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Is it rude not to send a Christmas card to someone who sent one to you?

  1. j.amie profile image61
    j.amieposted 7 years ago

    Is it rude not to send a Christmas card to someone who sent one to you?

  2. Scott_Grigg profile image40
    Scott_Griggposted 7 years ago

    Depends on how close a friend they are.  If you know them from work or are a friend, I'd answer yes.  If you barely know this person, I'd say no, kind of like a person on FB who wants to friend you that you barely know.  It's not an obligation.

    But generally, I'd say reply with a card. It's the nice thing to do.

  3. Wombara profile image56
    Wombaraposted 7 years ago

    If you know hen quite well, then yes. Otherwise, you're going to get away with it.

  4. Rob Hanlon profile image59
    Rob Hanlonposted 7 years ago

    I wouldn't say it was 'rude' as such, as there may not be a known address to return the gesture.

    When I send a Christmas Card to anyone I don't expect one in return and wouldn't be offended if I didn't receive one back ~ there may be a reasonable excuse as to why, which usually gets explained in time ~ all the Mail in the UK is running late for example due to the amount of snowfall this month, so a lot of cards will arrive after Christmas, some may even get 'lost' in the backlog.

  5. ArefinShams profile image56
    ArefinShamsposted 7 years ago

    Certainly it is. It will be like someone says , hi how are you? and you don't answer. If there is any problem with sending cards, then at least you can call him or send a sms with greetings of Christmas.

  6. profile image0
    Helpful Hannaposted 7 years ago

    I don't think it's rude.  I just feel better when I reciprocate.

  7. Rosie2010 profile image76
    Rosie2010posted 7 years ago

    I always feel bad when I receive one from someone and I didn't send him/her one.  But I make sure I send them one the next Christmas.  I hope this helps a little.

    Merry Christmas,

  8. arb profile image79
    arbposted 7 years ago

    If your'e a stinker all the time then no one expects you to send cards and the ones who send them knowing you won't, are friends worth counting. If they sent a card only in the hopes of getting one, then it wasn't from someone I count anyway. One year, I'm going to send cards that simply say, thanks for being my friend.

  9. naijainvestor profile image60
    naijainvestorposted 7 years ago

    no, i do not think its rude. i don't think such a person should expect a card in return, afterall, giving comes from the heart. but it would be really nice to reciprocate the gesture, just to let the person know that you care.

  10. kevrock529 profile image61
    kevrock529posted 7 years ago

    I dont think it's rude at all. The holidays are a crazy time for everyone. I would just make sure they are added to the Christmas card list for the following year. It never hurts to call and thank them for the card and wish them a Merry Christmas.

  11. bookblog profile image59
    bookblogposted 7 years ago

    I don't think it's rude but i do like to reciprocate.  It's just sort of polite to acknowledge the thought.

    A few years ago I bought this nifty little book, a bit like an address book, where you could write the name and address of the person you sent a card to.  Next to that there were columns for the years, so you could tick off whether you received or sent a card under the appropriate year.

    Now, that may sound a bit anal to some and I agree its going down that path but it was super useful the following year because there were all the addresses and I could see who had sent me cards and who I had sent them to.

    Anyone feel like making up a spreadsheet like this?

  12. Faithful Daughter profile image84
    Faithful Daughterposted 7 years ago

    Oh, I've been guilty of that. I don't feel it's rude but it does make me feel bad when I get a card and do not give one back. I thank them for the card, wish them a Merry Christmas and usually make it up to them the following year.

  13. mio cid profile image47
    mio cidposted 7 years ago

    if you're asking the question you already know the answer which pertains more to your own sself than to the person who sent the card.merry christmas!!!!!

  14. Chris Simiriglia profile image60
    Chris Simirigliaposted 7 years ago

    I don't send cards at all. I stopped a few years ago. The process took too long. I could make it more manageable by sending generic cards and printing envelopes from a list, but then, why bother. I keep in touch with family and friends on the phone, through email, on Facebook, etc. I wish them well and tell them I love them, often. Cards are an expense and a waste of paper... they clutter up people's homes and end up in the trash or recycling. Say "I love you" and save a tree, and the postage.

  15. vicky4227 profile image53
    vicky4227posted 7 years ago

    No it is not but it is the ethics that demands we reciprocate makes us feel guilt but a real friend will not feel bad if you don't.

  16. Nkem Nwosu profile image56
    Nkem Nwosuposted 7 years ago

    You should at least thank him even if you are not going to send him one.It is modesty. while it is immodesty not to show any acknowledgment, appreciation or gratitude for a card collected.

  17. Poethepoet profile image76
    Poethepoetposted 7 years ago

    No not at all. Of coarse it depends on if you like that person to start with, and if you had any intentions on sending them a card before the Christmas season even started. It's your card, and completely your choice in who you decide to send it to. So don't let other people influence your decisions. How's that ?

  18. Curtis Aron profile image81
    Curtis Aronposted 7 years ago

    I don't believe that it is rude.  I think that it is always better to reciprocate.  If you can't, a thank-you should be sufficient

  19. instantlyfamily profile image81
    instantlyfamilyposted 7 years ago

    Not in this economy. A lot of people have cut back their Christmas spending this year. Cards and postage add up $$

  20. garyyoungberg profile image59
    garyyoungbergposted 7 years ago

    No it is not rude.  As with returning phone calls, your response is governed by your respective relationships.

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    crazydaisyposted 7 years ago

    Enjoy the card.  They only wanted to wish you warm sentiments.  No one expects a card in return.  In our grown up world, we don't have to keep score.  When you want to send a card, you do without any expectation.

  22. ExpandYourMind profile image74
    ExpandYourMindposted 7 years ago

    I don't expect to receive a card back, particularly if I know the recipient will receive the card close to the holiday.  I send out cards to express my well wishes for the holiday.

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    Rosemary Banksposted 6 years ago

    Yes' it's rude not to return the gesture..

  24. gryphin423 profile image69
    gryphin423posted 6 years ago

    If I get a card in return that is great, but I do not expect it. Some people unfortunately do think it is rude if they give but don't receive, but that is just sad. You shouldn't give and require the same in return.

  25. profile image70
    S Mareeposted 4 months ago

    I don't send commercial cards.  When a grandparent died I had to dispose of boxes & boxes of cards she'd received.  Most were merely signed, no discernible inkling of real thought.  I was so turned off that I now send handwritten notes or blank cards with handmade art (not the kind made with commercial art supplies) & a handwritten note inside.

    What I have learned through the years is that personal correspondence sparks real communication.  I now have more people respond to my missives than I ever had when sending store-bought thoughts.  And since it takes time & effort, I'm not tempted to mass-mail to mere acquaintances.

    And I don't want a thank you.  I want connection!

  26. anusha15 profile image89
    anusha15posted 4 months ago


    It will depend on the sender. For e.g., if s/he has sent you one of those generic Whatsapp eCards, s/he might even not notice if you've responded. In fact, sometimes people might even not remember sending you one in the first place. However, if it's a personalized card which has taken some effort or a postcard, it would be polite to either return the gesture or notify them somehow of your inability along with some sort of expression of your gratitude.
    Here is an eCard for you. You inspired its creation, BTW smile