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How to make someone listens to a full explanation without interrupting?

  1. Zarlaxeo profile image61
    Zarlaxeoposted 2 years ago

    How to make someone listens to a full explanation without interrupting?

    Why won't they shut up for awhile and try to listen?

  2. peachpurple profile image83
    peachpurpleposted 2 years ago

    They are frogs living in a well´╝î just get use toit

    1. Zarlaxeo profile image61
      Zarlaxeoposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      You know everyone has their own limits right. Very well then. smile

  3. Billie Kelpin profile image85
    Billie Kelpinposted 2 years ago

    I'm sure glad you, as a young person, asked this question.  I thought I it was the fact that I'm getting old that everyone interrupts me smile  BUT when I sit back and just listen to my daughter, her boyfirend, and her friends - I notice they ALL talk over each other! It's a new social phenomenon.  What you notice is not a reflection of you, but a reflection of the "non-listener".  I see that you're new to hubpages, so talk away here, people will listen smile  I'm not on the "welcoming committee" and there isn't one to my knowledge, but I'll just give you a warm welcome. t's nice to see a beautiful face like yours here.  Sometimes we just have to look at the world and laugh at it.  There is a lot of stupidity around us, but there is a lot of greatness - warm-hearted people, teachers, people here who have a great deal of wisdom.  Maybe you could write a hub for ALL of us as to how to be an "active listener".  (I could subtly pass it on to my daughter!  smile Even if there is an article like that already here, a new perspective is always good.

    1. Zarlaxeo profile image61
      Zarlaxeoposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your reliable answer. I'll try on that (How to be an Active Listener) once I've done an adequate research. smile

  4. chuckandus6 profile image76
    chuckandus6posted 2 years ago

    If it is a guy then you lose him after 3_5 minutes.if it is a girl,she will try to fix something that is wrong and won't stop talking til its fixed.

    1. Zarlaxeo profile image61
      Zarlaxeoposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      You're absolutely right. And in a general case, there would be resulting in hatred and unsatisfied party and also bits of regrets. Humans are so impatient.

  5. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago

    You can't make someone listen to a full explanation.
    In fact more often than not even if a person is silent they're not listening but rather (they're waiting for their turn) to talk.
    If someone doesn't like what they're hearing they start formulating their own arguments as to why they are right and you are wrong.
    Truth be told if someone asks you "Why?" more often than not it's a rhetorical question. They're not seeking an "understanding" of some kind. It's generally a "reflex question" to which they've already made up their mind that (there is no reason or excuse you could give them) that would "justify" your actions.
    It becomes a dance exercise to make you sweat. Oftentimes you're better off to ask them why they are asking why? "Are you REALLY looking for clarification or seeking to understand?" or "Have you already made up your mind there is nothing I could say that would cause you to empathize with me or my decision?"
    By asking (them) why they asked why can save you a lot of time and frustration.
    If for example you cheated on me and in my mind cheating is a "deal breaker" then my asking you "why?" and your answer is not going to change my decision. Therefore my putting you through that dance serves nothing but to give me something to tell others your "excuse"
    Writing is a long lost art but sometimes if a person gets an email or hand written letter without having a way to immediately contact the person they will take the time to read the whole thing. With time it may sink in causing empathy.
    Nevertheless there are some caveats though.
    A written letter/email cannot reflect the tone or inflection of a voice. People also have a habit of sometimes zeroing in on "sections" that upset them instead of balancing it within everything that was said.
    Unfortunately it can easily be shared with people you may not have intended for it to be read by. This could cause one embarrassment.
    Last but not least not everyone has the skill to write a letter or email that does not come off as defensive, angry, or blaming someone.
    One has to know what their goal is. Are they looking to be heard or change someone's mind. You also have to show some empathy by stating you understand why they may feel a certain way about it (before) you offer your explanation.

    1. Zarlaxeo profile image61
      Zarlaxeoposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Really appreciate your answer. Looks like listening should be a form of a practice. But emotions get through it, making a sudden rebel. No wonder it's not working. smile

  6. cobrien profile image77
    cobrienposted 2 years ago

    Active listening is a skill many of us don't have. Obviously you want to explain (or teach) something to somebody who is not an auditory learner. Try visuals if you can. Are you late because of car trouble? Show him/her the problem. Are you trying to explain finances? Show receipts and pay stubs. Are you out of uniform because of a wardrobe malfuntion? Well, maybe visuals are not always appropriate!
    You could also try to make the "listener" step in your shoes. "What do you think I SHOULD have done?" "What would you do?" "What do YOU think that means?"
    You could also use comparisons and metaphors the "listener" can relate to, especially when giving directions. "Two blocks past the baby store...." " Twist it like you twist the top off of a Pepsi bottle". This can encourage him/her to listen. Or add a little humor. "She was two beers shy of a six-pack". Just get creative.
    I like the idea of a hub on improving listening skills. I would read it.

    1. Zarlaxeo profile image61
      Zarlaxeoposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I like the part 'try to make listener step in your shoes.' Short and precise that would have explained everything. But really there should be also another way to make he/she do the action itself. Depending on his/her intention on resolving smthg.

  7. RTalloni profile image88
    RTalloniposted 2 years ago

    The why depends on the person, however, if you know them and that they will not listen it might be a good idea to ask them up front if they will listen to what you have to say.  Get a commitment from them, then if they interrupt you can kindly remind them that they said they would listen. 

    If the person is someone you interact with regularly and this is used as an excuse for you to just ramble on, though, the other person will quickly catch on to that and become irritated, maybe even really angry.  The solution is to be sure you have thought through what you want to say, say it succinctly, and be ready to answer questions when you are finished.

    1. Zarlaxeo profile image61
      Zarlaxeoposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Humans just need to know which and when to use the right words to say. That is all matters. Thanks smile

  8. Blond Logic profile image97
    Blond Logicposted 2 years ago

    Sometimes being nice doesn't cut it with someone who is consistently doing this. I find when this happens I put my hand up with my palm facing them, indicating for them to stop. I will say, "please don't interrupt" or " I haven't finished yet", or with a firmer voice, "IF you let me finish". Then I will carry on with what I am saying even if they have started.

    Sometimes, just to show them how rude it is, I will do this to them when they begin to talk. This will be followed with, "now you know how it feels."
    This is childish but it drives the point home to them. I feel it is a habit with some people and it should be changed. It is very rude and what is worse, sometimes people who do this are people who are close to us. They may show a courtesy to a stranger but not to someone close to them. I think it goes beyond bad manners, I believe it is a form of oppression where they expect their opinion to be accepted without question.
    Everyone deserves the right to be heard.

  9. m abdullah javed profile image77
    m abdullah javedposted 2 years ago

    Just relax and narrate the way you like but be polite and take care of the opponents sentiments. If your narration is good and there is chance of "after narration conversation" than that person might not interrupt you.