A House is not always a home

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   BlessedBellaposted 12 years ago

   
   Most of the times people may call House a Home, yes I understand them completely.
   But is it the same as having a big cozy house in another country and still call it home?
   I have had this experience, and no matter how I and the family try to make ourselves at home, there's always that little thing missing, that makes you realize that there's no place like home.
   
   Feeling like an outsider when you realize that you're not as privileged as the citizens of a particular country can make you vividly realize that.
   
   I don't know if you ever felt the same.

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      Inkdropposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      good thoughts

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      Disturbiaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Home is a concept not a place.  Not all houses are homes, just as not all homes are houses. Home is where you are loved, where you are comfortable, and where your spirit rests and re-energizes.  My only guess as to your comments about "feeling like an outsider" and "privileged citizens of a particular country"  is that you speak about those who are not native to the country in which they now live, or perhaps are native to a country under the rule of another and they have lost that feeling of  "home". I can understand how a person can feel they are not "home" when they no longer live in the place they love, but it's not a belief I share. I have lived in many places throughout my life and I don't think it matters where you live as much as how you live and how you adapt to where you live. Home is where you make it.

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         momsterposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         I would agree. Home is where the heart is. Adapting to a new place doesnt come easy and wont always feel like  home because you left behind the things that made you feel at home.

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      yeah, I live in a very luxurious apt complex but it's never been "home" to me, not yet so far in 5 yrs. maybe soon, maybe one day, we'll see. I think it takes quite a while for some people to RELOCATE.

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         Castlepalomaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         These are good points, I build tiny homes, a house sounds like something that owns you

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         JamaGeneeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Perhaps it doesn't feel like "home" (and never will) because the complex is so "luxurious" that people don't interact with their neighbors?
         
         Feeling "at home" is as much about having a connection to the people who live around you as the rooms you inhabit.  I've lived in places for a year or more and couldn't have told you who any of the neighbors were if my life depended on it.  Those places never felt like "home". Other places, I knew ALL the neighbors within the first week, and those places always felt like "home".

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            Castlepalomaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            It's good to find a way to be friendly.

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               JamaGeneeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               Sometimes there no friendly way to find.  Being neighborly is a two-way street where both sides have to make some effort to meet in the middle.

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                  Castlepalomaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  I find it pays to be friendly anywhere, for the ease of any disagreements that may come up, like some  blaming games of misunderstandings..

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                     JamaGeneeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                     You are quite correct.  But one can't be friendly to whoever is on the other side of the door when it's being slammed in one's face.

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                        Inkdropposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                        totally right........have you been there before.........

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                           Castlepalomaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                           Ok, there are some people you are better off, to totally ignore

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   SomewayOuttaHereposted 12 years ago

   ...home is where my beloved rocky is....
   
   ...take that paradigm!.....grrrrr.......

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      Castlepalomaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Hey, Rocky Mountain High

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         SomewayOuttaHereposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         hey...back at ya!

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   Disturbiaposted 12 years ago

   I feel very lucky because the house I'm living in now is completely home to me and I can't imagine ever living anywhere else.  It spoke to me from the very second I saw it.  I was in the car with my realtor on the way to look at another property when we drove by this house with a "For Sale By Owner" sign on the lawn.  I had my realtor pull into the driveway, we took a quick look around and I bought the place that very afternoon.

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   BlessedBellaposted 12 years ago

   thank you all for your comments. I am a very bubbly person, I don't have a problem making new acquaintances, but there's always that feeling of something missing.

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