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Romance Your Man

Updated on May 1, 2016

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Has the romance disappeared from your relationship? Are you wondering what happened to the guy you fell in love with? Thinking of trading him in on a new one?

Ladies, perhaps we need to take another look at this relationship that was so important and wonderful the day we walked down that wedding isle. Could be our man isn’t the only one who has been neglectful.

I was standing next to my book signing table in the local Christian Book store visiting with a young lady (seems everyone looks young to me these days!) and she said, “I’m going to buy one of yours books and it will be my next “lounging in the bath” reading material. I told her I also enjoyed a hot, bubbly bath but I don’t read in the bath. I like to light candles and turn the lights low to relax. I told her my husband sometimes goes ahead of me and lights the candles and prepares my bath water. She replied, “My husband used to do that for me, but he stopped some time ago”. I asked why he stopped and she didn’t know. I then said, “ Do you ever do this for Him?”

She was shocked at my question. She never thought to do this kind, romantic act for him, though she totally enjoyed when he pampered her in this way!

We can’t sit back waiting for our husband to suddenly realize the romance has disappeared from our lives. We need to take inventory of the things or actions that bring us pleasure and make us look at our husbands in a new loving light and know that he would probably enjoy the same things.

Now let’s get out our pen and note pads and brainstorm. I believe you will be surprised at some of the very simple things that bring a smile to your face and a glow to your heart. Let’s start by making a list of some of the little things we wish our husbands would do for us.


Important things for a woman

What are a few things a woman would think are actions of love

  • 0% Call during the day and invite me on a date! Yay! I don't have to cook tonight.
  • 0% Let me sleep in on the weekend. Keep the kids quiet!
  • 0% A bouquet of flowers-picked from my own garden is as good as a florist shop
  • 0% Perfumed candles, turn down the lights turn on some romantic music
  • 0% Wash my car, inside and out!
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Pick me a bouquet!

A few things we can do for HIM to show our love.

What might we do to make our man know he is special and loved.

  • 0% Wash his truck and leave a love note on the steering wheel
  • 0% Pick a bouquet, put it in a vase with a note telling him how much you love him.
  • 0% Invite him out to dinner and you pick up the tab. Open his car door for him-really shock him!
  • 0% · Mow the lawn before he gets a chance to.
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Let's hope he gets the idea!

Hopefully he will get the idea and the next time we are heading toward the bathtub, we will find our bath water hot and bubbly with peach scented candles filling the air.

I especially love the verses in 1 Corinthians 13: 4. These are often used as a portion of wedding ceremonies—chances are you repeated these verses to your spouse on your wedding day.

4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Excuse me now, I have to call my honey and invite him out for dinner and a movie before he makes other plans for the evening. Like maybe poker with the guys!

5 languages of Love

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

Words of Affirmation, Recieving of gifts, Acts of Service,Quality times, Physical touch. We each have our own need that when fulfilled we feel loved. I'm sure we all have the need for all this actions from our spouse, however, one will be more important than the others. My husband had already discovered this book when we met and as our relationship began to grow he handed me a copy one night and asked me to read it. He said he had really enjoyed it and felt he had learned a lot about relationships from Gary Chapmans ideas. I believe you will benifit greatly by reading and sharing it with those you love.



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    • Bettyoverstreet10 profile imageAUTHOR

      Betty (Alawine) Overstreet 

      5 years ago from Vacaville, Ca.

      Thanks so much for your comment and for following me on Hubpages. Did you see my new one today: A poem about spring being here

    • starstream profile image

      Dreamer at heart 

      5 years ago from Northern California

      Listen to your inner thoughts and enjoy one another every new day. It takes time to relate well.

    • Bettyoverstreet10 profile imageAUTHOR

      Betty (Alawine) Overstreet 

      6 years ago from Vacaville, Ca.

      Your response to my hub was so good , i had to read it again! I also needed to read my hub again to remind myself of all the things I no longer do!

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      6 years ago

      Excellent hub! Voted up, useful, and awesome!

      I just published one the other day regarding keeping a "Secret Lover's Calendar" for the romantically challenged as way to stay on track to (hold up their end) with regard to keeping the magic alive.

      Far too many women don't realize that men like to feel (desired), be seduced, and showered with attention from time to time. This is different from just being "available" or willing when he wants sex. It's about a woman being "proactive" in the romance and passion departments.

      I suspect part of the problem is many women feel it is beneath them to cater to a man even if it is their own husband! Most men aren't going to "ask" for these things nor are they going to run down to the courthouse to file for divorce if a woman does not do them. They may however be more open to other women who do flirt with them or make them feel sexy or special in some way. Nurturing a relationship is not "work". It 's a "labor of love". Keep the magic alive!

      "It's easier to maintain a fire than it is to reignite a spark!"


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