Is it important to you to listen to the opinion of others, even when you disagree?
Often we have discussions with others on 'hot topics', on which there may be much disagreement. Is it possible for you to respectfully listen and allow that person to share their viewpoint?
Even if someone's opinion differs from your own, that doesn't mean you can't listen to them. Supposedly everyone's opinion matters and deserves to be heard. Listening to a different opinion doesn't mean that it will change yours. Although sometimes, I must admit that my humanity becomes dominant, and I have no interest in anyone's opinion that differs from my own.
It is very important to listen to the opinions of others. How else can we learn where the other person is coming from if we do not listen to what they have to say.
Often times when we cannot come to any agreement it is always best to simply agree to disagree so friendships can be maintained even when we are on opposite ends of the topic of the discussion.
Sometimes it is difficult here on H.P., as some who disagree with what we have to say simply call names, insult you, and even threaten bodily harm.
If the disagreement is with a family member, or a dear friend, we simply learn to avoid the topic of dissent.
I love the mud-flinging you see here on HubPages. It's the epitome of immaturity in disagreement, yet it seems to be all some people are capable of.
Carol no I was giving a example with your good comment, which was the very situation going on now in religion topic.
Your comment tied into that situation
No offense to you .sorry I mixed you up.
If you do not listen to the opinions of others you shut yourself down to the possibility of evolving that opinion. Sure, you might not agree with someone on something but that is not to say you don't learn from listening to them. You get to see where they are coming from and learn their side of the story. In the end if you still disagree with them that's fine, no harm has been done, and if you see they have a point that's even better. Your views will evolve through time the more information you let by your ears and eyes. This is a good thing. It makes us complex and interesting individuals. Granted it is hard to listen to someone who doesn't listen in return. We are only human.
I was going to answer this; however, Theophanes' answer is significantly similar to what I would have mentioned... Well done!
Brad you are correct about wars throughout history. But that does not make it right to kill another huuman.
Thats the problem its what humans do
Not Gods purpose . Earrh was meant to be a global paradise.
It will eventually happen as written.
It's VERY important to me that I listen to other people's opinions; and not just to be polite, but because I may learn something, or at least better understand the other person (and maybe others like him, to boot) by listening.
There's a "however", to the above, though: There's a difference between some people's "opinions" and others, and there are differences between types of "opinions". For example: There's the no right/no wrong kind of opinion (like "I like pink. You like blue.") Everyone should respect everyone else on that kind of opinion. Then, though, there are some opinions that some people have essentially based on nothing. They pull them out of the blue. On the same subject someone else may actually be someone who knows facts more than the out-of-the-blue person. In fact, one kind of person will never go as far as to call something "a conclusion" or "an opinion" if he doesn't know, for certain, that it's based on solid, proven, facts. Someone else may not even be aware that that those facts are out there and that the other person knows them.
I'm one who only forms a certain conclusion based on adequate facts that back it up. If I know there may be more facts to come in I'll say something like, "I may be wrong, but I think.....". If I'm communicating with someone like me there's no problem. Everyone respects differences. Everyone knows the other either isn't sure or is sure based on facts.
Problems happen if I'm with someone who does "out-of-the-blue" and doesn't even ask me what facts I'm using to draw my conclusions. Instead, such a person just assumes we're both expressing "only opinion". In that kind of situation I'm not about to give equal weight to ("listen") to the other person's out-of-the-blue, or at least less fact-based, thoughts than mine. Then, though, those are the people who will think I "won't listen to anyone" or "am not interested in learning from them". Well, duh (as they say)... No, I'm not listening to their unfounded opinion that they call " conclusion", and no, I'm not the least bit interested in "maybe learning something from them".
I like nothing better than to listen to reasonable, reasoned, informed/educated people who can share what may make me change my own thinking about something - just not people who clearly don't know as much, or as well, as I do about the subject in question.
Typically I listen to and learn from differing opinions but there are cases where it's a huge bother to do so. I do however, find it hard to listen to people that aren't using facts, experience, or those that refuse to acknowledge common knowledge.
What do you expect to learn if you only listen to the opinions with which you agree? It is vital to listen to the arguments of differing opinions.
Absolutely...listening does not mean we agree. It means we are open to the possibility that we might get a new slant on things thanks for sharing--concise and to the point
Great answer ! But God thought of this first, two sides the Good and Bad have been heard for centuries now, God has seen it all, heard it all without interference.
So as humans we have history to prove to the point what works and doesn't.
Kiss and Tell. how does your ans square with the reality today?
people in the world have been at war since recorded history. Catholic Church, Crusades,Spanish Inquisition. Portugal,Spain,Fr, England div the world 1/4 ea for their religion
I think it is possible to respectfully listen to someone else's opinion. Everyone has a right to think on their own and just because you don't agree doesn't make their opinion wrong. I think others opinions can help you understand a person better.
Yes. When you disagree to someone, listening to them would be the best way to easily prove to them that they are wrong. When they talk, that would be the best chance for you to know more about their thoughts. With this, you can reason out properly as to why you disagree on their opinion. Also, it is a sign of respect to anyone,
HowtobeS. This is a true statement and I definitely appreciate your point its very important. You show respect. If you do not .people will not listen to you or care about what you have to say because you do not respect opinions or feelings of others
When I ask the question and request the opinion of others on a hot topic, yes I am open to hear out the opinion they give me. I may disagree, not like their answer, or totally change my view of the subject matter. Sometimes the best way around a hot topic is just to listen and observe. When I have my fill, I can always leave or comment something like "Thanks for sharing. I have something to think about it." If I don't want your opinion I will not ask and will usually leave the room if the subject is mentioned.
It is important to listen, (you might learn something) - I have a friend who always cuts in and talks over the top of people when they're sharing an opinion (even if he's wrong) and it bugs the hell out of me. The person with the first opinion should be willing to listen to your opinion after they've put their own forward though, otherwise the conversation is very one sided.
Yes , in my opinion... I thing its very important for us to listen to the opinion of others , even when u disagree with his statement. i think in any type of work , you should take other's opinion "you can take it from everyone who is near to you or from unknown persons because this will help you a lot in solving your problem , and help you to take future successful steps . Take opinions from everyone but its your wish that's whose opinion is most beneficial for you .
Learn so much when you hear other peoples points of view.
Sometime people giving opinion forget that some of them are not interested to listen to their opinion. In fact before rendering opinion they should ensure that it is given to only those who look to be interested in listening them, It is not sure that hundred percent people will join and listen them However, the etiquette teaches us that whenever any elder is sharing his viewpoint before his youngsters, we should give due regard to it, but it is entirely a personal issue for everyone of us to follow it or otherwise.
The view of the majority is not always right.
The majority can sometimes be misled by biased and even inaccurate information.
Even if we assume that people are always rational, when supplied with incomplete information in the form of propaganda or faced with a media's inevitably skewed portrayal of certain issues, the public will often end up adopting flawed views due to their ignorance, lack of media literacy or their society's low level of media transparency.
In truth, people can get swayed by powerful sentiment rather than logical or ethical thought.
YES-VERY NECESSARY-FOR WASTING YOUR TIME-AND-TIRING YOUR BRAIN-BY LISTENING TO BLOKE HEADS
Now, that's HONESTY. Gotta love an honest person!
Oh I so agree, I have better things to apply my thinking to than someone who doesn't have the facts.
1. why would you bother to start an argument when your brain gets tired just by listening to others opinions.
2. how can you know it would be a waste of time until u haven't heard what they have to say.
3. people must be thinking same about you then
yes its important to listen even if it is annoying. the reason behind it is to know how much patience you have with in. And also if you dont have you can take this situation as a challenge to increase it, because i feel patience is the most powerful weapon of of a person.
second thing i would like to tell is that if you want to know more and more about any person listening to him in any of such hot topics is good to know him. Else we cannot get a chance to know him closely even if he is spending time with you since 2 or 3 years.
In theory, one is supposed to listen and give accordance to others' opinions. We were strongly inculcated that each one of us can learn from others, we do not always know everything, and that our opinions are the only legitimate and/or sacrosanct ones. We were told that we must grant respect to others' opinions although we may disagree with them.
We also were strongly instructed that in order to broaden our prospectives, we should be open to the opinions of others. We were told that not to listen to others' opinions was the height of being narrowminded and closeminded, not being open to learning and knowledge. After all, that is how people learn and broaden their horizons and knowledge is to listen to others who have divergent prospectives on ethics and other life perspectives and skills.
However in reality, people tend to be suspect of opinions and ideologies that are different from theirs. They highly contend that their ideologies, perspectives, and opinions are the LEGITIMATE and SACROSANCT ones and that others' ideologies, perspectives, and opinions are invalid and preposterous at best and totally heretical at worst. The main source of contention in many people's lives is to have a person disagree with them in many areas, especially in terms of politics and religion.
In the family system, there is often an underlying construct that there must be a united front in terms of ideologies and beliefs. Parents tend to reward family members who have similar opinions, beliefs, and outlooks while damning family members whose perspectives and outlooks may be different from the family construct. Parents oftentimes favor children with similar opinions while disfavoring, even ostracizing and scapegoating children with divergent opinions.
It is hardwired in the human mind to want familiarity. Familiarity makes one comfortable. Many people fear and are threatened by difference. Difference is seen as a disturbance to the established order of things. There are people who feel disturbed, even threatened when a different opinion and/or premise is presented. They are more comfortable and at ease with those who have similar outlooks and perspectives as they have. That is part of human nature.
This is seriously important. It is a window into what others are thinking.
Ok, this is something I debate. First truthfully, opinions aren't worth much if there are facts proving against it. I hate it when people say I have a right to my opinion. Well who's going to listen if the facts prove differently
Interesting viewpoint...thanks for speaking up
Couldn't agree with you more. After awhile, it's like, "Can you please provide some facts?" because you're obviously stating a highly biased opinion, which has absolutely nothing of truth in it. But, I do not delete comments just because I disagree.
Penny, that should have been the best answer.
Great question and also the exercise of self examination.
We need to think are we more of a talker , or are we a listener, or are we both,
Really both should accommodate each other,
Because how can you reply if you do not listen .
Yet people seem to pull this off.
And many times are misunderstood
And many arguments are born.
It's just good to go back and read some old replies , you will surprise how a person could read the wrong meaning.
Ok V , but on a funny note does this have something to do men from Mars , women venus, I never read the book but right now it seems I did , lol! OK
K.&T.- I have seen the book in stores - never read it.. I wish I could see the connection, so we could both see the funny side of it.
Thanks Carol I love how you bring that point out,
I certainly see it more vivid as this just thinking if Doctors never listen to their patients, and use their knowledge as know it all ,you can not tell me anything, I am betterribly than everyone
It is important to listen to, encourage and respect the opinions of others for the reasons I will give below.
Encourage input, unless you are mathematically certain of the truth. Then nothing more is required. If the input is disagreeable to you, it is then your challenge to know clearly why you disagree. If you know clearly enough you will clearly articulate it. If you cannot it is probably because you don't know why you disagree. If the input is poor, then you should have no problem refuting it. If you cannot perhaps your own understanding is poor.
Listen to the opinions of others. You are a finite being with finite knowledge and comprehension. Unless you are mathematically certain of what you're talking about, you're in danger of having missed something. If you have missed something, both logic and history suggests that others may have not, and so you better listen at least as much as you speak. You may only discover the short comings of your understanding once you've understood the opinions of a certain number of others. If their opinions are of poor understanding, poor articulation or are nonsense, refer to the first paragraph.
Respect others opinions. By virtue of the definition of opinion, which is a belief or judgement that rests on the ground of insufficient understanding. By respecting others opinions you demonstrate that you actually understand what an opinion is. Therefore you respect your own opinions. Unless you are mathematically certain of the truth. Then refer to paragraph number one, or counter an opinion with an irrefutable fact.
This is fun, I found this question two years later - HP has strange listings for hot topics. It is not only possible for me, it is something I hold dear and work at really hard. Learning and growth are so much more important than being right. Doing right is another matter. So learning what is right is a continuous growing project of the mind, body and soul. We are blessed to be able to here "opposing" views.
You can't be a good debator unless you are a good listener.
Letting other people air their views shows them that you are interested in them as people and what they have to share.
Threekeys,some people want to win an argument so they don't listen, because of that they lose a listener
You can not be dogmatic with anyone.
You lose from the very start your purpose.
Honey draws bees, vinger draws rejection and a frown ,no gain
Yes,of course it is necessary to listen because the way u look at the probelm may differ from the way others look.And there are instances where we miss the logic, it would be advantageous if we just listen the other person's point of view.
Well, some people's opinion make sense, other are just non sense. Either way, it doesn't hurt to see what people have to say, but you don't necessary need to accept it.
i believe we should always give an ear to what others have to say about things or whats their opinion is about them .sometimes it just seems so unnecessary.but it gives us such a wider aspect of things and makes us notice things we might have missed at the first place or probably a totally different angle to see things. listening is not bad. disagreement is just a state of mind . plus if you want others to listen to what you have to say , you have to pretend like their opinion matters ,however vague or out of the point it you find it.
Everyone around you is a reflection of yourself, in different aspects. When you listen to what people say about/to you, then they are imposing their OWN PERCEPTION of you (which is a reflection of their own opinions). By listening to them you can learn more about yourself, or who you could become.
Listening to others opinions can give you a reminder of the other extreme of what you are like, or, it can give you a bigger insight to how you might actually be like.
And when it comes to opinions, they are always a continuum of truth; and they vary in their truth from person to person. Whether the truth in them is not always clear, it always highlights a certain part of you or the other person. So listening to them all the time can really give you lots of different insights, and can be educational.
Example: I am trying to become more off grid and self sustainable, to live without debt and live closer to nature. I do many things alternatively, ranging from herbal uses for medicine to diet.
I often get told second hand opinions formed from close family as they are the other extreme of what I am, very conventional. What I am doing is not conforming to the accepted standard of their mindset... what everyone else is like. So I hear what they have to say and take what I need from it, and oftentimes it has proven to be very inspiring in lots of different ways.
So ultimately, if you listen to everyone's opinion in your immediate reality, then you can learn a great deal after a while. You learn more about yourself and how to learn to be more transparent with your intention through words, actions and body language. If you ignore everyone elses opinions all the time, you will not grow as a person; but you will not grow as a person either by being determined by other peoples opinions.
Listening is a decent gesture I believe. We muat anyway stick to our own opinions. At times discussions might open up our tightened ideals and make us realize that maybe we were wrong with our opinions as we were unaware of the full facts.
We should listen.
Yes , in my opinion... I thing its very important for us to listen to the opinion of others , even when u disagree with his statement. i think in any type of work
Its very important for me to listen to another person even if we disagree because there is a chance I might be wrong with my points and listening will give me more knowledge on it or that I just learn something new that day in addition to what I already knew. Though for me that still depends on who is talking. Some people are all over the place when they argue and never have a real point to give. In cases like that I might dismiss them all together.
For a while, yes.
When it goes on and on, no.
When someone's response to your opinion is, "you're evil", nope.
And too many liberals have taken the view that debate is hate and those who hold opposing views are evil irrational haters. Those who assume all contrary viewpoints are "insert name calling here", no, I won't listen to them, because they won't listen to me.
It is only through listening to others even when we disagree, can we truly learn something that could be of value to us. Maybe what we thought was correct is not the right answer.
At times when another person shares their opinion, it opens our minds to a whole new way of thinking. It does not matter whether it is a child's point of view or that of an adult.
Being respectful of someone else's point of view it is our duty, whether we agree with their opinion of not, to listen carefully and respectfully to those views.
We may ruffle a few feathers along the way, that is all part of life. There are times we need to learn to agree to disagree, even when we feel our ego has been hurt.
There may be a point when the very person that we did agree to allow them to share their opinion us, may be the very person that respected, their opinion could be an alley if we needed help in a certain way.
Yes. You learn things you didn't know and get to see a different point of view from yours. Its also, awesome to agree and disagree.
yes it is very important for me.first i listen then think about it and then i give strong opinion.also i want to listing for deep analysis.smile....
That's a good question.
We can not know everything about everything. We have not created an information filter! Any lie can harm us. I never listen to an unhappy person. I never argue with an unhappy person. The most important topic for anyone how to become happy! Any topic has a specialist and it is foolish to argue with him. Any of us have a formula of happiness. I think an argument does not make sense. We can not change society, but we can find like-minded people in society and to create happy family (our harmony)!
It is respectful to listen, but not necessary to stick around and try to persuade someone of something who is convinced of their own ideas.
It's important to keep an open mind. Listen to the opinions of others, weigh up the facts.
'I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it' - Evelyn Beatrice Hall (often attributed to Voltaire)
Actually, I don't agree with the quote. Nobody has the right to spread racial hatred, homophobic remarks etc.
Everyone has a limit; if you listen only to your mind you put yourself 1 inch to the hole pride. When you disagree with the opinion of others it doesn't mean you are standing on the right angle. We are free to live, so we must give others freedom to share their viewpoint. Rightness comes after disagreement fade and after we have done checking the issue.
Yes, as long as they have the respect to listen to yours in return, and the conversation doesn't get to the point that it is going round in circles. If opinions were never challenged there would be nothing to test them, it's healthy to put your thoughts across as well as explore other people's. The beauty of an opinion is that it's adaptable to circumstance.
It is very important to listen to others opinions wether this means they agree with you or disagree. Yes it feels better when we know someone is on our side, but when someone disagrees with our opinions it can also be beneficial. This goes along with "telling someone what they need to hear rather than telling them what they want to hear"
Someone else may not even be aware that that those facts are out there and that the other person knows them..
Yes, i guess, at a certain point. If the opinion of other person don't aggregate anything and you qualify as not even important, you won't even remember this opinion in the future. It is very good to hear other people, respect them position, but show in a most respectfully way why you disagree. It is important you to demonstrate your opinion and hear other opinions because you can change someone's mind and someone can change your mind too.
We can only gain insight or give a more all rounded repsonse when we take in different points of view otherwise we are just hearing our own perspective over and over and that can lead to dogmatism and narrow mindedness. A dreadful and dangerous trap to fall into.
However, with that being said, I do have a deal breaker. If someone is just full of constant unravelling of hate and foul mouthing together with providing no real useful input, I will switch off or walk away until they can compose themself and speak reasonably.
To me it's very important. Even if I don't learn anything about the specific topic I will learn something about the person who is speaking.
And, it is always good to listen to what someone else has to say about any topic, whether you believe you know enough about it or not, because they just might have some new information for you or open your eyes to another way of looking at the topic.
Then how many people would live behind such a negative and arrogant attitude. You have to listen in order to be listen too ! When you start being like a wall of one side .you miss out on many things, A doctor never stops learning neither should we
I'm listening to you....please explain how this is a negative and arrogant attitude?
Carol I must explain your comment was very timely to another topic on HP that is going on now. You touch on the very thing that we should all remember. I did not want your comment to just fly ,so I commented in a two fold way.
Sorry, but I'm not sure if I understand you - did you mean that my comment was arrogant or not? It wasn't meant to be at all and that's why I'd like to know why it seems so - to improve myself. What is the other topic being discussed?
Thanks Carol for understanding, I was in two places at one time !lol now that's omnipresent on HP .
Yesss....by listening to others opinion you learn about what others think and you get a chance to know them better..... How can you expect people to listen to you when you yourself are not ready to give them a chance? There are possibilities that u will find something sensible in their opinions...if you don't agree with them then it's OK but everyone deserves to share their views
Yes it important, but honestly, it's not just about the notion if "it is important or not". The issue here... if you ask a public's opinions and start it with "Do you agree..." and you don't take No for an answer, it is better not to post it, as you are not really asking for a public opinion. You're either a s*it disturber or you wanted to sway public opinion.
Yes, because it give another point of view of the subject.
It's even more important to listen when you disagree. Anyone can find a place to validate their own opinion. It's more important to learn from another's perspective. It opens you up to other possible ideas, and can help strengthen your own view point.
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