Are you a worrier?

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   Bk42authorposted 10 years ago

   Are you a worrier?
   
   I have been trying for so many years to break the habit of worrying, especially about things over which I have no control. I know, without a doubt, most of what I worry about won't happen, & I remind myself of this all the time, but it's still such a hard habit to break.
   Do any of you got through this as well? How do you deal with it?
   
   

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   Chuck Bluesteinposted 10 years ago

   This is actually part of a much bigger question. All the positive emotions go together and so do the negative emotions. People who worry are unhappy. People who do not worry or feel guilty, feel happy.
   
   So your question is like what is the purpose of human life. The Dali Lama says that happiness is the purpose of life. Eckhart Tolle teaches to live in the present since that is the only place that happiness exists. He says:
   
   "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry-- all forms of fear-- are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence."
   
   Prem Rawat teaches a unique meditation. He says: "Man can be identified by three qualities: space, time, and energy. His body lives in space, his mind in time, and his soul lives in infinite energy, in the infinite self. By meditation, you will be able to cross those limits of space and time that all human beings exist in. Once you do that, you will be able to find out who you really are."
   
   Meditation is part of yoga. Doing yoga will give you exercise and help with your peace of mind. I say the purpose of life is to reach the ultimate state where you always feel perfect peace, endless love and infinite happiness. I have some articles about this.

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      Bk42authorposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I definitely need to make more time for meditation!

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   THarman7posted 10 years ago

   I too am a worrier and this is due to the fact I have had so many challenges that were beyond the normal fix. This didn't happen over night I used to take things with a grain of salt but after many years of nothing but bad, it breaks a person down, and you can't help but worry when things are going bad because it becomes a mind set. I believe it takes much strength and empowerment to change your mind set to over come the bad even if you can't fix it phyically. Bk42author mentioned some great ways to over come worry. You have to tell yourself every day that you are only here in the physical world for a short time so is it worth the worry? No certainly not. But will we stop? Probably not, however by giving your worries up makes them less powerful. If you can't change what your worried about then change what you can, and go on.

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      Bk42authorposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Very true. When you  gone thru so many hard times it's hard to let go , especially when things are going well. When things are calm &  running smoothly I start getting in the mindset of what can possibly go wrong. It's a tough habit to break.

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      Dave36posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I like you have had a lot of lets say challenges & i'm still here & so are you..So well done to you, & well done to me..Ask yourself what have you learnt from your challenges, not about other people but about yourself..I bet your a better

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   mikejhcaposted 10 years ago

   I am not a worrier anymore. Do you want to be fat? Do you want to age faster? Do you want to look tired and stressed? Worrying can cause those problems and a lot more. It can also causes bad luck. You increase the chance of getting what you don't want because that is what you are thinking about. Knowing that motivates me to focus on happy thoughts.

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      Bk42authorposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I tell myself those things as well plus, ad you put it, "bad luck" or in other words, the law of attraction...you attract what ypu put out. I have gotten better,  but I guess it just takes time.

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      Dave36posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Your right Bk42author it takes practise & time, that's it....You just focus on whatever is happening at whatever time, & you stay focused in the moment..For example when you shower what do you "think" about, the answer always be should be sho

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   Dave36posted 10 years ago

   I was a particularly bad case, as far as over thinking over analysing & worrying....I could write a 1000 words on how i changed my view of things & my own mind, & it wouldn't do anyone else any good....I can however tell you the vids i watched that explained why we think like we do, & what to do about it....The vids are by Eckhart Tolle & Alan Watts, & are all available on utube....A good starting place would be: Oprah Winfreys Soul Series with Eckhart Tolle, also the Boat Analogy by Alan Watts....I'll tell you know that until "you" realise inside that worrying is pointless, you will always worry....If however you watch & eventually understand the messages in the vids i mentioned, your mind will actually shift to accept that it's pointless to worry & you will stop worrying....Another great tip is to write your worries down on a pad, & start working on eliminating those worries....I now see what worrying is supposed to tell us, & that's that we need to put a bit more effort in somewhere....So never dwell on a worry, but try to find the cause & the solution....The key to it all is mindful meditating, emotions/feelings control, mind distraction & worry eliminating....Also watch some of Joe Rogan's Podcasts on life on utube, because at the same time as conquering your mind your'l also need some inspiration, & there's none better than Joe Rogan for that....This is only my particular recipe for what helped me, but know that anyone can master their own mind, once they understand how it works....For example try juggling 3 apples or oranges, & see if your thinking while your juggling them....Just to prove that by concentrating on something "else", you can't be thinking at the same time, therefore not worrying.

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      Bk42authorposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Great suggestions. Thanks Dave36!

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   Penny Gposted 10 years ago

   Oh I feel your pain, in fact I will probably worry about you now. I even worry that I haven't worried enough today about a particular thing and then worry it will happen because I didn't worry enough about it.  I have got it real bad. SIGH…...

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