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Romance, Love, Where did it go?

Updated on August 6, 2013

Love is Romantic

Tips for total romance!

I am so unhappy! I just don't know where the romance went to in our relationship! She/he never seems to pay attention to me anymore.

How many times have you heard these laments from your friends, siblings or perhaps they have been playing in your own mind like a broken record? Are you tired of the thoughts and ready to do something about the situation?

Romance doesn't just die, it is killed by lack of interest and/or actions. So listen up while I suggest a few solutions.Listen to the one you love. What is she/he saying about their feelings? Let's make a list!

  • Act on the words you just heard; Reach out, we all need affection and if you don't need it then just know that your lover does; A simple touch on the shoulder as you pass in the hallway; A hug for no reason at all; a complement to let her/him know that you really like the fragrance as they walk up close by you.


Dress up when together

Dress up a little when you are going to be together shopping or running around town. You would do the same for a friend so why not for the love of your life. If you get a call from a friend who wants you to go somewhere with them , I bet you rush to change your clothes, brush your teeth and comb your hair. DO THE SAME FOR YOUR PARTNER! It is too easy to just jump in the car, still wearing those sweats that look like pajamas if she/he says lets run to the store.

Love words

  • Tell that special someone how much you appreciate the small things done for you as well as the spectacular ones. We all need to know we are appreciated.
  • Words of love are so important. Actions are great but words are equally necessary. I know my husband loves me, but I want to hear it in various little phrases:"Honey, I love being with you, no matter what we are doing." "Sweetheart, you have the cutest little ____ ______ ______ ." You fill in the blanks with the things that are so special to you about the person you are committed to.

Snuggle, hug, kiss

  • Snuggle at night before sleep overtakes you both. Even if you are unable, for some health reason to do more than snuggle, at least enjoy those moments being close and intimate. And never go to sleep on an arugument!
  • Sometimes, as you are raising children, or later if a grown child or parent needs to live in your house, it is difficult to find time to be alone. It is very important to set a time that is just for the two of you. It may be early in the morning before anyone else is awake when you can just sit and enjoy a cup of coffee together without interuptions or a particular time during the evening. Whenever you agreee will be your time do not let anything, short of an emergency, interupt you time together. One of my sisters and her husband designate 9:00pm as their "date time". All computers, telephones, etc. are turned off and they have a healthy snack and watch television or go to bed--what ever they are both in the mood for. They both know that at 9:00pm they will have each others undivided attention.

Fun doesn't have to mean Financial ruin!

There are so many things you can do together that cost very little or none at all. How about taking an afternoon, find a country road or bike path and just ride along enjoying nature together.

oooppppssss this is not the right bike for you to ride!

Beautiful waterfront for a walk!

WOW!  I enjoyed this waterfront walk!  Romantic for sure!
WOW! I enjoyed this waterfront walk! Romantic for sure!

How about a "Happy Hour" date!

If money is extremely short some days how about making a date to meet at a local restaurant that advertises "happy hour" from 4:00pm-6:00pm or such. Go in , order one of the half price drinks each, a plate of appetizers to share and just lean back, relax and enjoy each others company. There is no rule that you have to go out at night to have a drink together! After all--it's 5 o'clock somewhere, Right?

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      Hitesh Bubbar 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

      A real cool Hub. Ideal one for me ;) Though, I keep wondering how to break ice with anonymous ones... For example - I just don't get the courage to approach while on the street or at a party or in the office.... Any word on that?

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      Trish89 4 years ago

      This is such an important hub. We really do forget some of these things, as little as they may be, they are still so necessary!

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      Betty (Alawine) Overstreet 4 years ago from Vacaville, Ca.

      Dear Invincible, So happy you like the hub. In answer to your question: I don't know the rules of meeting in your country, so will have to speak from what is acceptable here. First, realize that the person you would like to meet is probably just as hesitant as you and anxious to meet a nice person like you. A smile, a simple hello, and if she/he responds then ask how they are today. At a party you can always offer to help them find the snacks or get them a drink. Think of that person as someone you would like to know as a friend, not as a possible mate. Keep it friendly and easy. Good luck!

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      Betty (Alawine) Overstreet 4 years ago from Vacaville, Ca.

      Happy you clicked in today! I plan to add to this hub as I think of something or if someone suggests an addition to it.

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      Hitesh Bubbar 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks for your advice ! I will look into that for sure.. :)

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      lizbeth39 4 years ago

      Very interesting article. Good suggestions

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      BERNARD LEVINE 4 years ago from RUIMSIG, SOUTH AFRICA

      Do you remember the first time that you kissed? Do you remember the romantic love-notes that you sent? Let's capture the beauty and excitement of true love and all those precious nostalgic moments.

      Imagine the look on your loved one's face

      discovering a secret love-note

      hidden in the fridge

      or when they find an apple

      that has a ribbon tied all-around it

      placed under a pillow.

      For a very exciting reaction, leave flower-petals

      floating in the bathwater.

      Do something special for your loved one today

      trying different pleasant ‘surprises'

      and the flame of love will burn forever brightly.

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      Betty (Alawine) Overstreet 4 years ago from Vacaville, Ca.

      Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving such great list of Romantic ideas. I am going to read these to my husband! He is pretty romantic but you mentioned some he hasn't tried yet. Oh yeah, I think I won't let him read this, I will just try them on him!

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