jump to last post 1-5 of 5 discussions (5 posts)

How can someone actually "get over (it)", on their own?

  1. stanwshura profile image75
    stanwshuraposted 6 years ago

    How can someone actually "get over (it)", on their own?

    How in the world is it possible to wash yourself of the anger, hate, and thirst for revenge against s/he or they who have done your wrong.  I'm not asking a hypothetical, nor especially a spiritual question here.  No offense intended, but I'd rather not hear anything about prayer or meditation or  - well - I don't know, if done tactfully and with sensitivity, I suppose I could handle what are usually very preachy cliche's.

    I'm talking about the seething rage, desperation, hate, anger, frustration, depression, suicidal ideation (or further), and *agony* of those who have suffered injustice.

  2. HattieMattieMae profile image66
    HattieMattieMaeposted 6 years ago

    Well I'm not sure really if you can get over it without some type of healing or spiritual belief.  I can't really answer that and I guess that question would have to be from someone that is atheist or does not believe in any religion or spiritual methods. For me It was not possible to do it without the spiritual/meditation/social work/humanitarian mind and position I have had. I guess you would have to find someone that has done it without any of that in their lives. Sorry! smile

  3. Rosemay50 profile image79
    Rosemay50posted 6 years ago

    If I am angry or upset I write it all down, everything I would like to say, to do. That seems to take it off the boil for me. Get it all out of the system. Then don't read it again, just throw it away or delete it.

  4. stanwshura profile image75
    stanwshuraposted 6 years ago

    Thank  you both so far.  You actually DID provide bits and pieces within your answers that - IF I CAN REMEMBER THEM EACH DAY!! - might help me do a better job of living NOW and not pining for a justice that is not realistic (albeit way overdue and glaringly absent) - hence dwelling on past hate done to me.

    HattieMattieMae, I find your mention of humanitarian and social work arenas both intriguing, relevant, and FAR removed from what I've seen as too much FAKERY among the so-called "pious" and faithful.  That - and my literal mind and compromised executive functioning mean that "faith" is a chicken-egg oxymoron for me.  I NEED the proof to believe.  But then, needing the proof is a lack of faith.

    Rosemay50, I am definitely in your camp.  I write the hell out of it and everything else I need to process, as that, and reading (nonfiction)/conversation are the only way I learn.  It's that damned letting go that's so hard! wink  I am a genuine hoarder - digital, expositional, and indeed in my physical space.  I indeed can't seem to let things (abstract or tangible) GO.  Hmmmm.....Maybe writing helps sort it, organize it - so it takes up less space - and hopefully MUCH less time distracting me.

    Thank you both for your insights and effort.


  5. lburmaster profile image83
    lburmasterposted 6 years ago

    I agree with you. I hate adding religion into those situations. Honestly, the way you get over it is to mentally dismiss the actions or situation. You have to realize it doesn't matter. Yes, you went through it. And by doing so you have become more patient, stronger in discipline, and a better person. No one else can do it for you and some people never get to this point in life. However, it is the highest point of mental processing.