What do you think of Forgiveness??? is it overrated, or is it really one of the steps towards enlightenment?? Share your thoughts with me and the other Hubbers if you like.
I guess it depends on the issue and the person. I have one person in my life I have not forgiven and I never will and I am no different because of it. There is a difference between moving on and forgiving. I think some people believe that you can't move on without forgiveness. I don't believe that to be true. I'm not a religious person so I don't feel a need to HAVE to forgive. I forgive when it's suitable, which is 99% of the time.
But what do you gain, by not forgiving this person, except the anger and grudge that is apparent to me through your words, I guess you haven't moved on
I don't have that anger or a grudge so long as I never have to see the person again. Some things are unforgivable. My lack of forgiveness never impacts my day to day life. To me that's all that's important.
I'm kind of the same mentality of peeples. For me, I found that moving on without forgiving someone doesn't bother me in the least. It gives me a sense of peace without having to reopen any wounds. I guess, now that I think about it, I never really forgave someone in my past for what she did to my sister, dad, and me. I probably never will, either. Just not thinking about and blocking it out is fine with me.
hmmmm, but that's not healthy writinglover, and as psycology teaches us, blocking our feelings has no good results, I think you should really reconsider your decision, and remember that you don't forgive someone for his/her sake, rather for yours.
After re-reading my comment, I realized that I wrote this answer out of frustration. I just broke up with someone special and I guess that's the spurrned part of me just talking. I do believe forgiveness can be an integral part to a relationship.
True forgiveness is an act of love, creation, humility, confidence (faith), and responsibility.
Many people think forgiveness is clinging to the memory of a past hurt. They can "forgive," but cannot forget. That's not forgiveness.
In my "Anatomy of a Miracle," I tell of my first experience with true forgiveness. I forgot the assaults so well, it took me 34 years to realize it. And this heightened state of spirituality led to a miracle comparable to that of Moses parting the sea.
True forgiveness is never overrated. It is highly recommended, because it thwarts ego -- the master, and source of all worldly evil.
Interesting point, I wouldn't call it a miracle like Moses, but that's a different issue. On the other hand the previous two comments made perfect sense; there are several acts towards which forgiveness seems to be an impossible task, like murder.
Forgiveness for me is an act to let go something from own heart to embrace truly the person in question to be forgiven. If someone does something to upset one, as long as the reason lies in heart it's a burden in mind and many a time is cause of bitterness to carry inside. The reason if is a heartburn then the memory to carry within is more a cause of negativity to burden the mind always. So if one can forgive the person truly from deep within then the burden in mind also gets erased or at least lightened. Thus the act of forgiveness is actually required for own way of happiness rather then the person to be forgiven.
This can be well said a step forward toward lightening own heart for me rather then enlightenment. Individually for me 'enlightenment ' is much more a powerful word for the simple act of forgiveness. By forgiving i do not think one can attain enlightenment or step toward it, if the person is not wise enough to contemplate many other aspect of true wisdom.
Thank you for taking the time and share with us, I do agree with you in certain aspects, but still, there is much more to the idea of forgiveness, and I'm not quite satisfied.
You are very rite here. Forgiveness is a many faceted aspect of a mental attitude. Honestly i have not intentionally forgiven one person in my life but i could move on with life. I do not think about it. Rather i see the positive strength in it.
To understand everything is to forgive everything.
“You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.”
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