I Love To Help Others So Why Dont They Help Themselves

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   Dale Mazurekposted 13 years ago

   As many of you know I do spend countless hours helping others with some advice on how to make money online.  At least I share a bit about how I do it.
   
   These conversations are usually spawned from people emailing me and asking for help.
   
   Well it seems that as of late people are asking but when I answer they dont even respond saying thank you or anything.
   
   I do not mind helping but I hate having my time wasted.  Every minute wasted on an email is a minute I can never, never have back.
   
   This is just me venting a bit.
   
   Nothing has changed.  I will still help people if it is what they want.  But please understand that time is even more important than money.
   
   Thanks for listening
   
   Dale

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      Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      well i can't speak for everyone else here, but i wanted to say thanks for promoting some of my hubs on your blogs.  that really helped me out a lot in gaining some more traffic.  although im still a long ways to go before i collect my first paycheck from google, at least im a helluva a lot more closer to it than i was before you helped me out.  therefore, i owe you a huge debt of gratitude. thanks so much for the support.

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   Beth100posted 13 years ago

   Dale,
   
   The art of thanking and acknowledging that you've received help from someone is being lost. 
   
   I've encountered the same thing.  I don't mind helping, but some feedback would be nice.  I understand where you're coming from.
   
   For you,
   
   Thank you Dale, for helping me.  When you posted my hub on your blog, I received views from your efforts and many supportive comments.
   
   Also, thanks for helping to make this a better community and always emminating hub-love. 
   
   Enjoy your weekend!

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      SpanStarposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Dale people do have a problem with thanking others and I attribute that to being in a land of plenty.  We take things for grant now because we have so much, take for example 40 years ago if someone were to put together a blanket or pillowcase for a friend, neighbor we would be so appreciative but today we can walk into our store of choice and buy either at a reasonable price so the effort one made at home does amount to much these days and that's really sad because down the ground they made need something and someone won't have time for them.
      
      People today need to realize that arogances is not a trait we need in this society but just try and get that idea across.  As great as Jesus was with showing us how to live we are still living with arogance.

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   Dale Mazurekposted 13 years ago

   You know I could even live without the thanks.  People ask me to help, I give them a long email telling them where to start and how to make their next move and they never get back to me.  At least say something so I know you at least took the time to read my advice.
   
   I am going to be a lot more careful in the future and try qualifying people a little more before committing time and effort.
   
   Thanks for the responses. 
   
   Dale

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   wildorangeflowerposted 13 years ago

   being grateful is a good virtue and really appreciating somebody's time is good, this is hard to do these days, I mean giving feedback and all. Like they say wam bum thank you Mam, am I correct.
   I simple thank you will do the magic and always give feedback.

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   Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

   Maybe it's just me, but I can't even imagine e.mailing someone and asking for help (unless, maybe, there's a conversation somewhere, and one person says, "write me if I can help").  I think it may be case of e.mails being a little too easy to send off on an impulse (and then people may have moved on to the next thing).  I think if I had too much of that going on, the extent I'd help would be to find them a link to whatever they're they're e.mailing about and e.mail them back a one- or two- liner.   

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   Nelle Hoxieposted 13 years ago

   That's why I no longer provide contact email info or comments boxes (they started putting their requests for help there after I shut off emails).
   
   Dale, 99.5% of what people need to succed on HP is proivded in the Help section of HP or on hubs already written by others. I finally came to the realization that if you're going to be successful online then you have to be able to do your own research and learn on your own. Even now I have been known to sit up almost all night figuring something out.
   
   Most of the questions on HP are because people can't be bothered to read the TOS or detailed instructions given elsewhere.

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      rmcrayneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      
      
      So true.  People don't want to do their homework.  Or they want an easy answer, and repeatedly do not seem to believe those that correctly say this is not a quick or easy business.  It’s like when people want to lose weight.  They don’t want to hear ‘sensible diet and exercise’.  They continue searching for the quick and easy fix, as though the rest of us are just being mean and withholding the magic bullet.

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      Dale Mazurekposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I am starting to think you are so right.  I need to put into dollars and cents what time I have used and I probably wont be very happy.
      
      Thanks for the advice Nelle, always a pleasure talking with you
      
      Dale

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      camloposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You're right. No matter where I am on the Web, or anywhere else in life, half the fun is finding the answers for myself, and we learn much more along the way by doing so.

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   Kangaroo_Jaseposted 13 years ago

   Dale,
   
   Nothing wrong with having a vent every now and again. With communication and helping others, especially the best intentions from others is not always apparent or seen.
   
   As Nelle above me commented, most people are lazy, and want answers straight away, and want to turn a nickel over pretty fast. No surprise Nelle has turned off her ways to be contacted.
   
   Well, tough love is needed from time to time. You may get questions from people, you may not respond the first time and they may respond back a second time with, you didn't answer me, why?
   
   I don't have a problem with helping others myself, the problem I have is I don't have enough time in the world to spoon feed, each and every response I am asked to answer. If people get annoyed or upset over that fact, tough sh*t, I am not here for their entertainment.
   
   I have a million questions that I can ask of the veteran Hubbers. But I am yet to ACTUALLY ask them a single question.
   
   I personally like to try and figure these things on my own. I know good things come through working smart, hard, and constantly learning and trying different things and see what happens. And it takes time, lots and lots of time.
   
   If your helping people and they don't respond back Dale, concentrate on those who are spending the time communicating with you, and forget the others.

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   EmpressFelicityposted 13 years ago

   If I have a question that can't be answered by existing hubs or forum threads, then I'd rather post it in the forum here than ask an individual hubber via private email.  At least then it gives people the choice of whether they want to reply or not, and if they do reply, then the answer will help other people as well as me.

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   Dame Scribeposted 13 years ago

   Dale, do you have any whiteout I can borrow for my scribbles thank you in advance!

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    rebekahELLEposted 13 years ago

    you've been helpful to so many of us through the forums. personally, I think that's the most time-efficient way to help or within hubs. especially if people you're helping through personal email aren't even thanking you, that's really a shame.
    
    as Nelle said, so much is answered within the site itself.
    HP does an amazing job of instructing the members here. I noticed in the last HP Weekly, there is now a HP tutorial youtube channel. http://www.youtube.com/hubpageshelp

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       Kangaroo_Jaseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Just noticed that on Youtube now, thanks for sharing Rebekah.

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