This definition of "maturity" I found in an old novel amused me. It struck a chord in me but I'm slightly uneasy that it does.
"I think that's what maturity is: a stoic response to endless reality."
One way of determining the accuracy of the definition might be to consider the counter factual (cool phrase which I discovered yesterday, not sure if it is applies here) :
Immaturity: an emotional response to restricted actuality
i.e. I don't like it when you limit my actions!
Sounds pretty good to me!
It sounds pessimistic to me, as if life is nothing but suffering. Gautama Buddha said that life is suffering, but even he found things to laugh at including himself, I expect. I like one that is purported to have come from him better. "Accept life as it is, not as you would like it to be." This does not mean to can't go ahead and change it whereever you can. But how we accpt it NOW indicates our maturity or lack of it.
Being that Stoic is defined as somebody who is unemotional, especially somebody who shows patience and endurance during adversity, I could see this being a definition. I think I like that actually.
I like it too and agree with it. My uneasiness comes from the part "endless reality". I like things to end. Be completed, finished, accomplished.
wixor, i DO like that counter factual idea!
I can't really say I like that quote. I'm mature (chronologically anyway, but I think "in general" as well). I don't like the bit about "stoic".
I'm going to make up my own saying: "Maturity is being sure enough of yourself not to hide, or stop being, the 'you' you've always been just because you think you're worrying about doing/thinking something that appears to be, or that might make you look, immature." (I'm no more stoic now about some realities than I've ever been, and I don't plan to ever be.)
I think you can go further here.
Maturity to me is being honest with yourself, and admitting your flaws, changing those you can, and accepting those you cannot.
It's nice to still kind of believe one can, maybe, change the world a little bit too.
Maybe, too, maturity is being able to have a sense of humor about your own flaws - and maybe, too, giving other people a little bit of a pass when it comes to what you perceive as "flaws" in them.
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