Are you socially awkward? If so how is that beneficial to you?
Many people are socially awkward, though I prefer to call myself an individual, but none-the-less am socially awkward. I don't really enjoy social functions, drinking, etc. For me I find that being socially awkward as a strength and not a weakness. I am curious about how other people view social awkwardness either in themselves or in other people.
I grew up being a very shy child. It wasn't until Junior High School that I started coming out of my shell (so to speak). I have always been very extroverted in a number of situations, but since I've been spending more time researching and on the computer-- I am finding social situations a lot more awkward.
Part of this is due to the fact that a number of my friends are married, or partnered off. When you interact at parties, women can become jealous if you strike up conversations with their partners... which puts you in a very awkward position when you are not with a "date" for an event.
When I bring a date to social events, often this becomes awkward too-- because sometimes the date doesn't know all of the social circle and wants to leave quickly, or is not having a great time at the event.
It would probably be much better to be married in these situations, but then again... I know a lot of people who are married and feel uncomfortable bringing their spouse to social events. It all depends on your parter!
Sometimes its best to remain single. Sometimes not!
I actually enjoy being socially awkward at times and try to be so. If someone says we aren't supposed to talk about something, you know what I will be talking about. Sometimes its just fun to walk up to a random person and start speaking as if in the middle of a conversation. They have no idea what is happening until the confrontation is over. But hanging out with people who are drinking beer or hanging out, I just sink into the background. Never speaking up and trying to stay in my little man-cave. I like it. I get to watch them, to enjoy their happiness.
I am socially awkward as well, and find it highly advantageous, lacking all the worries some people have about whether people like me, or if I will lose popularity if I this or that. I am free to be me; I hew my own path however that may be perceived, as I care little about being well liked or popular. I am not hemmed in by certain things that hinder others from moving forward. A friend calls me a lone wolf, and that is one of the greatest compliments one could receive. This doesn't mean being a jerk or a hermit, just a homebody whose self image is not built on the shaky ground of other people's perceptions of who I am or should be.
I heard someone address this once by saying: I have low social skills because I have low social needs.
To me, that was the best explanation. I don't need attention or approval. I have good social skills but can't use them if I'm in a place I don't want to be.
I guess it doesn't help that I'm married and have no need to social.
I think, in a way, I am definitely socially awkward. I don't like to go to parties and functions very often. Even if it is a prayer meeting, I just dread the Indian crowd at the temple. They have their highly opinionated views, and I really don't like that. If I go to a party or a function, I go to enjoy myself. Usually, I come back feeling worse than before I went there. I don't mind having a few drinks at home or with one or two friends out at a bar/restaurant though. That's a great question.
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