What is forgiveness

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  1. days leaper profile image76
    days leaperposted 7 years ago

    Are we forced to be friends again?  Even though it wasn't much of a friendship in the first place and the highlight has long since died?
    Even though the person turns round and says "we never said we were friends"-privately, yet every-one seems to assume you were!

    I think forgiveness is more about a refusal to let what happened get on top of you, to not seek revenge or petty name calling, insults etc.  To turn the other cheek!

    But what do you think?

    And are there any experiences you are willing to share, if so Please feel free to:-

    1. HoneyKisses profile image58
      HoneyKissesposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I agree, it is like turning the other cheek!  I also see it as... forgiving that person because they just dont know or understand.  Forgiving is like being the bigger person, so you can get on with your life and move along and not be bitter or hang on to grudges. 

      I have an in law whom I always have to forgive every time I see him, because of what hes done in the past to me and my family.  Yes, it does get me upset when I think about what had happened, but I forgive him because he grew up not really knowing what respect meant smile

      It keeps me sane big_smile  I used to get so mad, I couldnt sleep, or Id have scary dreams about stabbing that person I should be forgiving.  It helps to control my anger.  And let me sleep.  Oh and I heard bitterness is bad for your back

    2. dutchman1951 profile image60
      dutchman1951posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      forgiveness is when you actualy forgive your self for all you do to yourself and to others, Step back and take a good look and Grow and actualy stop acting the way you dont really want to. Once that hurdle is cleared, then

      telling another you are sorry and want to try friendship, is more honest.

      Forggiveness implies  YOU have power over some one, YOU are forgiving them!  But You do not hold power over anyone, so forgiving them is useless if you do not see the truth about your self.

      Consider They may not want your forgiveness, but just your understanding and acceptance of them!

      The practice of saying I fofgive you, is No good for real Human  healing and growth., and nothing to base a friendship upon.
      Beter to get yourself straight, then tell them you are sorry for the treatment and judgment, and want to become a friend.

      Friend does not mean a move in roomy, or best bud either. it means mutual acceptance. If both of you choose, then later  you can take the friendship deeper or stronger. It takes time.

      Remember you are part of the human mix, not the owner. Forgive yourself first, then grow.

  2. pofdawn profile image60
    pofdawnposted 7 years ago

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