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A husband wish list-Thank you God!

Updated on July 24, 2013
Cute little church
Cute little church

My friend's wish list


Oh my gosh! Is this De Ja Vou or what? I can’t believe what happened to me one day.

I was standing in church and one of the young women walked up to me. “Betty, I have a really unique story to share for your latest book. It is about how my love story with my husband began.”

She continued to tell me how she had just closed a page concerning her marriage that had ended in divorce. She realized that living the remainder of her life alone was totally unrealistic, however she couldn’t imagine going out looking for a new husband at any time in the future. As she shared that period of time with me she said she had gone to visit a friend and began pouring out her heartache, sorrow and longings.

Her friend said, “Listen to me girlfriend, you don’t have to go out looking for a man.” What you need to do is make a list. Write down every quality and description that forms a picture of the man you would like to share the rest of your life with. Pray to God to please, if He wants you to have a man in your life, bring him to you. Not in your time, but in God’s time. Next you are to put the list away someplace and forget about it.”

Her wish list for a husband

6'1, handsome , Italian....
6'1, handsome , Italian.... | Source

As she began telling her story my eyes must have become twice their normal size, and believe me, my eyes are large enough at normal! It was as though she was telling me my own story. No kidding! This very same situation happened to me.

Following my divorce I went through every known emotional feeling.

  • · I will never marry again.
  • · I do not want a man in my life
  • · I want a man in my life but I don’t want to be married

I never knew when I woke up each morning where my emotions would be heading that day. But one thing I did know. I really wouldn’t be content to be alone the rest of my life!

I was advised by someone, I believe it was my baby sister, to make a list. She said, “ Put everything on that list that is important to you and everything that is just a little bit important. You should even add some foolish things like: Height, hair color, clean shaven or beard, likes to dance, hike, swim. Just write down everything you think of”.

Then she added, “Pray about the list and then put it away in your purse or somewhere and forget about it. Give it to God. Then just live! Enjoy each day that God gives you and don’t fret about finding the right man. God will bring him to you if He wants you to have one”.

Well, needless to say, I was amazed how our lives had paralleled from divorce to making a list and then, God bringing our man to us.

Lisa continued to tell me she had made a list:

  • · 6 ft or taller
  • · Italian
  • · A Christian
  • · A good kind person

Her list was quite long and she, as I, had added serious as well as foolish qualities she would like for the man of her dreams to possess.

Lisa is a Realtor. She was out knocking on doors of “For Sale By Owners” one day and her knock was answered by this 6 ft 1 in., Christian, Italian man. She didn’t tell me how much time passed before they walked down the isle but they have been married quite a while, both are very active in their church and have a wonderful marriage!

For Sale by Owner

She found her love at a For Sale by owner home!
She found her love at a For Sale by owner home!

Marriage bliss

Bride and groom
Bride and groom

God is so good. He even takes time to read our lists after we pray to Him for help.

Funny thing is, neither Lisa or I were ever able to find our lists once they had been filled with our present husbands.

So Ladies and Gentlemen, go to your desk and get a paper and pen and start writing. Don’t be afraid to make a long list. Write down everything that is important to you. You may not receive a person who has all the attributes you add to the list but that is alright. After all, FATHER KNOWS BEST!!

Go to your desk and make a list!

Go to your desk and make the list!
Go to your desk and make the list! | Source

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    • Bettyoverstreet10 profile image

      Betty (Alawine) Overstreet 4 years ago from Vacaville, Ca.

      Hi Chuck, I was just catching up on my hubs and noticed this comment from you. Yes, by all means make a list. I'm sure it would work for a man as well as for we women! My present husband is my 4th and it is the charm for me!

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      Betty (Alawine) Overstreet 4 years ago from Vacaville, Ca.

      Jackie, I believe a list would still work as long as we remember to give it to God--and pray. And accept that He is not going to give us everything we want, any more than our husbands got everything on their list (if they had one).

      When I was married to my children's dad I was very unhappy most of the time but I realize now, I never once thought to pray for him to be a better husband and father. The strength of my prayers may have helped him become a better person.

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Great story, wonder if that list would work on the one we already have? lol

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      Betty (Alawine) Overstreet 4 years ago from Vacaville, Ca.

      The #4 was the charm for me! So just pray for God to bring you who He has for you. Hey, I have an article you would enjoy. It is written from a womens view point but works for either man or woman. this is in an online magazine.

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      Chuck RitenouR 4 years ago from Front Royal, Virginia

      I really enjoyed this. I myself have been married three times and no the third was not the charm. However, I found this charming.