White privilege is 101% a true thing. Although black people are TECHNICALLY treated the same on paper, in real life they most certainly are not. The system is so racially corrupt to the point that most white people simply cannot see how much of an advantage is gives them. As an example, my best friend is black; she hardly sleeps because she needs such a high GPA to compensate for the fact that she's already visually disadvantaged, even on resumes, because her last name is Nigerian. Myself on the other hand need not worry about this factor. She got a tattoo in a visible place which, on black people, is commonly associated with violence and incompetence. My white friends have no issue getting hired because of their tattoos on open parts of their bodies. She gets scared to walk out of a store without buying anything because there is the connotation that because she is black and is leaving without making a purchase that she is stealing. I, again, do not have this issue. Every time she walks through the security sensors of a store her anxiety goes off the wall because if it beeps by accident, who knows what kind of force security guards will put onto her? She has no idea, and the risk of it happening to her is increased due to her skin colour. I have never felt this anxiety in my life-- I've had it beep on me by accident multiple times, I simply wait, ask the cashier if I'm okay, and they usually just let me go right like that. She gets scared when cops pass her by in any environment because, as I'm sure you've seen in the news, black people are getting killed simply from going for a jog, using a cell phone, paying for something at a store, or even just sleeping-- hearing that siren to a black person is like "oh god what if they see me as a threat just because of the colour of my skin, what if I die today?". That's terrifying to think about having to live like that. She gets scared to take her wallet out of her bag at a self-checkout because she doesn't want to seem sketchy like she is placing items into her bag without paying for them; you may say "oh well I feel anxious doing this too", and that's fine, but if somebody says something to you, they will likely just let you go and trust your words. She has zero idea what can happen to her. She tries to make sure that she never fumbles her keys at a door when unlocking or locking it because she doesn't want to look suspicious like she's breaking into a house because that is an action associated with black lives; I get anxious fumbling my keys only because I look like an idiot, not because there's the idea in somebody's head that I'm trying to break in. When she was younger, her peers would always assume her father carried a gun in his jacket because blackness is associated with the negative connotations of aggressive behaviour. Her father is a banker who worked hard his entire life just like white people do, yet this family is receiving more penalization simply because they have more melanin in their skin? What kind of idiocy is this? Her brother cannot walk with his hood up because again, that's associated with looking suspicious. My brother on the other hand does this all the time and has never had a problem. I myself get petrified when she leaves the house alone because I have no way of knowing what could happen to her just from walking down the street. I don't know if that's the last time I will see her and it scares me. If something DID happen to her that doesn't yet involve the police (e.g. a random civilian attacked her), the people who she is supposed to call for help (the cops) could quite possibly pin the situation onto her. She is scared for being attacked and scared that her helpline could also attack her. My other black friend got pulled over and thrown onto the hood of his car to be patted down simply because he had a single tail light out. Whenever that has happened to myself or my parents the officer simply tells them "hey, get that checked eh?" and that's it. My other black friend would constantly have her hair treated like a petting zoo because it looks "exotic". Black people are not animals, their hair is made of the same stuff that yours is.
You say not to use the term "white privilege", which that in itself is showing your own privilege in broad daylight. People say that slavery was abolished centuries ago but I believe that it simply just switched its course of action to a more passive manner.
