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9 most annoying things men do that cause relationship breakups

Updated on May 9, 2014
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Women like any other social and biological organism needs support from her man in a relationship. However, the relationship between men and women has always been a love-hate type. There are many issues in relationships that are more complex to understand and certain issues are highly debatable in the religion, health and psychology corridors.

Amid those complexities, man and women find great excitement in intimate activities like sex and find social security and acceptance being with each other. All said, there are still certain things men do in relationships that are more annoying to their women but the men don't realize it. This little things can build up to bigger things and cause a relationship to break if one do not see and change those habits.

In my previous hub: http://iandabasorihetr.hubpages.com/_ianhetri/hub/Five-Most-Annoying-Reasons-Why-I-Dumped-Her I listed annoying things a girlfriend does in a relationship.

In this hub, I listed again 6 most annoying things a boyfriend does in a relationship without realizing it. I only concentrate on my experience. Most of these information came form my current girl friend so I believe I am speaking from a girl friends point of view.


Men are great mathematicians
Men are great mathematicians | Source

1. Men Are Always Solving Problems

Men are naturally known to be greatest problem solvers. The funny thing about us is that even if there is no problem, we create our own problem so that we can solve it. We don't actually realize we do this. Men see see life as a series of problems to be solved one by one. Men feel inferior when the opportunity to solve a problem is taken away from him either in work or in his personal life. Unfortunately many women find this behavior extremely annoying and hate that men see their personal life in the same way they see their working life.


2. Men Gets So Logical

This happens often in my relationship. Is it really necessary to try to dig to the roots of everything that happens in a relationship and find out why? Aren't we supposed to be happy enjoy doing what we use to do when we first started dating? I sometimes get caught up with this without realizing it. I try to be so logical in all we say and do and this pisses her off.

Annoying serious face. Worse because its in the morning
Annoying serious face. Worse because its in the morning | Source

3. Men Get So Serious

I know this is the most annoying thing to women. If we listed desirable dating traits in order of importance or say occurrence, I am pretty sure, seriousness will be the last one. You were not dead serious when you first went and asked her out. Women want humor and less seriousness so you certainly had that mixture right so you have her now. Women easily get pissed off with a men who tends to be very serious in every thing. Put simply, a boy friend who lacks humor in life easily annoys her girlfriend. Take time to have a good laugh with her. Money alone does't buy happiness. To some women or if not most, making her feel women or at least happy being with you mean more than your money and fancy clothes car and money.

4. Man Having Puffed Up Egos

This makes men sound like a selfish animal. But I know this is only natural. In one of my previous hub, I mentioned that men crave for admiration in a relationship and women crave for security in a relationship. Nothing is more annoying to a women whose men only talks about his job, friends and the list goes on. It is so annoying to a women when she knows you can't do something but you insist you can. Classic example, you are not feeling well and decide to call your doctor who knows you very well but your boy friend who has a degree in medicine decides that he is more qualified to talk to the doctor.

Men are bound up in their masculinity, or lack of it. They live by power and strength and they believe in hierarchy. The pecking order is achieved by winning small battles on the road to success. But the question is, does your winning helps in your relationship?

The more you win in a relationship, the more you loss


5. Men Shut Off Completely At Times

This does happen at times. Some times a man can completely block his mind and body from his women. The man is said to be in his Cave, an analogy used by John Gray in his book ‘ Men are from Mars, Women from Venus’, talks about an elastic band that draws men away from emotional commitment and bounces them back in again. say for instance he comes back form work and seem distant and lost in thought and lives in his own world never wanting to talk to his women.

To women this is very disturbing. Women are very sensitive and her men leaving her out side and going into her cave makes her so scared and she can even run away to seek security in other man's arms.

Sometimes men do what I call "selective hearing". Something in his brain acts like a filter, and only grabs his attention when an interesting word comes up, like food, or sex, or anything that has to do with him? Other times is just a lack of interest in what his women has to say.

This acts is really annoying to his women but he doesn't realize it.


Men giving gift to her women in appreciation
Men giving gift to her women in appreciation | Source

6. Taking Her For Granted

Some women can't stand the feeling of being taken for granted. What about all the good things she has given you all alone. The love, the attention, the time, even sex or money? It totally drives a women nuts to take her for granted.

Not saying thank you for her doing your laundry can piss her off but how can you know? A women can find it annoying if her girl friends get 'you look beautiful' compliments from their boyfriends but but not her.

7. Being Over Protective

Women are just like men. They are in a relationship with you but that doesn't mean you own them. Read John Gray's book "Men Are From Mars And Women Are From Venus" She will never be you so don't force her to be because if you do, you will only trying your very best to break up your relationship. She can not act and think like you. She is from another planet. So let her to live free in the relationship. Give her time to go out and enjoy her time with her family and friends. They say absence makes heart fonder you are good when she comes back.

The idea is not to be her boss but be her friend. Girls hate bossy boyfriends. If you try then you are like trying to capture water in the palm of you hand knowing that all will eventually escape your palm.

8. Smelly Body

Smelly foot, under arms and breath definitely puts off a girl. It gets so annoying if that condition becomes persistent. I work in field so some times i come home with wet socks and boots. Damn, I hate smelly feet and so is my girl friend.

Keeping up good health is not only good for you but also beneficial for your relationship. You want to remain attractive to your women don't you?

Bring out the women in her
Bring out the women in her | Source

9. Not Satifyng Her Sexual Desires

Even though this comes last, it is a very vital factor that can lead to break-ups in relationship. Especially when your relationship involves sex. The most annoying thing that happens when having sex is that the men gets her women to the verge of orgasm but lest her hanging there. She wants to experience the euphoric explosion just as her man does. unfortunately her man comes before she does as is the case with many couples. I hear this complain from close female friends often and so decided to include it hear.

Sexual excitement and satisfaction should yield mutual benefit. Please your women just as she does to you. Make her feel women or like I use to tell my close female colleges 'bring out the women in her'. I won't go into the details of how you should do it. You know it but maybe you are bit lazy. Learn if you can, experiment different techniques and stick with the one that pleases her. Because if she is pleased enough, it wont take you greater effort to bring out the women in her.

Final Words

A woman’s relationship with a man is very delicate and she looks for a strong shoulder to rest her head. A woman always likes a man who has a big heart and ready to share and care. A self-centered man is rarely loved by women and more often than not will crave for female company.

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      Tenerah Gee 2 years ago

      Good points all men should bear in mind.

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      Kapil Thakar 4 years ago from Bangalore

      Nice to get all the point at same place.. superb writing..

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      Lisa345 5 years ago

      I have actually been undergoing a number of emotional stress as well as depression after I damaged up with my ex partner then afterwards I adhered to the handbook at www.saveabreakup.com as well as I am currently back together with your man and I am incredibly thrilled, I highly encourage this.

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      Derrick Bennett 5 years ago

      I agree as a man I tend to have some of those problems, for example the problem solving and I tend to take things to serious

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Appreciate your comment. Jlava73.

      Cheers.

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      Jennifer Vasconcelos 5 years ago from Cyberspace and My Own World

      You really covered all of the bases Ian.

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      E10. Thanks. Cheers

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      H C Palting 5 years ago from East Coast

      You have named some very popular reasons for break ups. This is a must read for a lot of men.

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      anupma. Glad you relate to my hub. Will vist your hubs. Cheers

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      Dr Anupma Srivastava 5 years ago from India

      Awesome hub! I agree with u. These things really irritate a woman. The point over-protective plays a major role in break-ups in Indian. Indian has a patriarchal society, so men usually think that women were their property and they become over-protective. It really irritates because one must have one's space.

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      Jen Christopherson 5 years ago from Oklahoma, USA

      Wow! Very well said!!! How true these things are!

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Hi jamila

      Greetings from the cool Pacifica, Hope you are doing great.

      BTW, thanks for coming along and reading and commenting on my hub. You made a very helpful comment with more insights. being serious and self-centered can kill passion and fun in relationships.

      Hope you have a good day today

      Ian

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      jamila sahar 5 years ago

      great hub many men need to read this for sure, especially being self centered and too serious all the time. in any relationship it is important to be considerate of other peoples feelings. thanks for sharing this hopefully many will follow these pearls of wisdom

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Very insightful comment Ardie. You comment will help other hubbers get a clear picture of my hub. Thanks again.

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      Sondra 5 years ago from Neverland

      I found this Hub so very funny - I have been married so many years that I can associate with ALL of these annoying things :) But the one I liked the most is the seriousness. Lighten up! My husband first gained my attention by being a silly goofus. If nothing else he can ALWAYS make me laugh (no matter how MAD I get at him). So even when his ego is too much he brings it back into perspective with a good joke. Excellent Hub Ian!

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      DanFar87

      Thanks. I am glad you found this hub useful.

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      DanFar87 5 years ago

      great article!

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      tammyswallow

      Men are just complicated as men. We are from different planets as pointed out by John Gray in his book Men are from Mars and Women from Venus.

      We don't expect to fully understand each other (M/F) but all we can do is understand and appreciate the vast differences between men and women.

      Thanks for commenting

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Olaguma

      Thanks for commenting. Really appreciate your comment. I have another hub that talks about annoying things women do in a relationship.To be very honest, I listed only six from my experience.

      Here's the link to that hub.

      https://hubpages.com/relationships/Five-Most-Annoy...

      Please read and comment on that.

      Cheers

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      Tammy 5 years ago from North Carolina

      I have been waiting for part II. I think you covered the biggest issues. My biggest issue is a man that takes me for granted. I am an excellent cook, meticulous housekeeper, raise wonderful children, keep a full time job, stay in shape and take great care of myself.. and yet, this just isn't good enough for most men. At times men are just as complicated as women. Fabulous hub.

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      Olaguma 5 years ago from Slovenia

      Nice hub... A follow up on most annoying things women do..., would be a nice addition :) Voted up!

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Millionaire Tips

      I have to say problems have been my best teacher. Problems have taught me so much in the past relationship. Now I enjoy a loving relationship and there's no better way to describe my happiness but in poems that I write and send her and publish some in here.

      Appreciate your comments

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      JS Matthew 5 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

      This is really honest and true! I am guilty of some of these traits from time to time. Nice Hub! Voted up and SHARING!

      JSMatthew~

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      Shasta Matova 5 years ago from USA

      This is all great information - now that you have written the list and know what to watch out for, I am sure your relationships are much better.

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Hi tammyfrost

      Thanks for your time in commenting. Appreciate that much.

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      Gary 5 years ago

      As in every relationship I'm sure there are times when we all identify with #6 taking our mates for granted.This article is very cool, in that it brings awareness to that fact, and if we now are aware of that fact we can change it and more than likely our mates will see the change too!

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      Tammy Frost 5 years ago from Oregon

      Great info here. Very important in relationships.

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      alocsin

      Thanks for the continuous support. Appreciate your effort in commenting.

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Dexter Yarbrough

      Appreciate you taking up your time to comment. Hope many men find this hub and read it. I'm sure there are lots to learn in a relationship. Those that fail are the ones that think they have learnt enough and stop learning. Learning in relationship continues till we die. Why? because very time our cells under the organic evolutionary process of mitotic cell division. Every second we are new organisms. That means we have to keep learning in order to do well in what we intend to do as long as we live here on earth.

      Thanks again for commenting

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      alocsin 5 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Required reading for all men who want a relationship. Voting this Up and Useful.

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      Dexter Yarbrough 5 years ago from United States

      Hi Ian! You have provided some excellent information! I hope many men will read and learn from what you have written!

      Voted up, up and away!

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Melovy

      Thanks so much you can relate to the hub. This are the things. Trying to solve a problem with a man when he is in his cave only sends him deeper into his cave. The problem with the women is they go and stand at the mouth of the cave and wait for their me without knowing that they prolong the time their men takes to come out. Live him their and he'll soon come out...You know absence makes heart fonder and if he really loves you, he won't spend million years in his dark cave. He would rather come out and go to the beach with you.

      Thanks for commenting. Really appreciate you sharing your experience.

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      Angela Biggs 5 years ago from United Kingdom

      Feels good to read this. I will share it with my friends too. Great job..

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      Yvonne Spence 5 years ago from UK

      A very interesting article Ian. You clearly have a lot of self-awareness.

      It also made me smile a couple of times, because I recognised my husband - particularly in number 5 - that shutting off completely used to drive me nuts. Now I can see it’s his way of dealing with things, so try to just leave him till he’s ready - not always easy for someone who likes to talk things out!

      Trying to solve problems is an interesting trait, I think women do it too, but maybe in a different way or about different things.

      BTW, I can find men who refuse to be serious and try to outdo each other by making unkind jokes just as annoying than men who are too serious. (I know a few of those, and they definitely have the puffed up egos you mentioned!)

      Good hub, voted up, and now I’ll have to read about the annoying things women do!