Is talking incessantly, good for a person?

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    CollBposted 7 years ago

    Some, even strangers, can't stop to fail to mention how the bus driver is driving or how the weather's like (or how good at starting a conversation they are), whether you want to hear what they have to say or not.

    Do we develop as personable human beings, if we exercise our communicative skills to such an extent that lead me to conclude, 'Do these people speak as much in their own languages'?

    1. Cagsil profile image83
      Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Each individual is different and most haven't a clue. Plenty of people talk to talk, and some talk to hear themselves talk. It's never a bad thing to just listen, when other people talk. If you are able to discern truth, then you will be able to determine what reasons they are talking.
      What languages they speak is irrelevant to how much they feel like talking.

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        CollBposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Hi Cagsil, thank you for your insightful comment, yes I see your point about the different levels of other people's discussions.

        The point about the languages they speak in is equally a valid point although at times I wonder if these people should conduct their 'much too revealing' conversation in a language only those 2 people can understand.  For at times, I'd think, 'this isn't for public ears! smile

    2. IntimatEvolution profile image81
      IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Less is always better.

    3. Borsia profile image43
      Borsiaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      This is something that drives me crazy. Once in a while it is fine to talk to people if there is an interesting subject but I am not a talkaholic.
      Often if I am on a plane, train or some other situation where escape isn't possible and I sense that the person next to me wants to babble I just tell them, in a different language, that I don't understand them. Yeah I get busted now and then. IE; I tell them in Chinese that I don't speak English and they later see I am reading a book in English.
      Other times I will say "Sorry but I have a headache" without telling them that they are the headache. Usually as soon as I sit down I put on my headphones and plug them into my MP3 player, which may or may not be turned on.

  2. Stacie L profile image90
    Stacie Lposted 7 years ago

    people who speak incessantly are usually suffering from anxiety and need to speak in order to calm down..
    and some are ill and talk out loud to imaginary people...wink

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      CollBposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      You know, Stacie, that is so true!  I've met a few too many of the latter type on the public transport and I wonder how they got to that stage!  It's incredible to think there's so many who can't stop the chitter chatter!

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      klarawieckposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I talk to imaginary people all the time. Still, I don't talk much and I dislike people that talk a lot. I like my invisible friends. They're nice.

  3. knolyourself profile image60
    knolyourselfposted 7 years ago

    "'Do these people speak as much in their own languages'?" What does that mean in the context that went before?" I will talk to anybody. More fun. Why be mum. Can tell in an instant whether it is acceptable or not.
    I don't talk to people who are not interested. Besides it is not good manners.

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      CollBposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Hi knolyourself, yes, you're right about not speaking to people who aren't interested but I wonder if mastering a 'second' language makes others more talkative than they would otherwise be.

      1. kallini2010 profile image80
        kallini2010posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Absolutely not.  The number of languages is quite irrelevant. Being talkative is a personality trait or in some cases when people just cannot "shut up" - it might be a sign of a disorder.  It might be annoying, it is, but the best thing is to relocate and NOT respond as the responding "winds them up."  On the other hand, most people who cannot "shut up" because they manic and would appreciate calm and understanding manner.  You don't have to tell them they are crazy - it won't help.  Pretend that you don't see that they are not quite OK. But I know that most people are either too irritated or too afraid to understand.  A slight sign of a mental illness - and "normal", I stress it "normal" people "pee their pants" and behave like abnormal people.  We mirror each other behaviour, that is why.

        And even if you don't understand the conversation - in my case in most cases I don't - because everybody is from somewhere else, but not from my country - and depending on language - it can be TORTURE.  Shouting in unpleasant sound combinations!!! 

        In short, you are in control only of your own actions.  As they LOVE to say "it's not a problem, it is an opportunity!"  So, shine with your problem-solving.

        I know, I feel your pain...

  4. knolyourself profile image60
    knolyourselfposted 7 years ago

    Well if one goes to say Europe as an English speaker, usually always find native peoples who want to practice their English on one. So could say then it makes them more talkative.

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      CollBposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      LOL, you're so right.  Haha.  You can say, the British have it tough on themselves for they are probably much sought after for speaking the language that has become universal.  smile  Probably puts a strain on their vocal cords big_smile

  5. Evil Stepmother profile image60
    Evil Stepmotherposted 7 years ago

    I talk a lot, and I do not think there is anything wrong with me.  I just like to talk, and I have a lot to say.  The important thing is, however, I also listen.  And there are other people who talk more than I do lol.

    1. Jonathan Janco profile image65
      Jonathan Jancoposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Definitely agree with that. Talking alot is not necessarily a bad thing but it is always good to listen. I know some people who literally never stop talking, except to catch their breath. When they do I feel the need to respond to something they said and they talk right over me as if they cant bear giving their attention to anyone else. Either that or they have a serious cocain or amphetamine problem.

  6. sexpressions profile image59
    sexpressionsposted 7 years ago

    I believe it is probably good for someone TO talk too much. Maybe people don't want to hear it all the time, but if someone's talking it IS usually because they need it. Whether they are lonely, anxious, stressed, tired or just simply crazy - it is helping them to express whatever it is that is floating around in their mind.

    It never hurts to listen, either. I've learned a lot about psychology and people's reactions from listening. (Even when I shouldn't have been wink). In fact, I used to be an introvert myself with not a word to say to anyone; I would tell you how much better I feel now that I express myself through writing; but I think, you can see from this post itself that I am able to ramble more than always necessary wink.

    Thing about people these days, is most of us are very self involved. We ask 'How are you' out of courtesy, and when someone actually starts talking about how they Really are - we feel bombarded with conversation.

    Don't worry guys, there's worse things than a crazy person telling you about their adventures with the unicorns. wink

    1. sexpressions profile image59
      sexpressionsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Oh Wow. I feel as if I was hitting on all of you with all of those winks. My apologies - I'm a people person... wink

  7. mega1 profile image77
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    It's funny you mention this subject now because there is someone I know who right now who talks from the instant she gets up in the morning until night, when she snores in her sleep- (which sometimes sounds like talking big_smile)  and no, it's not me!  But she seldom really listens to others and so asks the same questions over and over, never listens to the answers.  It is very irritating to be around her. I think she is suffering from anxiety, but it is contagious and so everybody around her feels anxious, too, after a little while.  I am constantly exhausted from her non-stop chatter, and always happy to see her go back home.  She can't stand to be alone and can't sit still for more than 10 minutes.  Always has to be busy, busy, busy and repeats herself all the time.  It is an illness I'm quite sure, like
    A D D.  I talk a lot, but not THAT much, and I think I listen and remember things people tell me.  She is aware that she talks too much, but doesn't seem to feel any need to try to stifle it a bit!  lol  kind of funny if it weren't so tiring to hear her. Maybe she is too sensitive and the talking is a buffer of protection around her.

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    Emile Rposted 7 years ago

    I have a sister, and a sister-in-law, who talk to hear themselves talk. They'll strike up a conversation with total strangers and share their whole lives.  I've lost their calls and it will take them 15 to 20 minutes to realize they are talking to dead air.  They don't come up for breath, or wait for input on the other end of the conversation. It's just who they are.  It's a personality trait.

  9. rebekahELLE profile image86
    rebekahELLEposted 7 years ago

    Personally, I don't like being around people who always talk. It's annoying. I have noticed that smokers are often incessant talkers and like to talk on telephones. I wonder if it's an oral thing.

    I think people who talk all the time miss a lot. There is a lot to be said for silence and listening to the world around us whether it's a quiet day at home or a noisy city street.  It makes us more aware.

    And I agree with Emile, some people simply love to hear themselves talk!

  10. Diane Inside profile image74
    Diane Insideposted 7 years ago

    It is better to be quiet and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.

    I guess some people don't follow this philosophy. lol

 
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