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Do People Actually Fall In Love Online Without Any Contact?

  1. Rock_nj profile image91
    Rock_njposted 4 years ago

    Do People Actually Fall In Love Online Without Any Contact?

    Just wondering if people think it is actually possible to fall in love with someone online without any real physical contact?  I have my doubts, but perhaps people have had experiences or know people who have had experiences that validate that this could actually happen.  I assume eventually people in love through cyberspace would meet up in the real world, but who knows these days?

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  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Yes, I believe people can form an emotional connection without meeting in person. Truth be told this happened long before there were home computers. Many years ago "pen pals" (strangers who wrote letters) to one another had been known to fall in love. During World War I & II some women wrote to soldiers they had never met on a regular basis to keep their spirits up. It was not unheard of for some of them to commit to one another or even get married after war.

    1. Rock_nj profile image91
      Rock_njposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      That's interesting that people fell in love as pen pals.  I was thinking of the modern era with so much online socialization going on, and I didn't consider the way things were done previously.  Thanks!

  3. fpherj48 profile image75
    fpherj48posted 4 years ago

    I can accept that it's possible to form a closeness, a bond, so to speak, with someone whom they've not met face to face.  It's probably quite possible for some individuals to feel that they have fallen in love.  I would think that it has much to do with the length of time 2 people have interacted as well as to the depth of their exchanges, in terms of exposing their inner self.   
    I will say that a situation like this seems ideal, in getting to know a person w/o becoming overly "involved" too quickly.....know what I mean?   
    At my age....my advice to someone, would be:  Honey, if you want to fall in love online, offline, above or below the line...GO FOR IT!!

    1. Rock_nj profile image91
      Rock_njposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I think one could fall in love through correspondence to some degree, but at some level it seems as if you need at least some physical closeness to really have love blossom.  But feelings of love are triggered by the brain, so perhaps it is possible.

  4. junkseller profile image85
    junksellerposted 4 years ago

    I fell in love with a pen pal. And she with me. It started out as writing and then became hours long phone conversations. Simply put, she was magical. And in some ways it can actually be easier to form an emotional attachment in that context, because gaps in what you know can be filled in with romantic imagination. Not only did we have no contact, but we had no idea what each other looked liked. Not even basic things like height and hair color. Eventually reality formed around the dream and it didn't work out, but she is still one of the most amazing people I've ever known. I think about her fairly often and wonder how she is.

    Was that love? or something else? Would other people call it something different? Who knows. Regardless it was very real and very potent and won't ever be forgotten

    1. Rock_nj profile image91
      Rock_njposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Love is many different things to different people, and is a rather subjective concept.  It certainly sounds to me as though you experienced love on some level.  I'm sure you missed her and couldn't wait for the next letter and call.

    2. junkseller profile image85
      junksellerposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Still miss her. In fact, I think maybe I'll write her another letter. All this romanticness has me inspired!

  5. wychic profile image89
    wychicposted 4 years ago

    Absolutely, they can! I think today's internet world just helps speed up the process, since people can correspond and get to know each other a lot faster now than when "snail mail" was the only option. I met my husband while playing free poker on Myspace. They had a little chat function on there. Neither of us were looking for a significant other, but we ended up falling in love anyway. Six months after we started talking, he bought a one-way ticket here. It was the first time I met him in person, but our feelings for each other and each of our ideas of the kind of person the other was turned out to be absolutely real. We got married and had two kids. It's been five years since then, and life together just keeps getting better. Before all this, I honestly never knew that it was possible to be such good friends as well as loving partners. I suppose getting to know each other the way we did helped us fall in love with personalities and minds first, without the distraction of bodies.

    1. Rock_nj profile image91
      Rock_njposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      That's great!  Congratulations!  I'm glad it worked out so well for you.  It does allow people to get to know each other in a way that can be very beneficial.  Thanks for sharing your story.

  6. KenDeanAgudo profile image82
    KenDeanAgudoposted 4 years ago

    For me no, cause love through online is not real and strong. I believe that personal relationship not a long distance one will work more.

  7. Man of Strength profile image77
    Man of Strengthposted 4 years ago

    Yes, it's possible. Some people have met online and married. In other cases they've fell in love online but when they met in person, thee was disappointment. There's a element of infatuation involved.

  8. Kevin Peter profile image72
    Kevin Peterposted 4 years ago

    I have heard of many peolple falling in love even without meeting the other person. But I am doubtful that their relation would stay happy forever. If they try to know each other completely before meeting each other, it may lead into a better life.But both of them should be honest to each other in sharing their personal likes and views.

    1. Rock_nj profile image91
      Rock_njposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I was thinking the same thing.  Falling in love online is only legitimate if both people are being honest.  After all, people take on assumed personas online, and one could be corresponding with anyone, which is why it's important to eventually meet.

    2. todphifer profile image60
      todphiferposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I saw many movies (Bollywood movie sirf tum) where people falling in love without any meeting or contact.

    3. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Rock_nj , You said, "Falling in love online is only legitimate if both people are being honest" Isn't that so for meeting offline as well? Love is a gamble and yes some people never reveal their "authentic selves".  People fall in love on & offli

    4. Rock_nj profile image91
      Rock_njposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      dashingscorpio  - Fair enough.  You're correct.

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    Michelle Widmannposted 4 years ago

    Hm, this is an interesting question. Well, to me, love doesn't require physical contact to blossom - you fall in love with a person's values, personality, preferences, not so much the physical stuff. To me, that can come later and it's not such a big deal. I think the best way to fall in love and know it's for real is by doing it without sleeping together or having physical sexual tension between the two of you; if you can love the person because of their values for more than a night or two, I think it has more potential to last.

    Not to mention, there is always the options of using webcams now, so you can still see the person to whom you are talking. That's one way of feeling closer than the distance actually is, but I still think the conversation is still the relationship maker or breaker, and that can be achieved without physical contact. My fiancé and I had very minimal physical contact before we fell in love (I think we hugged once before I knew he was the one); it was the beliefs, morals and values conversation that really got us both.

    1. Rock_nj profile image91
      Rock_njposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for sharing your story.  An interesting take on falling in love and staying in love.  I agree that for love to last, it has to be more than just a physical attraction.

  10. daredevil7773 profile image60
    daredevil7773posted 4 years ago

    People can absolutely fall in love without physical contact of any kind. Love is multidimensional and physicality is just a part. Love transcends all barriers, including that of distance and time. Emotions and feelings are what make people fall in love.
    Technology only provide us with a means to connect, but the emotions involved are definitely real. I have a close friend who is happily married to a girl he met online.

    1. Rock_nj profile image91
      Rock_njposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Did they just get to know each other online and then fall in love once they started having physical contact?  I just wonder, because there's something about when you see someone you are in love in the flesh that overwhelms you.  Not sure about online

  11. AmbitiousMarketer profile image61
    AmbitiousMarketerposted 4 years ago

    I suppose it's easier over the net because you won't see the persons flaws and you can hide your own flaws too like some guys wouldn't be as nervous talking to a girl over skype than actually meeting them face to face worrying about their breath and body language and those awkward silent moments.

    Then there's the problem with romantic imagination like you imagine how it would be like with your online partner and how much fun you'd have but she might not stand it when you touch yourself or when you don't lock the bathroom door. Then you get annoyed at her paying more attention to the computer and trying to keep her nail clippings off the bed then you both finally realise it's not as magical as it should've been as you both built up a mental picture of what the other would've been like and how the relationship would've been

  12. IslandBites profile image88
    IslandBitesposted 4 years ago

    I am happily married for almost seven years. I met my now husband online (in a forum). I was not looking for a significant other, I even did not wanted friends nor meet people "in person". But we became online friends, and then started to have telephone conversations also. We got to knew each other likes and dislikes, interests, religious/political views, etc before met in person. And yes, we fall in love. One and a half years after we met in person, we got married.

    1. Rock_nj profile image91
      Rock_njposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for sharing your story.  The Internet has changed courtship in a number of ways, mostly for the better, as people can get to know each other better before taking it to the next level.

    2. IslandBites profile image88
      IslandBitesposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      True, but not just courtship. Internet has changed every aspect of socialization. It's a very interesting theme.

    3. Rock_nj profile image91
      Rock_njposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      One thing that can be awkward is when you broadcast your opinion of Facebook, sometimes the reaction of your friends can be quite surprising.  I think hard before posting something that goes out to my friends.

  13. rondmrn profile image83
    rondmrnposted 4 years ago

    I guess some can fall in love with the conversations they're having. They might be infatuated and fall in love with the idea of talking with someone, calling someone, having someone text them from time to time, for them to skype with, someone to say intimate expressions over the cyberspace.

    It happens a lot on twitter, online games, and other platforms! It's a very interesting world!

  14. oz-vitez profile image76
    oz-vitezposted 4 years ago

    Sure. People used to fall in love with pictures. What's the difference?

  15. moronkee profile image77
    moronkeeposted 4 years ago

    Yes, it is possible to fall in love online without contact. I have heard of cases on FB where men and women meet online and eventually after a year or two of dating online, they get married..

  16. Desami profile image58
    Desamiposted 4 years ago

    Falling in love with minimal physical contact is absolutely possible. I've been blessed to have had this happen to me twice. I met Joe online through a game called a MUD (Multi User Domain). This was in 1989 so that's a seriously old-school text based, role playing, dungeons and dragons kind of adventure game. He was a creator of the game and I was simply a player. Eventually I beat the game and was allowed to help create new areas for players and Joe took me under his wing and taught me what I needed to know to accomplish that. We spent a huge amount of time together and became the best of friends. Our feelings developed into love as the years passed and we married in 1995. Unfortunately, 14 wonderfully spent years later Joe had a heart attack and passed. I was lucky enough to have met João a few years earlier on another game that Joe and I played called Diablo II. After Joe, João was my other best friend. João was from Brazil and it was quite difficult to actually meet up due to finances, work schedules, and distance. Regardless of these roadblocks, João and I developed feelings for each other after Joe passed and eventually arranged for him to come to the US on a fiancé visa. He had 3 months to get married or he had to return to Brazil. We have been married nearly 3 years now.

    I feel very blessed to have found such a wonderful companion not once, but twice! Blind love is absolutely possible! The keys to it are complete honesty, openness and communication. Unfortunately the Internet provides an excellent opportunity to hide behind false statements and images. Too many people pretend to be something or someone they aren't and all that accomplishes is showing that one person who COULD be your mate, aspects of your character that are less than desirable in a relationship. Subconsciously, one would never be fully trusting of the person who wouldn't show their true self.

    Sorry this turned out to be such a long answer to your question but I hope it shows you how powerful the heart can be and obstacles it will overcome to get what it wants. Best of luck figuring this all out. :-)

    -Desami

    1. junkseller profile image85
      junksellerposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Haha, MUD, that is old-school. Loved your story. Congratulations on your life of romance.

  17. sunilkunnoth2012 profile image35
    sunilkunnoth2012posted 4 years ago

    Yes, people do fall in love online.  The best moving fiction now in India is "I too had a love story".  It is a story of deep love earned through net. If you can read the same, please do.  Love is eternal. Whether online or offline, it will be there and will impress and trap anyone, who is romantic.

  18. Ronilo Blanca profile image66
    Ronilo Blancaposted 4 years ago

    Nope it so hard to fall in love to to person you have not met yet. because it  maybe this person is going to scam you. it is important that if you fall in love. Know this person first, the attitude, like and dislikes and so on. in cyber world you can create a personality that far from your real personality. you can make lies in the cyber space. I recommend that if you love someone is better to look in the real world. ;-)

  19. DDE profile image25
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    People can fall in love without physical contact,  by long conversations you grow to love the other, it happens slowly.

  20. WalterPoon profile image79
    WalterPoonposted 4 years ago

    Yes, they do. They fall in love with their own imagination of what the person is like and fall out immediately at first sight, if the real person is not what they imagine them to be.

    And I'm talking from experience... ooophhhs, cannot reveal too much, LOL.

 
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