Are you socially awkward? If so how is that beneficial to you?
Many people are socially awkward, though I prefer to call myself an individual, but none-the-less am socially awkward. I don't really enjoy social functions, drinking, etc. For me I find that being socially awkward as a strength and not a weakness. I am curious about how other people view social awkwardness either in themselves or in other people.
I grew up being a very shy child. It wasn't until Junior High School that I started coming out of my shell (so to speak). I have always been very extroverted in a number of situations, but since I've been spending more time researching and on the computer-- I am finding social situations a lot more awkward.
Part of this is due to the fact that a number of my friends are married, or partnered off. When you interact at parties, women can become jealous if you strike up conversations with their partners... which puts you in a very awkward position when you are not with a "date" for an event.
When I bring a date to social events, often this becomes awkward too-- because sometimes the date doesn't know all of the social circle and wants to leave quickly, or is not having a great time at the event.
It would probably be much better to be married in these situations, but then again... I know a lot of people who are married and feel uncomfortable bringing their spouse to social events. It all depends on your parter!
Ahhhh...
Choices.
Sometimes its best to remain single. Sometimes not!
I actually enjoy being socially awkward at times and try to be so. If someone says we aren't supposed to talk about something, you know what I will be talking about. Sometimes its just fun to walk up to a random person and start speaking as if in the middle of a conversation. They have no idea what is happening until the confrontation is over. But hanging out with people who are drinking beer or hanging out, I just sink into the background. Never speaking up and trying to stay in my little man-cave. I like it. I get to watch them, to enjoy their happiness.
I am socially awkward as well, and find it highly advantageous, lacking all the worries some people have about whether people like me, or if I will lose popularity if I this or that. I am free to be me; I hew my own path however that may be perceived, as I care little about being well liked or popular. I am not hemmed in by certain things that hinder others from moving forward. A friend calls me a lone wolf, and that is one of the greatest compliments one could receive. This doesn't mean being a jerk or a hermit, just a homebody whose self image is not built on the shaky ground of other people's perceptions of who I am or should be.
I heard someone address this once by saying: I have low social skills because I have low social needs.
To me, that was the best explanation. I don't need attention or approval. I have good social skills but can't use them if I'm in a place I don't want to be.
I guess it doesn't help that I'm married and have no need to social.
I think, in a way, I am definitely socially awkward. I don't like to go to parties and functions very often. Even if it is a prayer meeting, I just dread the Indian crowd at the temple. They have their highly opinionated views, and I really don't like that. If I go to a party or a function, I go to enjoy myself. Usually, I come back feeling worse than before I went there. I don't mind having a few drinks at home or with one or two friends out at a bar/restaurant though. That's a great question.
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