Why are women who are the oldest ones in their families are often passive aggressive in terms of
expressing their OWN needs?
Maybe as the eldest, she is often the one to take care of the younger siblings and is asked to set an example for the younger ones. She does this most of the time naturally but deep inside unknowingly, she may resent the responsibility and the burden placed upon her This may carry on into her adult life. Just my guess..
I think it stems from some form of mild resentment and genuine need. We want people to know what our needs are and not have to tell them. It isn't fair of course to expect people to read our minds but sometimes we do expect it.
That old thing of - you should know what I need or want and I shouldn't have to tell you.
The women care and work and nurture, and lovingly so but would also like a piece of that pie. Yet they cannot bring themselves to come out and ask for it so becoming passive aggressive about it is a way to approach that need without really admitting any vulnerability. (not good)
Love your questions by the way.
You're welcome. Oldest daughter are constantly DOING for others. They are ALWAYS last in terms of themselves. As a result of this family pattern, they place themselves last and are afraid to assert themselves re: own needs!
But what makes it manifest into passive aggressive behavior?
Because they sublimate their own needs, they feel that to assert their own wants is akin to being selfish. They expect that others recirprocate their duties towards them; however, when the others do not, these daughters feel neglected and act out!
by Grace Marguerite Williams 2 years ago
Why do so many oldest children have a passive-aggressive relationship with theirsiblings? What is the root cause of so many oldest children exhibiting such behavior towards their younger siblings? Analytical answers please.
by Money Fairy 3 years ago
Do you think a woman with more than 8 children has a mental problem?Isn't it just a little insane to have so many children? Unless you are a gazillionaire how on earth could you afford so many children? And how much time would you really have to spend with them ?Just curious if anyone else thinks...
by Grace Marguerite Williams 3 years ago
child as far as birth orders/ family constellations go?
by Nichol marie 2 days ago
Do you know someone who is prejudice of larger families?Why do some people have an ignorant belief that moms of large families cannot be the same as moms with one or 2?
by Jill Spencer 2 years ago
Does Angelina Jolie's passive-aggressive tweet re the Paris attacks tick you off, too?As the world reacts in horror, sadness and anger over the Paris attacks, Jolie tweeted, "Whilst everyone talks about #Paris no one mentions the #ISIS attack in #Lebanon yesterday. I pray for both...
by Penny Godfirnon 5 months ago
If your were the oldest child in your family were you given huge responsibilities?Were you given responsibilites beyond your years and were you able to accomplish them or did you suffer from failing your parents!
Copyright © 2018 HubPages Inc. and respective owners. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. HubPages® is a registered Service Mark of HubPages, Inc. HubPages and Hubbers (authors) may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including Amazon, Google, and others.
|HubPages Device ID||This is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.|
|Login||This is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.|
|HubPages Traffic Pixel||This is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.|
|Remarketing Pixels||We may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.|
|Conversion Tracking Pixels||We may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.|