- Gender and Relationships
9 most annoying things men do that cause relationship breakups
Women like any other social and biological organism needs support from her man in a relationship. However, the relationship between men and women has always been a love-hate type. There are many issues in relationships that are more complex to understand and certain issues are highly debatable in the religion, health and psychology corridors.
Amid those complexities, man and women find great excitement in intimate activities like sex and find social security and acceptance being with each other. All said, there are still certain things men do in relationships that are more annoying to their women but the men don't realize it. This little things can build up to bigger things and cause a relationship to break if one do not see and change those habits.
In my previous hub: http://iandabasorihetr.hubpages.com/_ianhetri/hub/Five-Most-Annoying-Reasons-Why-I-Dumped-Her I listed annoying things a girlfriend does in a relationship.
In this hub, I listed again 6 most annoying things a boyfriend does in a relationship without realizing it. I only concentrate on my experience. Most of these information came form my current girl friend so I believe I am speaking from a girl friends point of view.
1. Men Are Always Solving Problems
Men are naturally known to be greatest problem solvers. The funny thing about us is that even if there is no problem, we create our own problem so that we can solve it. We don't actually realize we do this. Men see see life as a series of problems to be solved one by one. Men feel inferior when the opportunity to solve a problem is taken away from him either in work or in his personal life. Unfortunately many women find this behavior extremely annoying and hate that men see their personal life in the same way they see their working life.
2. Men Gets So Logical
This happens often in my relationship. Is it really necessary to try to dig to the roots of everything that happens in a relationship and find out why? Aren't we supposed to be happy enjoy doing what we use to do when we first started dating? I sometimes get caught up with this without realizing it. I try to be so logical in all we say and do and this pisses her off.
3. Men Get So Serious
I know this is the most annoying thing to women. If we listed desirable dating traits in order of importance or say occurrence, I am pretty sure, seriousness will be the last one. You were not dead serious when you first went and asked her out. Women want humor and less seriousness so you certainly had that mixture right so you have her now. Women easily get pissed off with a men who tends to be very serious in every thing. Put simply, a boy friend who lacks humor in life easily annoys her girlfriend. Take time to have a good laugh with her. Money alone does't buy happiness. To some women or if not most, making her feel women or at least happy being with you mean more than your money and fancy clothes car and money.
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4. Man Having Puffed Up Egos
This makes men sound like a selfish animal. But I know this is only natural. In one of my previous hub, I mentioned that men crave for admiration in a relationship and women crave for security in a relationship. Nothing is more annoying to a women whose men only talks about his job, friends and the list goes on. It is so annoying to a women when she knows you can't do something but you insist you can. Classic example, you are not feeling well and decide to call your doctor who knows you very well but your boy friend who has a degree in medicine decides that he is more qualified to talk to the doctor.
Men are bound up in their masculinity, or lack of it. They live by power and strength and they believe in hierarchy. The pecking order is achieved by winning small battles on the road to success. But the question is, does your winning helps in your relationship?
The more you win in a relationship, the more you loss
5. Men Shut Off Completely At Times
This does happen at times. Some times a man can completely block his mind and body from his women. The man is said to be in his Cave, an analogy used by John Gray in his book ‘ Men are from Mars, Women from Venus’, talks about an elastic band that draws men away from emotional commitment and bounces them back in again. say for instance he comes back form work and seem distant and lost in thought and lives in his own world never wanting to talk to his women.
To women this is very disturbing. Women are very sensitive and her men leaving her out side and going into her cave makes her so scared and she can even run away to seek security in other man's arms.
Sometimes men do what I call "selective hearing". Something in his brain acts like a filter, and only grabs his attention when an interesting word comes up, like food, or sex, or anything that has to do with him? Other times is just a lack of interest in what his women has to say.
This acts is really annoying to his women but he doesn't realize it.
6. Taking Her For Granted
Some women can't stand the feeling of being taken for granted. What about all the good things she has given you all alone. The love, the attention, the time, even sex or money? It totally drives a women nuts to take her for granted.
Not saying thank you for her doing your laundry can piss her off but how can you know? A women can find it annoying if her girl friends get 'you look beautiful' compliments from their boyfriends but but not her.
7. Being Over Protective
Women are just like men. They are in a relationship with you but that doesn't mean you own them. Read John Gray's book "Men Are From Mars And Women Are From Venus" She will never be you so don't force her to be because if you do, you will only trying your very best to break up your relationship. She can not act and think like you. She is from another planet. So let her to live free in the relationship. Give her time to go out and enjoy her time with her family and friends. They say absence makes heart fonder you are good when she comes back.
The idea is not to be her boss but be her friend. Girls hate bossy boyfriends. If you try then you are like trying to capture water in the palm of you hand knowing that all will eventually escape your palm.
8. Smelly Body
Smelly foot, under arms and breath definitely puts off a girl. It gets so annoying if that condition becomes persistent. I work in field so some times i come home with wet socks and boots. Damn, I hate smelly feet and so is my girl friend.
Keeping up good health is not only good for you but also beneficial for your relationship. You want to remain attractive to your women don't you?
9. Not Satifyng Her Sexual Desires
Even though this comes last, it is a very vital factor that can lead to break-ups in relationship. Especially when your relationship involves sex. The most annoying thing that happens when having sex is that the men gets her women to the verge of orgasm but lest her hanging there. She wants to experience the euphoric explosion just as her man does. unfortunately her man comes before she does as is the case with many couples. I hear this complain from close female friends often and so decided to include it hear.
Sexual excitement and satisfaction should yield mutual benefit. Please your women just as she does to you. Make her feel women or like I use to tell my close female colleges 'bring out the women in her'. I won't go into the details of how you should do it. You know it but maybe you are bit lazy. Learn if you can, experiment different techniques and stick with the one that pleases her. Because if she is pleased enough, it wont take you greater effort to bring out the women in her.
A woman’s relationship with a man is very delicate and she looks for a strong shoulder to rest her head. A woman always likes a man who has a big heart and ready to share and care. A self-centered man is rarely loved by women and more often than not will crave for female company.