How does a person reinvent himself or herself to be more fun?

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   Billie Kelpinposted 11 years ago

   How does a person reinvent himself or herself to be more fun?
   
   I have friends who have wonderful silly pictures of themselves and are always having fun.  In eighth grade, Sister Mary Margaret gave us each personal notes.  Mine said, "Billie, don't always be so serious." Everything is serious to me (with global implications to boot!).  I can make jokes, usually make people laugh with my unconventional views normally uttered with slang that seems shocking to people, but neither my husband nor I could actually be called fun-loving people even though we do fun things and have high levels of energy.  How do we change?

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   Wakerraposted 11 years ago

   Fascinating.  I would probably argue that there are healthy, natural changes, and then there are just changes that can make a person lose themselves.  Changing bad habits/second nature actions are examples of good changes, but within my life, I've noticed many people trying to change my views, standards, and who I am as a person.  I quite frankly like the way I am.  I don't wear make-up, I don't like to stand out too much, I can be fun when I want to be, though my levels of "fun" may differ from that of another persons.
   
   I would say be happy with who you are (as long as it's healthy.  A drug addict or night stripper is not healthy, and I've seen a path my Mother has taken in "being who she is" down an unhealthy route...)  You stated you and your husband "do fun things and have high levels of energy".  Everybody has fun in different ways.  Some people like to shop, while I like to play video games and create stories with people online.  I can't stress the be yourself enough!  The world has this way of making you feel worthless because you can't match up to other people, but you know what?  We were made different for a reason.  Embrace it!

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      Billie Kelpinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Wakerra, drats, you mean now I have to give up being a night stripper (tee hee) How about during the daytime?  I like your view.  I AM caught in between the acceptance part and the "maybe I could change a bit" quandary.  Great wisdom here, though

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   toptendealsposted 11 years ago

   Something that might reinvent yourself would be to go travel to another country, experience a new culture and put yourself into a brand new situation.  You will force yourself to reshape yourself as you learn about your new surroundings. 
   
   And if you are exploring new places and going out to eat for dinner and such, it seems like it would be difficult not to have some fun.

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      Billie Kelpinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I want to go to another country!  I hope my ship comes in before the dock rots, though.  Thanks so much, Toptendeals  (Hey, I better check your name out

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   Alise- Evonposted 11 years ago

   Interesting question.  It is true that "A merry heart does good like a medicine,"  but if you are satisfied with the amount and types of fun things you and your husband engage in and with your energy levels/overall health, maybe you do not need to "change" as much as maybe "enhance" your lives with fun, "grounding" activities.  By this I mean to literally do things that keep your feet firmly on the ground. 
   Being too serious is more a cerebral thing, so taking a break from that kind of activity helps one stay more balanced.  How about taking a dance class, checking out  local adult community education classes, volunteering at local events with goofy activities offered, getting involved with some activity involving lots of young kids...?
   Just don't try to be someone you're not- that's not fun! (Plus, it doesn't honor your Creator.)  I wish you all the best.

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      Billie Kelpinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Alise, thanks so much.  A counselor recently told me that I need to stop listening to the radio when I'm working because bad news apparently creates a brain chemistry that leads to depression, so you're right!  I appreciate the suggestions   Cheers

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