How can I deal with my parents piling guilt on me all the time. If I do not agree to follow their set plan for me they believe I am being selfish.
It is extremely weighing down to be independent and at the same time feel the mountain of guilt.
Dr Alban had something to say about this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lcy7g05A … ata_player
Tell them "With all due respect and gratitude for all of your sacrifices and efforts, I must say that I feel you are being harsh when you try to tell me what to do with my life. My life is my own and I am free to do as I choose. Please be happy for me and supportive because I enjoy sharing my life with you."
This is the politically correct way to say it, try this before choosing a harsher tone. Hopefully they'll think about it and be understanding and it won't ignite an argument. However, I know people who have had to become quite rude to get the exact same point across to their parents because the parents refuse to accept the fact that their adult child CAN and SHOULD make their own choices.
Many people do not want to be told what to do as young adults/adults when they are completely independent of their families and RIGHTFULLY so. Make every effort to stand up for yourself to get the respect that you earned. Good luck to you and your family.
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