This is really a great question. Over the years I have noticed very low level people become gatekeepers of the most high -- "The Computer". The computer says we cannot do that. So NO! Receptionists are told to screen calls, and they take that to mean say no to people. It is totally a power trip gone totally awry. I walk in carrying a brief case and wearing a two thousand dollar suit. I have a meeting with the CEO. But come to find out that the bathrooms are not for the public. The gal upfront can say no to me using the bathroom -- wow what power. And yes she may get fired if I lay the hammer down.
I cannot count the executive that I have had the pleasure of dressing down or getting replaced because power went to their head and the came out the other side saying no to everything.
For me it was no big deal, I hopped the next flight and flew away. I got said no to by fortune 500 companies. I liked it. If we see our me as the job, we fail to see me as the human being. My family has always kicked my butt when I walk in my home. I have one roll in life. To be me.
Many fun folks like me that are Christian have this grandiose concept of telling others how to act. What a fools errand. That job is not mine.
Transference by external forces is like having an ego dependent on others. It is and always will be wrong. If we can see it we see our lives as much more than who we see ourselves to be. Things like love and compassion come from us, but more so they are the umbrella that we shield ourselves with from the elements of man.
I knew a hot shot once that I worked with. We dropped into forest fires as a first line of defense. When the fire was out he was depressed. The job defining us is dangerous.