Why do people disguise who they reaaly are, why do people lie, is it possible to

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   Flowering Heartposted 13 years ago

   Why do people disguise who they reaaly are, why do people lie, is it possible to be 100% honest?
   
   Lying does it exist because of that fear of rejection takes over our very being, is it because we do not trust anyone truly. In life would things be turned upside down if you would simply never make white lies. do we know them like we know ourselfs it isn't liike we could so why share is this what why we lie when we don't know ourselves or is it another way. How deep does lying seep into our genes? given thus is it possible to be completely honest with oneself if you can't be completeyly honest with someone else. Most likely no we are human not machines who are forced intp\o honesty.
   
   

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   ThoughtSandwichesposted 13 years ago

   I imagine the disguises people wear or more in tune with the stresses they are feeling.  I lie to myself on a regular basis…after all…if I didn’t have a mental co-pilot suggesting that I had at least half of a chance with the pretty lady at the end of the bar—I would in all likely never make the trip down (to the end of the bar I mean).  Additionally…as a writer…how can I not lie to myself…I would never turn on my computer without a little fortifying lie that might suggest that the ghost of John Steinbeck was a little worried about MY ass moving up the food chain. 
   I lied to my parents because it was probably best for them. 
   In relationships…I do not recommend lying.  I have occasionally.  I don’t recommend it.  Why did I do it?  Usually because in “whatever” situation it was…lying was easier.  I’m not proud of my actions.

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   thejeffriestubeposted 13 years ago

   I think it's a matter of survival. I've lied to my wife before to protect her from herself, only to tell her the truth later. The only people I truly trust implictly are my wife, my parents, and my brother. Learning how to spot a lie is an important skill that I think everyone should have though.

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   anupmaposted 13 years ago

   Lie is now part of life. With the dawn our lies start for example no we r not at home. In office, I am late because there was great rush on road, or to take leave my grand pa is seriously ill etc.etc. etc,,,,,,,,, But inspite of these things, we must be truthful to someone. We should never lie to him/her.
   If anyone explore his true character before us, might be we are not going to talk. So people hides their demerits. They know."When we are in Rome, Do as Romans do."

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   Old Empresarioposted 13 years ago

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   Rastamermaidposted 13 years ago

   I learned quite awhile back that lying takes too,too much effort.
   Lies change,the truth is fact. Once you lie you're constantly covering that lie,too much work.
   
   I tell the truth,I tell it straight from the hip how it is. If you're hurt by the truth I'm sorry. But a lie will make you smile and the truth will make you cry.But the truth will set you free!
   
   Free yourself!
   
   Face everything you can truthfylly and head on. You can't go wrong with that.
   
   Respect!

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   The Optimizersposted 13 years ago

   I'm not keen on liars, especially compulsive bullshitters who lie with no purpose?! .. I've always been an honest bloke, it has got me into trouble sometimes, but lies always come around and bite you on the ass in the end, so its easier to tell the truth.
   
   "The worst part about finding out that you have been lied to is realising that you were not worth the truth." - dont know where i heard that but it makes sense to me!
   
   With regards to trust, im not a very trusting person. In my experience, you can always trust a certain person with a certain thing, but nobody is ever fully trustworthy.

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      Juno Smithposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Agreed different people, different virtues, qualities, skills, characters. I was never a trusting person since a young child because I saw too much too early. Though, I learned to be at peace with me and love differently others…like distance...

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   eilander1542011posted 13 years ago

   It is completely possible to be 100% honest, one must simply want to be.  Many people will say that in some situations it is better to lie, maybe to save face, or not hurt someone.  But it doesn't work that way.  Inevitably the lie will come back to haunt the lier.  Some of us have prided ourselves on living lives of Truth, and with that said, there are some of us that do indeed not lie.  Though nobody is perfect, if we fall, we still must get ourselves back up and continue.

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   pearpandasposted 13 years ago

   This is an interesting question... I was just wondering why people do this as well?  My co-worker is pretty insane and she always lies.

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    cincin621posted 13 years ago

    This is a question I've been asking myself for years. I'm a totally honest person sometimes to a fault. My friends know when they ask my opinion on something I will be totally honest..no sugar coating and that's why they ask or don't ask me lol. I guess it all comes down to fear...of judgement,rejection etc.
    
    There are some people that don't really love themselves and don't believe anyone else will so they create a mask of lies about themselves and they get so deep that after some time thay don't even know what is the truth anymore,

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    selfdefenselessonposted 13 years ago

    I lie to avoid conflict.
    
    I always try to tell the truth. But when by lying protects someone, then I will lie.
    
    Honesty is something we all strive for in life. But if we all lived a life of pure honesty, I think we would have so many conflicts in this world than we ever could've imagined.
    
    Is it right to lie? Yes & no. It depends on the situation. lies can hurt. Lies can protect. Lies are not bad. It's all up to the reason behind it and the person who does it.

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    dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

    People often lie to impress or win somone over. Other times they lie to avoid painful circumstances for themselves or to keep from disappointing/hurting someone.
    Being "completely honest" does not mean one has to be rude or lack tact. Whether we hate to hear the truth or not we still respect those who are honest.

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    Juno Smithposted 9 years ago

    I believe that lying involves hiding something from the person that does allow them to make decision for themselves according to the reality, the truth decision that fits them, make them happy. When people lie, and it concerns you, they take your free will away by not allowing you to make decisions according to the truth.
    NOw, I recognize that I don't bother too much with liars. Once someone gets out of their way to tell me a lie, I prefer to step away because I want to know reality to make decisions according to it. I have been robbed of years by lies in different areas of my life, so, I taught my hubby that contrary to his culture: LIES DON'T SOOTH OF FIX THINGS, THEY POLLUTE AND DESTROY THE BEST ONES!
    He definitely got better with lots of prayers, patience and a good separation.

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