns over it.

    1. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your kind reply here. You have put it in a very short and precise way. I agree with you sure.

  5. profile image0
    JThomp42posted 9 years ago

    I avoid talking about my older brother. He passed away at the age of 41. I still just can't deal with it.

    1. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Its emotional and very deep rooted ......I have understood that much. Its hard to let go sometimes I can understand. My prayers for the departed soul. Take care and Thanks for your reply here.

    2. profile image0
      JThomp42posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you very much dghbrh.

    3. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hope time heals your pain though the lost can never be again replaced. Take care.

  6. Grab a Controller profile image61
    Grab a Controllerposted 9 years ago

    I avoid politics with the majority of my family, and religion for some. Several members of my family are Republicans, and were urging me to vote for Romney in the presidential election. They are aware of my political position, and I do not usually speak about it unless they provoke me into doing so.

    With religion, a lot of family on my stepfather's side are diehard, Bible-thumping Christians. My parents and step parents (on both sides) are not religious, but all believe in some form of higher power. My stepdad's family always looked down to my mom because she never wanted to go to church. As I grew up, I stopped going myself, because I believed that true Christians felt that God loved everyone, and that you don't have to go into a building to just listen to someone talk for two hours to show how much you believe.

    Recently, the topic of human rights have become a touchy subject between me and my family. I believe that everyone has their own rights, and I am a huge supporter of the LGBTQ community. I also believe that women have the right to an aborton, especially in cases of rape. Plenty of my family members (mainly male) have mocked me for my views. So now, I just eep my mouth shut unless I'm asked for my opinion.

    1. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Many thanks for your hearty reply here. The topics you have mentioned here are all very sensitive sure. I agree with you all the way throughout. Thanks again.

  7. hubmuffins profile image60
    hubmuffinsposted 9 years ago

    It depends on the person with whom I am discussing. If they turn out to be bigots, I take my defeat and leave the conversation. Bigots bring you down to their own level.

  8. Borsia profile image40
    Borsiaposted 9 years ago

    Family is #1'; Family dynamics are so complicated under the best of circumstances!
    We who are being asked don't have family background / conflicts / alliances and on and on.
    When someone asks a family related question we can only grasp that second in time of 'What happened".
    Then, of course, we are only getting one filter view, one persons perception, of what really goes on.
    So frequently even what seems like the most logical path isn't often the correct one.
    So ask the question but accept that there is another side. Don't be offended if someone says something that is opposite to yours.
    Religion; I'm atheist, I grew into my version of life based on my experiences and observation throughout life (60 years in my case) and they are just as strong to me as anyone else's are to them.
    I don't care if people want to ask religious / faith based questions and pretext. But after posing a question they want / or commenters want to assume that their belief is somehow proof that we all should accept and believe. If there is no logical line of proof it doesn't exist in my world view, which is open to change but very skeptical. No religious text is proof of anything other than itself.
    I don't try to offend anyone, I hope that I don't., but I answer from my world.
    If someone really wants to see how everyone looks at a question that is fine and legit.
    PLEASE ask away and I will usually answer it for you, from my world.
    It can be about ANYTHING,,,,,, just be prepared for answers and don't take offence.
    Politics; I don't fall into any real party other than Libertarian and I often disagree with them. I believe politics are hopelessly corrupt.
    Conspiracy theories; Very skeptical and usually a non-believer, but open to change. Require actual scientific bases for all views. Consider the shear numbers of people who would have to be involved in "Con Trails"?
    All that said I try to be honest and upbeat. If I have offended anyone,,, sorry don't take things personally.

    1. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      A very complete view on many aspects of life. I agree almost on all the things you have very aptly pointed out here. Thank you.

  9. moonfairy profile image77
    moonfairyposted 9 years ago

    I totally agree with janshares. I refuse to talk about politics and religion with anyone because attitudes towards both subjects are so very personal and passionate for most people.

    1. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Many thanks for your reply here.

  10. blue shimmerald profile image60
    blue shimmeraldposted 9 years ago

    my personal life.. coz even if i tell them about myself... no one's ever been interested..


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