What do you do when you see a homeless women with children that doesn't want help? So many people have tried to help and her story is always the same: A friend helped to get them into a hotel for a few days and they'll be going back home (out of state) within a week. It's been a year and they're still on the street with the same story... I feel bad for the kids... What do you do?
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Wow, that's the greatest advice anyone could've given! Maybe that's exactly what she needs, a plan laid out for her, limiting the unknows & giving encouragement, showing her it's possible to move up & keep her kids... You're awesome. God bles
I have no intention on calling CPS. I don't want to separate children from their parents, she's all they have. They go from hotel to hotel every 2-3 days as someone pays for a room for them. I'm not judging her hun, I want them to get help w/o fear.
Then help her. Work with a local church or organization to get her into permanent housing. Take her food. Stop by your local low income housing apartments and get her an application and take it to her. There are so many ways to help her.
There is no help for low income permanent housing here - shelters are limited but there's the 1 that's willing to take them being she fled from abuse. Others have spoken with her about various resources - she refuses everything. Why??
She refuses because of ego and fear of judgment, possibly even mental illness. There are low income apartments usually in every county. I would suggest calling the housing authority and ask where closest are if not in your county.
We live in a heavily populated area. Low-income housing waiting lists are years long - they won't even add names to it anymore. I think I have to accept that she doesn't want the help - fear I'm sure but those kids don't deserve to be forced suffer.
"She needs to feel empowered, not pitied." I agree but she won't allow anyone to help her. She gives everyone the same story "Oh it's ok, we're leaving in a few days anwyay - we don't need the help." She seems kind and her kids are well behaved but..
Wow, what you said is very powerful & thought provoking. I can't disagree with you. Peeples posted a hub about this, link above. I commented. 1 chance or I have to contact somone because you're right this is about the kids, not the mom... TY, GBY
The children are being fed and clothed and I'm assuming most time housed in a hotel, all by random acts of kindness from various strangers. But they're not in school and receiving no medical or mental health services and it's obvious they need it.
This is what many government agencies were designed for.
I think it comes down to exactly what you said:
"You can't help those who don't want to be helped."
Unless her two older children are both female, most shelters will split the mother from her male children. Also did she admit these kids aren't seeing docs or going to school or was it obvious somehow?
I spoke with that shelter and they will not separate the kids from mom. The mother has a large growth on her neck & the mental health issue was obvious with the daughter. The kids told me they're not in school & haven't been for a long time.
We pay taxes to create government agencies specifically for poor children in this country. It's really not about what this woman (wants). It's about what her children (need). A parent should do what's best for their child. This should be reported.
DashingScorpio I so agree with your statement, but... This must be what it feels like to be between a rock & a hard place... I dont want anyone to suffer... I can only be prayer about it & see what God wants me to do...
The kids can't continue to live like that. I pray in Jesus' name the mother accepts the help her children need, without fear. God bless...
I contacted a local church that same evening - she didnt want to go with me but offered her room number. They called her that night and the next morning. She accepted food and clothes but wanted no other help. She was adament about it.