How often do you give the benefit of the doubt?

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   KellyPittmanposted 13 years ago

   We often times judge a book by it's cover, but how often do we allow ourselves to look deeper than that?

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      Disturbiaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Too often.  I almost never take anything at face value.  I'm always reading between the lines or looking for deeper meanings or motives.  But all too often I also trust  or "give the benefit of the doubt" about someone or something only to have it come back and bite me the backside later on.

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      uncorrectedvisionposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      We have two complementing (maybe many more but caffeine deprivation addled brain just won't work) aphorisms.  "Never judge a book by its cover" and "Patience is a virtue."
      
      Seems to me if we are to be virtuous we must be not judge a book by its cover.  In time a person will reveal his nature.  One must listen and observe.  Those of low character and despicable nature usually, though not always, reveal themselves quickly.
      
      This is not, sadly, always true and so other bits of wisdom -  "Trust God but tie your camel," leaps to mind, maybe "Trust but verify" would be a more contemporary and American way of saying it - come to mind.  Good people are worth our time and or guarded and cautious trust.  When discovered, one good man is worth the whole of Sodom.

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      perfectperceptionposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I try to give benefit of the doubt when things make sense.  Only when they don't do I not consider it.

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   WD Curry 111posted 13 years ago

   Would you believe me if I told you? I give almost everyone more room than I am given. It is good to know who is really dangerous, though. Discernment is not a negative trait.

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   Druid Dudeposted 13 years ago

   Try this on for size: Everything is a manifestation of energy...including what we call consciousness. Consciousness must be included in the equation, for it's obvious presence requires it. Have  a nice day!

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   Uninvited Writerposted 13 years ago

   I am very willing to give people the benefit of doubt, i don't slways assume that those who disagree with me are evil or idiots. Doing that does not mean you are weak. Of course, common sense does come into it too. I'm not going to go off somewhere with a stranger.

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   SomewayOuttaHereposted 13 years ago

   ..all of the time...i try my best to not judge a book by its cover....cuz, you just never know what's underneath.....peace!

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   Stacie Lposted 13 years ago

   ...depending on how my day is going, i usually give about 60-90%.

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