Why in a world of happy people am I depressed and constantly fighting for my lif

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   Felicia Broadheadposted 9 years ago

   Why in a world of happy people am I depressed and constantly fighting for my life?
   
   In all my years of living, which hasn't been much, I have experienced years and years of disappointment and depression, is there some reason that my life has been so hard, or is it that god just hates me... If there even is a god, I doubt my beliefs, and how important my life is, because my life has just been plain bad... Why do I constantly get punished for things unknown. I have been the most nice, sincere person, anyone could ever know, and I'm constantly depressed, fighting for my life in a world where no one supports me, or even cares to help me, so my question is why me?

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   PhoenixVposted 9 years ago

   When I was younger I dealt with quite a bit of depression too and I am sure there are many people that deal with depression to various degrees, so don't feel alone. Depression can be debilitating, for some and is a serious issue.
   
   I found that things like depression are a state of mind that can be controlled. A person has to realize that they are depressed and actively work at overcoming it. A healthier diet and good exercise might also help. If a person is felling physically unwell, that does not help. Surround yourself with good friends that are positive people. I hope this little bit of personal experience helps.

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   m abdullah javedposted 9 years ago

   Unevenness, this is what life is all about, here everything is not same, there are two shades, man woman, day night, sorrow joy, darkness light, sweet sour even in plants, flowers & fruits you could find the two genders. So we experience both joy and sorrow. For some, God tests in several ways compare to other. It is believed that God put into test to those who are His favourites, if you are a soldier He likes to see you in hardest battle. It means God wants your pure innerself to be depicted through your kind behaviour. Every test should improve your quality of deeds. This is how we should look at our testing times. Don't lose hope just remember its a big deal for you that none other than God is testing you. Don't compare your hardship with hppiness of others rather compare yourself with those who have been deprived look at blind, deaf dumb, handicpped, childless couple, widow, destitues, bed ridden person. Thank God you have a lot to cheer about. So:
   1) Believe that God is testing you 2) Have patience 3) Analyse the situation & try to learn 4) Every time you put into test rush towrards the Merciful Creator and ask for His help 5) Be thankful 6) Have your own plan of development 7) See what good qualities have been strenghtened 8) Don't keep thinking that you have been put into test, just move on.
   What I believe is if I were a worstly affected person in the world I wont even think for a fraction of second of going away from God, for me defeat and failure is when I start distrusting God. Don't be despair of the mercy of God, sun will shine after the dark night. We will pray for you.

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   ChristinSposted 9 years ago

   It sounds like you are dealing with some major depression.  I had bouts of this when I was younger, very dark moments.  Eventually it was those dark moments that lead me on a personal quest to discover who "I" am.  You say a "world full of happy people" - I have to tell you; you don't know what other people are feeling.  Many people, especially on social media, may make it appear that life is full of roses.  The fact of the matter is, it is human nature to put the best side of ourselves in the public eye.  Happiness is a choice ultimately and that can be difficult to see in the depths of despair.  I recommend you talk with someone who can help you do some behavior modification type therapies (the only thing that worked for me).  My problem with traditional counseling is it gives you a sounding board, but not a lot of real solutions.  It doesn't really address the mental and emotional patterns that are keeping you stuck.  Get some skills to help you take your life back; you will one day be astounded with the results if you do this successfully. 
   
   I would also add that while spirituality and God is good for some; it is not required for all for finding peace.  I found more peace when I allowed myself to accept that I am an atheist/agnostic and I don't have to apologize for it.  I am spiritual but not a believer in a deity.  This actually helped me too - because then I didn't feel forsaken anymore, I realized I had to empower myself.

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      jlparkposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I agree - I believe that there are more people than we know who are 'smiling" depressed. I never let on how I was feeling, and was often the class clown. Just cause one can make another laugh, does not make them themselves happy - just look @ Robin W

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   Everyone gets depressed or feels melancholy from time to time.
   Whether one believes in God or not our lives are for the most part the end result of the choices and decisions we have made along the way.
   All of our actions are preceded by our thoughts. What you fill your mind with clearly affects how you think as well. Focusing on what you don't have instead of what you're striving for can also lead to depression.
   Cutting yourself from family and friends or otherwise (isolating) yourself from people and activities can cause depression.
   You stated: "I have been the most nice, sincere person, anyone could ever know...." Are you an extrovert or introvert? Do you show an interest (in other people)? or Do wait to see if people will take an interest in you?
   Are you "living life" or are you a "spectator"? Are there things you enjoy? Are you dating or in a relationship with anyone?
   Having goals keeps you focused. The only cure I know of for depression is taking action.
   Try to "unplug" from negativity for a weekend. Don't watch or listen to the news, don't read news or inflammatory articles online. A lot of folks go to bed with negative things on their mind and wake up tuning into the news to start off with more negativity. If something pops up avert your eyes or change channels. Watch DVDs, go for a walk, listen to your favorite upbeat music, see a comedy, sign up for one of the hobby groups on Meetup.com. Spend time with those whose company you enjoy, read biographies of people you admire, self-help and inspirational books, create a journal describing your life the way you want it, what you'd do, and where you'd go...etc
   Always have something to "look forward to" on your calendar. It can be the release of a new movie, book, an event coming to your town, a party, a vacation or whatever. People who have (nothing to look forward to) are likely to get depressed. For them today is like yesterday and tomorrow will be like today. Make a list of the things you want to do and get busying trying to accomplish those things. Life is for the living!
   Lastly if you truly believe you have a chemical imbalance or suffer from (clinical depression) then you should go see a doctor or therapist.

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