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Why is it so easy for people to be honest with strangers?

  1. Lesli Downs profile image58
    Lesli Downsposted 6 years ago

    Why is it so easy for people to be honest with strangers?

    It seems more so on the computer than anything else but it is easier to answer a question honestly to a stanger than to a friend or loved one.  Why do or don't you believe that is so?


  2. That Grrl profile image62
    That Grrlposted 6 years ago

    You're not really risking anything when you tell a stranger the truth. Chances are you will never see them again so what they think doesn't really matter.

  3. NatalieSack profile image60
    NatalieSackposted 6 years ago

    Because we care less about what they think of us

  4. faria_lupin profile image70
    faria_lupinposted 6 years ago

    its easy to tell to stranger because if we did wrong to someone else, who is a very well-known to our family, we just can't let anyone of our family knows about it , may be that is the reason.
    for net friends we don't want to hide because we do not know that person very well and people often change their name instead of real name, and they have nothing to lose,if we try to track him or her out its not east to do so.

  5. smzclark profile image60
    smzclarkposted 6 years ago

    I think so. Because you never have to see them again if you don't want to. Strangers in a strange place are the best ones to share your life stories with...I think my most meaningful, honest and open conversation was with a lady at an airport who was flying to a different continent than I was.

  6. mjwilliamson profile image60
    mjwilliamsonposted 6 years ago

    You're not emotionally invested in a stranger's feelings or reaction. If a stranger disapproves of something you're doing, you can tell them to mind their business and walk away...not so easy when its  aparent or your best friend.

  7. Lisa HW profile image73
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago

    It's not any easier or more difficult for me.  I'm the same online and off, for the most part.  I share a heck of a lot more with people who are close to me offline; and whether I want to share it or not, there's stuff that goes on in my life that those close to me know about just because they have a "close role" in my life and see some things.

    Other than the matter of personal/private details, I'm pretty much the same.  The only things that ever makes me "edit" my own honesty might be my wish not to insult someone or hurt someone's feelings.  I do that online and off (even though I know that in both situations there will always be those time when we inadvertently offend someone).  Sometimes, too, I won't say what I'm really thinking for a selfish reason:  I don't want someone else thinking I'm a major jerk, and I think if I say what I'd like to that's what they'll think.  So, online and off; I do edit but don't out-and-out lie or say what I don't mean. 

    We may not know who is on the other end of an Internet conversation/chat, but we do know, and have to live with, the person who sits in front of our own screen.  As far as offline life and honesty goes, I think it's far more important to be honest in our up-close-and-personal relationships than online; so if I'm not willing to compromise my own honesty online, I'm certainly going to try equally hard not to do that off.

    Having said that, I keep a lot of people (and especially strangers) at arms' length as a matter of privacy, protecting myself from "questionable" people, and a sense of appropriate behavior and/or "a time and a place *and a person") for some kinds of conversation.  Maybe that's what lets me be equally honest both online and off.