Sometimes they can't, but most often they feel superior, and that the person in need put themselves in the situation that they are in. It's not my opinion that that makes it "right" to ignore them, but it is what it is.
Maybe they just don't really know 'how' to help them. You can give someone money, advice etc. but at the end of the day people can only help themselves!
There is always someone in need. Many too many. And most don't deserve help, anyway.
Take for example, single mother bimbos that punch out litters of rugrats, without any idea of how to support then, then they cry for help. They don't believe in abortion or birth control. Effem.
Take for example, all those who think they are "too cool for the room" and never learn a profession or apply themselves to a trade. Effem.
Take for example, druggies sitting in a daze on the sidewalk. Effem.
Take the couple who are marginally economically afloat, and they still drop a litter and one or both loses their job, they lose their house because they looked at it as a piggy bank. Effem.
People are selfish while others are afraid. I learned from my psych class you are more likely to receive help from a stranger in a less crowded area due to the fact most people think someone else will help
To be fair, people are afraid. There are still some heroes out there who will help anyone in need but I wouldn't hate someone for not helping a women being mugged by a person with a gun for fear of being shot themselves and leaving their kids alone.
It's a rough world out there and the new saying when it comes to those situations is, "don't be a hero", we have to trust that public defenders will come to the rescue because they are trained to do so.
Does it always happen as fast as we wish? Help can never come fast enough through the eyes of the victim. But don't pretend like there wasn't someone who may have looked like they ignored it when someone obviously made the call.
As for other kinds of help like helping the poor etc. Don't underestimate people's ability. In a growing world, what used to be sufficient is nearly obsolete. It doesn't mean people are ignoring but it could possibly mean that what they give just isn't enough no matter how much it is.
well i think people are afraid of helping others,but sometimes you have to pretend you are that person and you would really need someone to help you so i would help them but some people wont.
we can give them advice or money or something but like mom always tells me people always help themselves!
Most people are willing to help if the solution is a simple one. for example, somebody asks you for directions in the street. But as things get progressively harder in that helping role a little bit of anxiety begins to creep in. People don't want to be committed to helping others. Maybe it is sensed as an encroachment on their freedom.
Many people will help if it's an easy task for them; the mechanically minded who stops to help someone who's car has broken down. The person who helps an old person or a mother with a stroller to get onto a train or bus. No commitment here.
Then there's the person who sends off checks to charitable organisations. That's helping. But when asked they'll commit to regular payments over the long-term, back off.
Ask someone to look after another for the long haul and- Whoa! not me, man!
It's an attitude.
I think we don't want to because we are busy thinking up excuses so we can have reasons to do other things.Maybe we are afraid that someday that could be us in need and what would we do.Our lives are so fast paced anything that gets in our way slows us down and gives us more trouble than it's worth.
Because they're....SMART. People should learn to take care of themselves & not expect others to help them. Many people are in dire circumstances, especially in the United States, because of unintelligent, even stupid life choices. Yes, I SAID it. People are born poor generation after generation because of a negative, passive, & even fatalistic consciousness, mindset, & purview.
People learn that when they help others, those others LEECH on them, never learning to help themselves. Also, many people have been taken advantage of by those others they have helped. People who help others have become preyed upon by socioeconomic vampires. It is smart to ignore helping others in "need." Such people use the pretext of need to drain others socioeconomically- wanting to live the good life but refuse to put any effort on the former's part.
There will always be those in so-called need. Why drain your resources in helping such people? It will only make one socioeconomically poorer while such people become lazier & lazier. Smart people apply tough love, LET OTHERS HELP or DO FOR SELF.......or STARVE. If one is hungry enough, h/she will get off his/her a$$ets & DO. Smart people know that many who are in "need" are leeches who use the rationalization of "need" to socioeconomically coast along on the back of others.
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