How do you deal with Narcissists?

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    EstrangedDaughterposted 13 years ago

    Do you have a narcissist in your life? I have two very close to me (mother and brother). I've also dated a few and been friends with some. I seem to attract them! Given my upbringing, I've been trained well to tolerate them after all.

    Those who study Narcissism say that they almost never seek therapy (Why should they? It's everyone else who has a problem, not them!), and find it almost impossible to change their behavior because of the very nature of the disorder.

    In my case, I have made a decision to estrange from my mother after a lifetime of torment with no end in sight.

    How do *you* deal with a narcissist?

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    shazwellynposted 13 years ago

    Well I wouldnt know because I am so wrapped up in ME! lol

  3. paradigmsearch profile image61
    paradigmsearchposted 13 years ago

    Easy, I just give me whatever I want. smile

  4. donotfear profile image85
    donotfearposted 13 years ago

    How to deal with a narcissist:

    Don't acknowledge their behavior.

    1. paradigmsearch profile image61
      paradigmsearchposted 13 years agoin reply to this


      If some self-centered narcissist takes something from me, they are going to hear about it big time. Otherwise, they'll just do it again. And again... And again...

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    Home Girlposted 13 years ago

    By trying not to step on them?

  6. frogdropping profile image76
    frogdroppingposted 13 years ago

    I've always believed my ex is a narcissist. How did I deal with it/him? I left the relationship.

    1. h.a.borcich profile image60
      h.a.borcichposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      A narcissist looks at people as consumables. After they deplete you of whatever supply they need they will cast you away. I have known a few narcissists - leave before they devaste you. They will never view you as an equal person. And get a good lawyer.

      1. frogdropping profile image76
        frogdroppingposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Thank you for your advice smile I left him a few years ago. Now settled in a wonderfully equal and mutually healthy relationship.

        He (ex) didn't get to cast me off. I doubt in our case he ever would. Way back when I looked into it, I remember reading about narcissistic wrath - which he definitely shared more times than I care to remember.

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    klarawieckposted 13 years ago

    I like to torment them by replacing all mirrors with Fun House mirrors, hide secret cameras to record them when they are acting/talking stupid and replaying it for them (in public) so they can't tell me: "I never said that!" I also like to take pictures of them when they first set foot out of bed, and post their pictures on the internet for everyone to see their resemblance with Big Foot!

  8. cathylynn99 profile image75
    cathylynn99posted 13 years ago

    my first lover suffered from narcissism. dealing with him took more patience, gentleness, and understanding than i had. he eventually broke up with me because i let him know what i needed and he was not willing to give it. i'm now married to a guy whose strongest quality is a huge capacity to love and be loved, i.e., the world's sweetest guy.

  9. starme77 profile image76
    starme77posted 13 years ago

    not sure what one is - but it sounds like I been dealing with one of em for 20 years and he drove me up the wall - not sure if he was narccists or bi-polar or what but he always blamed me for everything , not checking the oil in the car , not taking out the trash , not making the bed or getting a bill paid - making his lunch - all kinds of crap - see I was supposed to do everything - I mean everything and anytime something went wrong it was my fault - is this a narccist? oh and conspiracy theroies anything that wasnt right was done wrong just to make him mad what the hell?

  10. Flightkeeper profile image65
    Flightkeeperposted 13 years ago

    The only way you can deal with a narcissist is to be one yourself.  From this moment on, when you're with your mom or brother or any narcissist, it's all about you and if they can't stand it they'll leave.  Ooh, I just wrote something really deep and eternal.


  11. Beth100 profile image68
    Beth100posted 13 years ago

    Give them a gift -- a hand held mirror.

  12. abbykorinnelee profile image52
    abbykorinneleeposted 18 months ago

    No Contact. It’s the ultimate threat to a Narcissist


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