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Do you think having a lot of money changes people? Would it change you?

  1. TIMETRAVELER2 profile image99
    TIMETRAVELER2posted 2 years ago

    Do you think having a lot of money changes people?  Would it change you?

    Jared, of Subway fame, is on his way to jail for dealing in child abuse of various types.  I have to wonder if this would have happened if he had just stayed fat and poor.  Maybe he was always a pervert and hid it well, but when he became rich could afford to take action.  I do think having tons of money changes people, but am wondering what you think.  What would you do if you suddenly became rich?  Anybody?


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    Wearmanyhatsposted 2 years ago

    I think having a lot of money has to change people to some degree, but mostly because people become more afraid when large amounts of money is at their disposal. For one thing, others around them expect them to be generous no matter what, and that usually ignites a fear of losing their money to the other person's greed. Winners of large amounts of money are besieged by requests for financial help, even from relatives they never knew they had! It would be horribly overwhelming. Couples that formerly got along fall to bickering about how the money would be spent, with each accusing the other of changing. There's something to the idea that couples stay together because of adversity.
       Finally, most people have no plan to preserve wealth, thereby blowing it on toys which quickly depreciate. I once knew someone who won $50,000 and even with the $30 plus thousand after taxes, felt it wasn't very much money. Rather than investing it in a something that would have brought long term growth, they spent it on four-wheelers and a new car. Now they probably needed the new car, but the money was gone quickly and they had nothing to show for it. An investment in a duplex would have given them additional income in ten years when their kids were off to college, providing those children with much needed help. Money put aside for their retirement would have helped them retire when they were old enough to enjoy traveling or time together. Instead, they told us that really, "It wasn't that much money anyway." It was a great amount of seed money, they just didn't know how to plant it.
      Your real question seems to be whether having money brought on pedophilia. I doubt it, because that is a sexual deviation brought on by sexual abuse when young and/or desensitization to pornography. If he can be accused of anything tying together wealth with this sexual activity, it might that wealth allowed him to have more time on his hands, which allowed him to spend time indulging his sexual appetite online. Most people who work for a living don't have that kind of time until after work. Still, most folks can get into illegal mischief during their off hours. As one wealthy man often told me, "The difference between the rich and poor is how they use their time."

    1. TIMETRAVELER2 profile image99
      TIMETRAVELER2posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Great answer.  No, I was not asking about Jared's situation, just using it as a point of conversation.  Thanks for this one!

    2. Dr Billy Kidd profile image92
      Dr Billy Kiddposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Seems like you nailed this question!

  3. Desireeshook31 profile image62
    Desireeshook31posted 2 years ago

    I don't know how or what it would do if I had a lot of money, but the more I see it with other people im kind of hesistant about even the thought of large amounts of money. ive seen it change so many people from being friends with them to them not even talking to me anymore because I don't have what they have, I don't get the things they get and I cant afford the things they afford. It would be nice to live comfortably like that but large amounts and watching what it does to some people, I think im happy being able to sleep at night knowing I don't have to be changed or based on the amount of money I have.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago


    I believe being wealthy makes you more of who you already are.
    Odds are Jared always had the hots for teenage girls going back to his own teenage years. He was probably too fat and poor to attract them then.
    After he lost weight and became a millionaire maybe he never let go of the pain during his youth and was mentally locked into pursuing girls of that age group. The money simply allowed him to live out his perverted fantasy.
    Some people I imagine become more paranoid or afraid that people only want to associate with them because of their newfound wealth. Trusting "new people" becomes a major challenge.
    If I suddenly became super wealthy I'd pursue some my long held dreams such as (buying a beautiful beachfront home) in Southern California, traveling around the world, setting up charitable foundations offering college scholarships,  financially helping out a select group of fiends and family members. (Even now I have been known to surprise people with gifts of money from time to time.)
    As I said I believe money allows you to be more of (who you already are) within. You're simply living out your fantasies!

    1. TIMETRAVELER2 profile image99
      TIMETRAVELER2posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      This is a very interesting and well thought out response.  I like it a lot!

  5. Tusitala Tom profile image65
    Tusitala Tomposted 2 years ago

    I think it depends quite a bit on the particular age you are when you suddenly come into a great deal of money.  If young, you might well think in using it to simply have a wonderfully rich person's life: big homes, luxury travel, yachts and the like.   Later, with some worldly wisdom, might come investments and an interest in using it to build up something like a business you'd enjoy running.   And very late in life, doing something along the lines of Andrew Carnegie who reputedly said, "Well, I like a good Scotch and a nice cigar.  As for the rest, I'm beyond it.  So I'm now giving it all away in  projects which will help others." - or words to that effect.

    For myself - and I'm an oldie now - I'd go into temporary hiding whilst I figured the best way to do what Carnegie did.   After that, I would wisely not give even my own relatives fortunes; rather just enough that they be comfortable living at around the 'average' wealth, so they do not become alienated or greedy.   With the rest, I'd set up a series of trusts and the like to see that a lot of projects which, in my own estimation, would make a great many people lead happier, more satisfying lives were implemented.

    I'd certainly enjoy the 'power' of being able to be generous to people by the provision of "unexpected" gifts of money to help them in times of need.  I think that would be very satisfying.

    1. TIMETRAVELER2 profile image99
      TIMETRAVELER2posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Another excellent response.  I can't argue with anything you said here because I think you are spot on!

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      Wearmanyhatsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I absolutely agree.

  6. peachpurple profile image83
    peachpurpleposted 2 years ago

    yeah, the people i know that became rich after being poor from young. That is due to they couldn't accept being look down. So they tend to spend a lot of money on possession and changed their attitudes towards friends, family members

  7. liesl5858 profile image84
    liesl5858posted 2 years ago

    I think having a lot of money changes people in their attitude but in different ways. It could be for the better or for the worse. Money seem to give people the power to do things good or bad. For some rich people who give to charities and to their families, I applaud them. For people who use their money for evil things, I despise them.

    If I suddenly become rich, I would share it with my family and relations like I have always done. No good in me keeping it to myself because I have always been taught by my parents to share anything no matter how small it is and this applies to money as well. I get pleasure in sharing whatever I have except my husband. I won't share him to anybody.

    1. TIMETRAVELER2 profile image99
      TIMETRAVELER2posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Good thinking!

  8. Sam Montana profile image62
    Sam Montanaposted 2 years ago

    I agree with the post that Jared already had this problem and money allowed him to fulfill his fantasies.

    Would a lot of money change me, no way. I have been through too much to change. A lot of money would just make me less worried about the future and I would donate a great deal as well.

  9. Diana Lee profile image84
    Diana Leeposted 2 years ago

    i know a low income family with eleven children.  There was a bad accident which ended with the death of one and two injured. A lawsuit with the people who were building a new roadway where the accident happened, ended up paying out over three million dollars to the child left crippled. Road signs had them traveling the wrong way. They were nearly three years collecting anything, but when they did they went hog wild buying houses, cars, toys etc, and in less than a couple  years they went almost broke.  The crippled child had to sell off everything. It caused a lot of chaos between the family and the girl that had the money. So she ended up moving away from them.
    I don't think I want to be rich if that's what it does.

    1. TIMETRAVELER2 profile image99
      TIMETRAVELER2posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Things like this happen because the average person generally does not know how to manage large amounts of money.  Most who inherit or win end up like this family or worse.  One even had to go into hiding because relatives wanted to kill them!

  10. Chriswillman90 profile image99
    Chriswillman90posted 2 years ago

    Money will change you somewhat but yes if someone already has a problem like Jared then it only exacerbates the problem. I think fame is more dangerous than money alone because you're exposed to the public. At least if you're rich and a normal person than you don't have to constantly be on alert.

  11. webservicebd profile image60
    webservicebdposted 2 years ago

    Yes. I think a lot of money changes a people.

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    Shakti jhaposted 2 years ago

    Sometimes not always. It is human nature to look forward. The truth is your actions are watched more when you are rich. People expect more things and different things too from the rich.