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Is it okay for a wife to hang out with her guy friends?

  1. Timothy Brakhage profile image62
    Timothy Brakhageposted 6 years ago

    Is it okay for a wife to hang out with her guy friends?

  2. How To Hub profile image61
    How To Hubposted 6 years ago

    As a wife in love with her husband I would not feel right hanging out with another male or a group of males. If there is a male in the pool where I am staying I will talk for a bit always mentioning my husband .
    Some say you can just be friends but why not be friends with your husband & have fun with him ?
    There will be some that argue that it is ok tho .

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    Over the course of many years I have come to the conclusion with regard to relationships and marriage is (there is no "right" or "wrong"). There is only "agree" and "disagree". Ultimately we are looking for someone who "naturally agrees" with us on the major things in life.

    Having said that I can't imagine myself being married to a woman who felt the need to pal around with guy friends outside of a work related event or something along those lines. By the same token I would not be hanging out alone with any female friends either. As I stated there is no "right" or "wrong" only "agree" and "disagree". Hopefully this would have been one of those things you learned about someone during the "dating/courtship" phase.

    Naturally if the person you were dating was doing it then and you acted like you didn't have a problem with it then they aren't likely to change because they got married. Expectations should be discussed before a commitment is made.

  4. brandasaur profile image61
    brandasaurposted 6 years ago

    if those guy friends are your wife's friends before she knew you, then why stop her? but if they are just new friends, or bad influences, then you have to talk to her smile

  5. wychic profile image89
    wychicposted 6 years ago

    I think it depends on the individual comfort levels within each relationship. For me, I had a lot of guy friends long before I ever got married -- most of my friends, actually, because I really don't get along with other females very well. That said, my husband has been cheated on before, and out of respect for him I am very careful to keep my actions above question...which includes not hanging out with my guy friends without him. He has never asked me not to visit with them by myself, but he appreciates that I don't and affords the same courtesy to me -- any time spent with friends of the opposite gender, we also spend with each other. The only males I do hang out with when he's not around are my cousin and my stepson (who is only a few years younger than me), and occasionally my husband's best friend (who is learning disabled and who is certainly not a concern to my husband). He doesn't question how trustworthy I am, but I feel that it's better to never give a reason to doubt...and, quite frankly, there's no other male I enjoy spending time with more than him, and I want to make sure he knows it.

  6. padmendra profile image46
    padmendraposted 3 years ago

    When you know what is wrong and right for you and for your family it is OK to go out with your male friends. However, male mentality about their women can never be altered. So any element which adds to the discomfort of your family should be avoided. There are many things in  our life which we like to do but all are actions most of the time needs to walk hand- in- hand with the acceptance in the society and it is not only in case of a woman but also should be followed by males.