Why do we focus on helping others when we are often unable to help ourselves?
For many it's easier to look at others and see what needs fixing, but it's harder to accept one's own flaws. In my mind, it takes great courage to fix oneself. Helping others makes us feel good, it makes us feel valuable, but often when we are facing our own "flaws" or problems - we don't feel good about it. We feel down on ourselves and the "feel good" motivation isn't there for self as much as it is for helping another person.
yes, some wanted to look cool in front of others by helping out, getting praises. //
Probably because helping others is easier than helping ourselves, & all we have to do is just "tell" them what to do without actually having to do any work ourselves..Helping others with matters of the heart or mind is almost impossible to do, whereas helping ourselves is really pretty simple (at least on paper anyway)..You can help yourself in any department of your life tomorrow, if you we're motivated enough to do it..Don't ever think it's because your lazy as there's no such thing as a lazy person, all there ever is is an unmotivated person (obvious right?)..So the question for you is are you moving forwards with your own life, & feeling excited about your future?..Do you have passions & hobbies apart from helping others, if not help others less & go & find some hobbies etc..The thing you might be over looking is that if you just go around, & smile & chat with everyone you meet, & always be positive with them then you are helping others without even knowing it....I'll give you a tip about advising people with their problems/worries etc....A person will never ever listen to a word you've said, until they actually ask you for advice/help themselves..Try designating the next 30 days to finding things just for yourself, write stuff down & get busy becoming exactly what/who you want to be..What your'l find is the "other" people you want to help will see the change in you, & they'l want a piece of it themselves..Then your advice & help will be taken & used.
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