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Inner Peace as the Most Valuable Thing in the Whole White World
Whenever I hear a story about someone who claims to be completely fulfilled and happy I get an urge to ask them the following question: Have you gained peace? Peace is one of the most important words in any language, and we take this word very lightly. However, I will not be talking about the word peace in terms of war and peace, as this is obviously something our world leaders should talk about. As opposed to world peace, I will be talking about your own, inner peace, a peace everyone should gain in order to become truly happy and in order to be able to face the world with absolutely no fears or second thoughts.
Personally, I have never had peace in my life until recently. I have always wanted to keep as much of my life as it was possible away from other people, which has always been a true struggle for privacy. This means that I wasn’t thrilled about talking about my feelings to anyone including my closest ones, let alone the people I’d just met. People are very nosy and they generally have a tendency to go where they should never go. What I’m trying to say is that I’ve always been around people who wanted to know everything about my life, but for all the wrong reasons. You know when you ask someone how they are doing, and you only want to hear an answer which is negative so as to feel better about yourself. This is the pattern most people learn and accept as soon as they can, and use it for communicating with other people – which makes them all bitter and angry inside. Now, this is exactly what made me shut down and stop sharing anything except the stupid things, such as what I’m doing, whether I’m feeling cold at the moment and thing which are obvious like these ones – things with no importance whatsoever. However, the more complex feelings, which is the most important part of every inner peace, were always bottled up somewhere deep inside of me.
As I said, only recently have I found peace in my life. This inner peace should have been found a long time ago, if only I had learned all of this sooner. Namely, in order to gain peace, you first have to be honest to yourself. This means that you have to stop lying to yourself and face the facts – no matter how difficult this might seem, and it is extremely difficult. When you start being completely honest to yourself, being honest to other people will come as a perfectly natural thing. It is very important to understand that this honesty includes your innermost feelings and thoughts, which are key to finding inner peace.
After understanding the whole honesty thing, you will have to learn how to protect your life without using lies and without breaking the honesty agreement you have made with yourself. Namely, there are certain parts of your personal life which should remain a secret for anyone except your partner, and both of you will have to do your best to protect these parts of your life. In order to do this, you will have to use your imagination mixed with the fact that you are honest. For example, if there is something you do not want to share with everybody, and someone asks you a question about this, you can either be completely blunt and tell the person that this is none of their business, or you can simply use your imagination and avoid answering the question in a way you find apt.
I have found that there is nothing more important than finding peace with yourself, as this eventually has to result in finding peace with the people around you. You can never be completely happy and fulfilled if you have something buried deep inside of you, that will cut your inner body into little pieces of misery and keep doing this until you decide to stop the charade and start acting the way you should. Therefore, instead of having a lot of little pieces of peace, why not gain complete inner peace and throw away all the little pieces that are making you miserable and unhappy?